Most of us say the first thing that comes to mind. Rarely do we count the costs of the words we speak. Think about it, how many times have you spoken without thinking of the consequences of your words?
We’ve all been there, regretting the statement we just made, wishing we could take it back. Maybe even looking at the reaction of someone who heard and was shocked or hurt by the words we spoke or the way we said them.
Personally, I could not understand what the big deal was when I would speak honestly (without much of a filter) to people. Feelings would be hurt, they would end up with nasty attitudes or brush me off all together. What didn’t make sense to me was that, all I did was tell them what they already knew… the truth. The truth according to Annette’s interpretation of the situation that is. Perhaps that’s why my words were not received well in some cases, because I presented them in a ‘know it all’ fashion, what do you think?
Have you ever been so sure about a thing that it didn’t matter what the real facts were? Hahaha, who will be honest with me it’s just us here? Many a good marriage, friendship, or business relationship has been ruined by someone who thought they knew what they were talking about, and would not admit their mistake when faced with it. This is a bit off topic but important when being mindful of our words, the delivery of those words and the affect those words will have on others.
Our words are directly linked to our thinking, and our lives are directly linked to our words. In other words, what you think about, you talk about and what you talk about - you live. What you think about and talk about, you are about. Don’t take my word for it, let’s look at a couple of scripture references (KJV).
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he - Proverbs 23:7.
I know this scripture is talking about being mindful of the company you keep, but the section above is true in all our lives. You are what you think about, because what you think about you will talk about and ultimately live based on your words.
For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned - Matthew 12:37.
…for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh - Matthew 12:34
Our lives are directly effected by what we think and what we say. In fact, I will go as far as to declare that our words design our life experiences. Let me make it simple: if we think and speak about mostly negative things, our life experiences will be negative. On the other hand, if we think and speak mostly about positive things, we will enjoy a lifestyle that is full of positive experiences and happiness.
If you want to know what someone is thinking pay attention to their conversation. The words they speak will be a clear reflection of what’s on their mind. Take note of your own words and your thoughts will become visible. If you are concentrating on the state of the world, the devastation, despair and hopelessness, it will be evident in your conversations and countenance. You will begin to feel devastated and hopeless.
If you are thinking about sickness and disease, you will find yourself discussing illness often and may be sick yourself. I do believe that you can talk yourself to death! Your words are powerful and effective tools that can be used for your good or to kill you. Slowly but surely killing off parts of your life, till nothing is left.
If you are thinking about how blessed you are, you will be talking about being grateful for all the good in your life, for your family, friends, income, home, health - and more good will be your reality. Take a look at this,
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true , whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue (moral excellence/admirable quality), and if there be any praise, think on these things - Philippians 4:8.
We have to elevate our thinking if we want to live a lifestyle which is above everyday circumstances (issues). We have to keep our thoughts in check so that our words are reflective of what we want and not the opposite.
What did you say?
This is a question we need to ask ourselves daily, so that we are mindful of what we are concentrating on and talking about. Our words are powerful and alive, yes I said your words have life in them and if not policed will take you down a path of evil not good, death not life. I want to add, the words you speak directly effect you but, the people around you are indirectly affected by what you say as well.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof - Proverbs 18:21.
A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit - Proverbs 15:4.
Whoso keepeth his mouth and tongue keepeth his soul from troubles - Proverbs 21:23.
Out of the same mouth proceeded blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be - James 3:10.
What did you say?
Did you say you are having an awful day? Did you say times are so hard you don’t know if you can make it? Did you say you are sick and may not recover? Did you say your marriage is over? Did you say you will probably be fired soon? Did you say there is no hope for your child?
What did you say, my friend?
Did you say I am glad to see a new day? Did you say this illness will not get the best of me? Did you say I love my spouse and our marriage can be saved? Did you say the economy may be bad, but I’m grateful for my job/income? Did you say God is good to me and my family? Did you say my child will be saved?
Can you see the difference your life experiences will be based on the thoughts you have and the words you speak?
I’ve known for over thirty years that my words are a powerful force in my life and the lives of others. When I began monitoring my words I came face to face with my thoughts. I would look at my circumstances and react to what I thought might happen. Most of the time it wasn’t as bad as I assumed it would be, and could have always turned out better if I had been proactive in my thinking, concentrating on the good instead of assuming the worst.
By the way assume means, to accept without proof. I had no proof it would turn out bad, but because I thought it would or assumed it would - it did. Now let me clarify, because I thought it would turn out bad, I did nothing to work toward a more favorable outcome. When we are convinced (in our mind/thoughts) about anything good or bad, we move toward that belief. If we believe it will be good we behave as if we already have the good. If we believe it will be bad we get depressed, sad, mad, we behave as if we already have the bad. We are about what we think and talk about - no matter who we are.
I know it may seem to some that the subject has changed, but your thoughts are what you believe about a thing. And what you believe in you talk about and act on.
What did you say?
I know you have already begun to think about your thoughts and words, that’s great! Now as you are slower to speak, you can redirect your words to reflect the positive outcome you want and now expect….every time.
Think about what you want to see in your life and the lives of those around you. It helps me to write down my positive thoughts, turning them into affirmations that I revisit often to keep my mind on track. As your thoughts become clearer, start saying aloud what you want to see and your life will begin to reflect what you say.
Therefore I say unto you, what things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them - Mark 11:24.
What did you say?
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