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The Only Way is Up: The Journey of an Immigrant
by Folake Taylor   

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Publisher:  Arrabon Publishing ISBN-10:  0982667205 Type: 


ISBN-13:  9780982667200

The Only Way is Up

A self-help and motivational book targeting all women, African Americans and Immigrants.

This book features the author’s experiences and views on pertinent life issues as an immigrant to the United States of America. The objective is to empower women. However, the greater part of the message is of relevance to a general audience. Some of the issues that are the focus of this book are:

  • Identity
  • Health & Preventive medicine
  • Finding a mate
  • Relationships & Family
  • Single parenthood
  • Teenage pregnancies
  • Gender roles
  • Diet & Nutrition
  • Global exposure
  • Positivity & Loving yourself
  • Spirituality
  • Life outside the United States
  • And much more…
I came to this country with three hundred dollars to my name! Even though I had graduated from medical school and been through one year of rotational internship in my country of origin, the exchange rate of our currency to the dollar left much to be desired and my pocket wanting. After paying for my airline ticket to the United States and stop-ping over in my country of birth for a week, that was all that was left. Little did I know that people depended on cars so much in the United States. This is quite unlike the situation in Europe and other places where affordable public transportation is the main means of transport.
I had a place to live rent free for a while and I was told to come with a low maintenance hairstyle, as black hair is expensive to maintain. This incidentally is where I am now with the hair–full circle with what I call my wash ‘n’ go hair! What I was not told however was that I could not get any-where without a car in much of the Atlanta metro area. This was a matter of necessity and not a choice, as buses in the suburbs are non-existent or sparse at best.
I need to make one distinction here. My country of birth is the United Kingdom and that is the citizenship with which I made my entry into this country. And while that helped me in some situations, it did nothing for my immi-gration status. I was just another non-American.
I was born in Birmingham. Not in Alabama but in the West Midlands in the United Kingdom to Nigerian born parents while my father was studying for his doctorate in the seventies, thus making Nigeria my country of origin and giving me dual citizenship. Alright, it is not the usual rags to riches story and I am by no means the first person in my family to get an education. It was never rags but there were no riches either. Education was not the problem. It was a plan. I was going to have an education. But how many people have done all the right things and not only did it not translate to financial success, it also meant a lot of debt? I am sure you know several if you’re not one yourself. And in this economy, it is hard to catch up with any significant debt. I found myself in that boat.
As I came into this country, I effectively dropped from middle to lower class and stayed there for at least three years if not more. The glory does not come easy. There are no handouts. You have to work for it. I had experienced something close initially when I graduated from medical school in Nigeria and had moved to another city. For the first time, I had my old car by myself and had to pay bills, buy groceries and clothes, do my hair, pay for insurance, buy gas and fix the car when it broke. I quickly realized I could not afford the life I had previously lived on the allow-ance from my parents. I could always take food and other things from home in addition to my allowance. But now I had a real job, not a summer job. I was a big girl and I had to act like it. The reality of a drop in my standard of living however was nothing like when I moved to the United States. That was a jolt, the real reality check.
I love to help people. I help people directly for a living in fact. I also have always loved to write. So, maybe I can do both! Maybe I can be of assistance to people through my writing. I have spent a considerable amount of time on facebook and twitter in recent times discussing controversial issues and shedding light on various situations, though the jury is still out on twitter. I might as well channel that energy to my number one goal of helping to uplift people….
I did not pursue that fleeting thought of majoring in Psychology or even of specializing in Psychiatry after medi-cal school but I manage to find time to counsel sobbing patients out of the ten to fifteen minute allotted visit time. It almost feels like I draw patients who need to sob nowadays. They really do come to me to tell me what is wrong in their life and appreciate my input. It is a blessing, and I do not take the gift for granted. Some patients chose–or at least try–to stop going to their Psychiatrist because they feel I help them that much. I have to urge them to trust me on this because their Psychiatrist painstakingly invested several years in specializing in that field!
I decided to write this book as I lay in bed at the Nor-mandie in San Juan, Puerto Rico beside my twenty month old who was out cold after a busy day out and about, as my husband watched the Lakers versus Denver semi-finals NBA game in the lobby. So, there I was watching Larry King Live, barely able to hear so as not to wake little Jordan.
Three females–Cheryl Sabang, Lisa Ling and Della Reese–were in the studio with Larry King on a panel and many others weighed in by satellite. Deepak Chopra and Lisa Nichols were also part of the discussion. The topic was Women & Self Worth: Defining One's Self Could Be the Key to Complete Success. They spoke my mind. It was no coinci-dence.
I started my first chapter on my blackberry right there. We had no laptop that weekend as my husband would not bring one, so as to really be off work!
Incidentally, earlier that same day in San Juan, I had taken many pictures of my husband and our little girl. And even as I was taking those pictures and watching the dy-namics of their interaction, I had given a lot of thought to confidence and self worth with regard to our little girl and how happy and content she was most of the time. I thought about how to maintain that contentment as well as her father's role as her protector. I had pictured in my mind how he would be the one to primarily teach her how to hold her own in dealing with any man–how to hold her head up high and command respect from a man, from anybody. He would show her as my father did me, how it feels to be treated like a lady, thus raising the bar so that she will never settle for less.
All the while, I was trying to envision his role in her future success through the confidence he can instill in her, which helps to buttress what I teach her about being a woman. This is because it all begins with believing in her-self. The sense of self worth we help instill will breed confi-dence which then translates to success. When others see that confidence, they will believe in her. I have never lacked confidence or believed there was something I couldn’t do if I put my heart to it. I was raised that way.
I had thought about how I intended to raise her to be-lieve everything was possible and even the sky is not the limit. I have a confession. I stole that line from my brother. He always said since the age of sixteen:
“The sky is not the limit.”
He came up with an idea for a company at eighteen when he graduated from university as a Computer Engineer. That company is Antigravity. Yes, my brother is a genius–I can accept that.
I remember some quotes from Larry King Live that night even as I could barely hear the discussion. Thankfully there was also an online transcript. Here are a few of the more memorable quotes:

“It's important for a woman to be able to say, ‘I can take care of myself completely.’ That way, everything else is a gift.”
–Lisa Ling
Author and Oprah show correspondent

“Be yourself. Whoever you are, be that. Don't try to be something to make somebody else aware of you. Don't try to be something to make somebody else appreciate you. Just be you, because you're unique. There’s not another like me and never will be. And if you like what I got, you got to come to me to get it, ’cause ain't nobody else got none of it.”
–Della Reese
Author, singer and ordained minister

“I believe that we are the first examples of how the world is supposed to treat us. That the way that I treat myself, the way that I view myself, the way that I love on myself or the way that I choose not to love on myself, I'm an example to how others can and will treat me. And most of the time, we walk around as women looking for others to validate us and to validate who we are. And it's not until we fall in love with ourselves and then we become the example to others of how they're supposed to love us that the world will really begin to honor and celebrate us. We are the first examples. That's what self worth is about.
–Lisa Nichols
Humanitarian, motivational speaker and author

Lisa Ling had this to say about herself–she struggles to let her husband do anything for her, even pay for a meal! That is one extreme. But then she did describe herself as a fierce feminist. We are a product of where we have been. Something made her that way.
Now, am I the only person that noticed each of these women is an author? Well, I just joined them!
My parents raised me to feel I could fly–and I do love the song I believe I can fly though I cannot say the same for the artist behind it, R. Kelly. I could walk into a room and be the only female or the only black person and not even really notice. It is obviously not a strange thing to be the only African in the building.
If anyone ever tries to put me down or make me feel less than what I am, I immediately retort with an appropriate and fierce answer. I do this of course, without actually being ugly to the person. It is this kind of confidence that can make me pick myself up, buy a ticket and move out here as a single unattached female with all of my immediate family back in Nigeria. It did not matter. I could face anything.
And that is why it baffles me when I see some Americans who are hale and hearty that have no idea how to take advantage of the vast opportunity this country has to offer. This subclass of Americans instead capitalize on a sense of entitlement and just sit back and let the system take care of them. For many, it’s an attitude that has been passed down to them and they are unaware it is possible to live a different and better life.
Unlike many families in the United States, I did not know many single parent families when I grew up. I definite-ly knew some but it was not even nearly the norm and mostly it would be because a parent had died. I will touch more on how and why this is a big problem later on.

And I believe this concludes my first chapter, typed up on my blackberry. That by the way, is light years from the lady who came to this country in May of the year 2000–exactly nine years ago–without a personal email address or ever owning a personal computer. I was literally petrified of the one my parents had at home. I definitely did not own any cell phone then.
The fact that my mother is a writer may somewhere in my subconscious have something to do with it–Mary E. Modupe Kolawole, author of Womanism and African Con-sciousness. Maybe this is my destiny!
I have to stop for now however. I have bilateral carpal tunnel syndrome and this kind of restricted repetitive mo-tion is exactly what the doctor did not recommend!

Professional Reviews

Midwest Book Review: A moving tale that shows pride in one’s new favored country
From around the world, people come to America to embrace its treasures. “The Only Way Is Up” is a memoir of Folake Taylor as she reflects on her status as an American woman coming to the country from the United Kingdom, born to Nigerian immigrants. A moving tale that shows pride in one’s new favored country, “The Only Way Is Up” is a fine read of keeping one’s chin up, answering life’s questions.

APEX Reviews: A Compelling Memoir Rife With Invaluable Insights
A native of the United Kingdom, Folake Taylor arrived in the United States with only three hundred dollars to her name; however, as a med school graduate with a fiercely undeterred will, she was determined to live the American Dream – and she refused to let any challenge or potential setback prevent her from doing so. As a result, years later she is now a successful MD who has made it her life’s mission to help others live happy, healthy, productive lives, and throughout the pages of her new memoir, The Only Way Is Up, she dispenses invaluable advice and sage suggestions that do just that.

Taking on everything from health to spirituality to the natural order of relationships, The Only Way Is Up is rife with compelling insights on the realities of life in America. What makes Taylor’s observations especially refreshing, though, is the fact that she wields them from an “outsider’s” perspective: as an immigrant to the U.S., she has the advantage of being familiar with the folkways and mores of lifestyles beyond the borders of this country, and the juxtaposition of the different customs provides her with a panoramic view of both their significance and relevance to one another. Furthermore, readers are sure to find Taylor’s direct, forthright approach a welcome change from other offerings that tend to sugarcoat some of the more difficult realities with which we must all contend every day.

Engaging and enlightening, The Only Way Is Up is an eye-opening take on the familiar peaks and valleys through which we all traverse in life – told from the unique perspective of one who has been to the extremes of both.

Krystal Pearson
Apex Reviews

T. Green of
The Only Way is Up is a subjective comparison of cultures between Nigeria and the United States of America through the eyes of the author, Folake Taylor. She was born to Nigerian parents and raised in the United Kingdom. It is through travel and her parents' teachings that she was able to draw on this comparison.

This is not your traditional literary-based memoir complete with multiple characters and conflict. This book was written in a way one would write a journal; a log of thoughts and concerns. I think that immigrants, both men and women, would find it useful as a sense of comfort and it would also be entertaining. At first, I thought the author was just unhappy with the United States but as I read on, I found that this was not the case. Taylor simply identified differences just as anyone on the outside would. The author is well-traveled and as an underlying theme, she teaches how you can use travel as a source of education. It seems that travel in the U.S. is a privilege when you compare it to all other life responsibilities. In Nigeria, it seems to be a part of the learning process.

Written in just 150 pages, The Only Way is Up comes with a bibliography that surrounds the topics in her book: marriage, relationships, diet and nutrition to name a few. She draws on her career as physician to suggest alternative life style choices. Thanks to the real life examples and current events, this book is relatable and some of the topics can be debatable making it ideal for any book club.

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