Dancing in Your Bubble gives you the benefits of a retreat experience on your own time and space. This book draws on Teri's experiences from working with many clients and students. With this book, you can benefit from the experiences of a healing retreat program. These simple tools will help with every day life. Empower Yourself. Step beyond ideas of powerlessness and sinfulness. Step into your own power and embrace the totality of self through altered perspectives. “Dancing” offers practical applications that promote self knowledge and insight that can be adapted to any world view or spiritual practice. Teri takes us through these simple and practical teachings step by step. Each chapter discovers deeper aspects of these healing tools. Clear language and comprehensive descriptions create a unique approach to self-healing and growth. Each chapter of this personal spiritual workbook is filled with exercises and activities that promote self-discovery.
·Understanding the energy bubble created by our lives and past experiences
·Identifying and re-creating the organizing themes that resonate through our lives
·Taking in refined and nourishing energy and releasing heavy obstructive energies
·Connecting to the power of natural energy sources
·Letting go of guilt and defeating self judgment
·Using myths, dreams and storytelling to create understanding
A cell receptor has a very specific “lock” or keyhole shape, and only a specific, designated key will fit into the lock-receptor.
The idea behind healing at the energetic levels is to “change the locks”, or to debug the system. Each one of us has a perfect sacred operating system. Imprints are like viruses, sending out false information, that keep up from being in an optimal state of peace and happiness. More about that later.
A wound can be real or perceived. It might be an imagined rejection, loss, or betrayal. But reality is what we perceive it to be- and if the individual perceives that- then that becomes their reality. Also, wounds, or energetic pre-dispositions can be inherited. How many of us, at some point, realize we have become our parents? Energetic tendencies can also be racial or ancestral; and like family heirlooms, get passed down for many generations- becoming as prized and cherished as the picture of great great great grandfather who crossed on the mayflower, or fought in some ancient battle in another country
These traits or dynamics that are vibrations or resonances transmitting from your energy field out into the world around you. This is going on all the time, whether you are aware of it, or intending it. It is how we can look across a crowded room and single out a specific person.
I had this happen myself, many years ago. One weekend, I had a very last minute invitation.
There was a dinner and medieval dancing and all the usual revelry associated with these sorts of events. At one point, I had one of those proverbial moments, of looking across the room and saying “That’s the one.” My friends didn’t believe me at the time, since I never dated or showed any interest in romantic relationships. We lived together for 4 ••• years, had our own business, house and property, before splitting up. So, I know it does happen. Call it Fate, call it karma, but there is definitely more to the universe than meets the eye.
I have very much to be grateful for, even given the downside of the relationship and its demise. That time moved my life forward tremendously, in many ways. Even geographically. I often joke that I think the Universe just wanted to find a way to get me back to Vermont, and that Lorin was the most expedient route for making that happen. And then having accomplished that, it said- nope, we have bigger plans for you. Lose the guy!
But I was able to resolve a lot of inherited tendencies, learned behaviours. Taming my own impatience and temper was one of them. I learned how not to engage in arguments, but to address relevant issues, which happened spontaneously for me one afternoon during a minor bickering incident. Lorin came into the house in a frothing tantrum, and something in me just disengaged. He frothed for a few minutes, while I had stepped back, energetically, waiting patiently, before asking him: Are you through? At which point he began to froth again. At the end of that, I asked- So, what is the problem? 6
When he realized that I was not engaging in his energetic episode, something deflated, or de-escalated. And he just stopped, answered the question, and we resolved the difficulty he was having in his shop. It was the last time we ever had an emotional argument. Disagreements perhaps, but not the same sort of personal emotional clashes. This was something I certainly never learned from my parents, who perpetually bickered and argued without ever really seeming to achieve resolution, that I could see.
But something shifted in me, that afternoon. Some need to be right, perhaps? In that moment, I was able to disengage and step back, and not feel like I needed to prove or accomplish anything. It was almost like being a spectator, watching someone else’s show or performance. But in terms of our relationship- we discussed and resolved all things between us in a good way. We ended our relationship with respect and closure. In fact, that was one thing I made sure of as we were separating our assets out. I was determined not to walk away carrying a lot of unresolved issues. Ironically, we were closer in those last weeks than we had ever been when in the relationship, as though both sides were able to talk about things that were never able to be said before. I felt bad, and I felt sad, but knew that it was time to move on. Fortunately both of us were able to do this without creating worse energetics that followed us.
When talking with clients, who are caught up in some sort of engagement, I usually ask them, why are they dancing with it? Because it is very much like a dance, a flow, a give and take, an engagement requiring a partner in an intricate pattern. A metaphor I often use to describe engagements is that is it like ‘playing tug of war.” It requires both sides in agreement to play. If one side puts down the rope, the other side, the other person, has nothing to pull against, no one to play with, or fight with. And in regards to real life situations, if they are determined to play, then they must find another partner.
One thing that often helps clients in the process of dis7
engaging from energetic or emotional encounters is the understanding that whatever someone puts out there: whatever emotion or behaviour… it is always their own issues. You did not make them angry, you did not ruin their day, or wreck their life. On the flip side of that equation however: what you do with it, is your stuff. How you choose to respond or receive someone else projections, how you experience it: that is your own: your dance. In the same way that you did not make them angry- no one makes you angry, happy, or sad. As much as we make choices every day at the physical level- what television show to watch, who our friends are etc—we also make decisions at the emotional and energetic levels. These are the things we choose to dance with.
Generally, this is more often unconscious or so spontaneous that we are not even aware that there is a moment when we could make a choice to react one way or another way. To respond to something or not to respond at all. These instantaneous emotional reactions are our energetic memories of past situations that are energetically similar, evoking a past reaction into a present moment. This helps us to mirror or shape this event to fit that previous pattern, or keyhole.
One of the big differences with working at the energetic level, is that we don’t need or want to be stuck in the story, to be stuck in the past. The belief in this approach to healing, is that the more energy that is spent revisiting an emotional event- the more powerful that event, or energetic beacon, becomes. We want to remove that beacon energetically, so that it no longer attracts that specific dynamic to it anymore. In automotive terms, this energetic beacon wants to hijack the steering wheel, or at the very least, be a back seat driver, whispering in your ear while you are trying to drive.
One of the ways to remove the power of these beacons is to begin to understand them in terms of dynamics, rather than the facts of the story. In doing this, we are raising it up to a higher level, out of the literal and physical level of the events 8
that happened. This also helps us to step back from the emotional charge it has.
Make a list of past traumatic events, with a brief description in order to identify it.
Dancing In Your Bubble
As the owner of a holistic wellness center, I am always looking for books that challenge and educate the reader. This book is the only one of its kind that I have seen, bringing often complicated and confusing spiritual ideas into real world usefulness through clear explanations and practical exercises. Teri brings a down-to-earth, you-can-do-it approach to Dancing In Your Bubble. From the beautiful cover art to the top-notch writing, this book will definitely help you define your own bubble. I would recommend this book without hesitation. Now--get this book and start dancing!
Dancing with Ideas
Teri's book offers a wide variety of ways to approach learning about yourself and your place in the world. The background materials are helpful and easily understood, translating many difficult concepts into terms that make sense for us, today. As I read the book, I had the feeling that the author was dancing with the ideas that she shares, helping the reader see them from a variety of angles. The exercises included in the body of the book are great and cover a lot of ground, so if one is not particularly helpful to you, there is probably something else that will be more useful to you. Dance with this book, let it work on you and with you - enjoy!