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From the subtopic: Understanding Men
...Another thing that women must know about men is that we take care of ourselves first. Men don't usually tend to be caught up into drama. We keep our personal business to ourselves rather than seeking attention for it. We strive to be brave and to show no weakness, ever. So often, women remark about their partners, “Getting him to talk is like pulling tooth and nails.” By nature, men are controlled and competitive; keeping our emotions to ourselves. Women, though, are hard-wired to talk and get out their feelings, which might be the one reason they seem to live longer. They don't hold things in. But, here's a tip ladies; learn how to contain your power and don't let it leak all over the place. A woman who talks too much sheds her allure, slowly but surely. Most men aren't ready to take care of all your problems. For a man, listening to a woman's problems is a lot of work, because he feels like he has no choice but to try and solve them. Women are naturally caregivers. It is a wonderful trait to be loving and caring, but you mustn't be afraid to be a bit selfish. On the other hand, women seem to believe that the more they do for a man, the more he will appreciate her and want to be with her. Not so. He will probably be grateful, and he will expect you to take care of all the details, all of the time.

When in the early stages of dating, never do for a man what he can do for himself. You have a life and a career to tend to as well. It's nice to reciprocate if he takes you out a lot. Be classy like you would be with your girlfriend, but don't start acting like his mommy and take care of everything.

Men ease into relationships. We don't usually go exclusive with a woman after only a few dates. We like to keep our options open and see what else is out there. Women are too quick to say, “I just met someone and we really hit it off, he's everything that I'm looking for.” Seriously?

Men don't discuss everything. We don't talk about relationships or where things are going. Most men don't even believe in love at first sight; but lust at first sight is a whole other thing. Women have to be sure that a man has the qualities she's looking for. And stop asking where the relationship is going because if you feel the need to ask all the time, I can tell you that it's going nowhere. I hear so many women referring to their boyfriend, or talking about how they are in a relationship with a guy, and they just met him three weeks ago. Until you have been dating exclusively for at least several months, you are not in a relationship, you are simply dating.

Men don't over analyze things, including their dates. Women will try to figure out what the guy meant when he said this or that, or what it meant when he called at a certain time. It's exhausting to keep up with all that crap. Men, however, just go about their merry way, dating and having a good time while women are driving themselves crazy trying to be psychic, psychiatrist, or mind readers about every little thing he say so or does.

Lastly, men don't have any problems with dating a woman with supermodel looks while they themselves could stand to hit the gym, go for a run or do anything to lose fifty pounds. Actually, it would be great if women could have the same self-esteem as men. They wouldn't feel the need to be validated by a man every single day. Never once have I ever heard any male friend of mine ask me whether he looked fat or if I liked his hair or outfit. Most men are perfectly fine with the way they look. They are what they are, and they happily go about their business of trying to pick up smoking hot chicks, so much so that they will hold off getting married for years and years until they find precisely what they want.