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LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP How To Avoid Marrying a Toad! This incredible little book can change your life! Discover that Your life is NOT someone else’s fault. Create the Relationship of Your Dreams!
“You’ve got to have a dream!
If you don’t have a dream,
How you gonna have a dream come true?”
From Rodgers & Hammerstein’s South Pacific
Ah spring! Love is in the air and nature’s beauty beckons. Georgie blinks his big brown eyes in wonder and high expectation as he tries to clear the last of the winter’s mud away from the entrance to his humble little abode. All the RSVP’s have come back and absolutely everybody’s going to be there! “I’m really nervous, but I’m also incredibly happy… and out of my mind excited!” He shouts out-loud to himself. “But arranged marriages, I wonder who invented that? Well, they say in India they really work well. Something about having your astrology chart done to find the right match.” “But this isn’t India. This is heartland. This is Indiana! No time to think about that right now. I’ve got to get dressed and get down to the pond.” Outdoor weddings are definitely in this spring. Georgie arrives early, and already the place is hopping. Lavish platters are piled high with exotic bugs. All his best buddies are there with their new brides. It’s a glorious day for nuptials. “There she is! Wow, what a dress. It’s gorgeous! I wonder what she really looks like under that veil? Well, I’ll soon find out!” The old minister hops down the isle and takes out his holy text. Right on cue the little bluebirds begin to sing. And at last the long awaited moment has arrived. “She’s walking right toward me!” And with his heart pounding Georgie hears through the emotional haze words about “love” and “loyalty”, and then hears himself saying, “I do.” The old minister then looks up, smiles and says, “And now you may kiss your bride.” Georgie steps forward and lifts back his new bride’s veil and looks lovingly and expectantly into her big dark eyes. Then his mind screams in terror. “Oh No! She’s a toad!!!” But just like in ponds and meadows all over Indiana, and in India, too, for that matter, toads always marry other toads. Of course, that’s what Georgie is, too! So that’s the point. Like draws like. And that’s exactly the way it works in relationship. You draw someone in relationship at your own level of woundedness. Or stated another way, you draw someone in relationship that matches your psychological, emotional and spiritual level of development. Although it doesn’t always look that way! Often our souls draw seeming opposites as a way of creating learning that can help us move toward eventual wholeness. The two sides of this coin are really one coin. They just look entirely different. A wounded abuser draws a wounded soul with a matching victim’s consciousness. Therefore the more complete and whole we are individually, the more complete and whole will be our partner. And that’s what we’re striving to become through the process of relationship. So there’s the fundamental truth that shines its light in the direction you need to go in order to have the self-discovery, self-healing and self-transformation that will at last fulfill your longing for a healthy, intimate, joyous and love saturated relationship. Therefore, I boldly say that this little book can change your life. Not because it’s my book, but because it is based upon universal truth and universal laws which come from the All-Knowing Benevolent Source of our universe. And just like gravity, whether you believe it or not, isn’t the issue, its laws and structures apply to us all regardless, all the time and without exception. Yet the key element in whether or not this book will be helpful to you will be determined by your own free will choices to apply the higher principles that I’ll be offering you. For I know, without doubt, that if you’ll make a conscientious effort to apply these principles you will be able to change your consciousness; and in so doing be able to draw to yourself the wonderful and fulfilling relationship that you’re seeking. And in the process you will also uncover a deeper and more authentic sense of who you really are! You and I are fortunate to be living at a very special time. One that is now ripe with fresh opportunity for both personal and spiritual re-discovery. We have all come into this world to improve and reform our understanding of how life works and then practice putting the new understandings we gain to work in the crucible of our daily lives in order to prove or disprove their relative value in bringing us increasing joy, wisdom and contentment. When we start to understand how we actually create the conditions of our lives through the all-powerful forces of our thoughts, desires and will power, we can then begin to consciously restructure our thoughts and desires so that they will begin to guide us more successfully toward what is best for us in every situation. By learning to apply the universal principles I’m going to share with you, you will not only become more successful in relationship, but you will significantly progress in the advancement of other essential character traits. Traits like unconditional love, patience, inclusiveness, courage, wisdom, forgiveness, compassion and service to the greater good. When you take this high road, the conscious, soul guided road, you will accelerate your assimilation of even greater gifts of love and wisdom that you will find continually flowing to you through the interactive nature of relationship. Here even higher levels of intimacy can be achieved that bring sharing, caring, loving and unconditional trust and support that make the angels catch their breath. In a phrase, it becomes holy. These are the lofty regions where two egos are not as much in relationship as are two souls! All of this and more can be gained through the highest expressions of relationship; and therefore the potential of relationship offers you one of the most rewarding journeys you will evertake. Absolutely everything you are seeking awaits you! You need only uncover what the variables are in order to begin creating the new thought patterns and their resultant actions that will remodel your consciousness and consequently, your life! In this way, you will find that you can begin to dramatically reform your life from the inside out; which is the only true way to achieve a lasting self-transformation. A transformation that will lead you to a fuller and more authentic expression of who you really are, a joyous and rapidly evolving soul, someone who has two unique gifts to give in this world: one, through your service to the greater world family, and the other in the intimate sanctuary of relationship. To get to where you really want to go requires us to light the way with truth. There is no other way. For without a total commitment to truth, honesty and self-discovery you’ll end up following many a false map scribbled by your ego’s illusions; illusions that will only deliver you to the land of increasing ignorance, confusion, disappointment and pain. And, I can tell you first hand that this land is far more than a geographic metaphor, for I was long a self-imposed prisoner on those isles of self-deception. The good news is that even pain can be appreciated if it helps you learn the lessons that it offers. Consequently, my hope in offering you this book is that it will encourage you to be wiser than I was by putting these truths to work in your life now while your heart and mind are receptive. If you do, you’ll immediately intuit a joyous roar of approval welling up from within as all your angels jump to their feet to cheer you on your way! One more thing before we begin. If you happen to be a dominantly linear personality you’re in for a consciousness-expanding ride. For the road to a healthy and idyllic relationship is not a road that goes straight from point A to point B. Rather it’s a journey that will lead you in many different directions and often at the same time. Here’s a metaphor that will paint a picture for you of what I mean. Imagine with me that your consciousness is represented by an infinite dark wall. Each time you gain some new understanding, you create a window in that wall where the light of your new insight pours through. Then as you begin to create more and more portals into the unknown, you not only get more and more individual pieces of understanding, but you also, like a mosaic, gradually begin to see and understand the larger picture to which all the individual pieces are each contributors. In this way I’ll be focusing on creating and expanding several different openings in the wall of your consciousness with the intent that by the end of our journey together you’ll have a more complete and soul-empowering vision of what the greatest relationships can be and how you can actually integrate this vision into your life in order to experience its great abundance of love and joy. To create this larger canvas for you I’ll be using lots of stories and metaphors to give you insights and pictures that will more easily engage your feeling nature and stimulate your intuition, which alone can take you to those farther horizons where you will be better able to look out upon your soul’s unfettered potential in wordless awe and wonder!