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Tina B. Tessina, self-help author, therapist
The inside scoop on getting back into the dating scene. Unbiased, no-nonsense advice on making dating fun, safe and successful. All the facts you need to take control of your dating life, no matter your age or experience. Special advice for single parents, online dating, sexual safety.
MANY PEOPLE are going through a very tough
period in their lives. They are single---again.
People who haven’t dated for a while are in for a shock. The rules have changed. How do you get started? Where do you go to meet new people? What are the unwritten rules? What if you're a single or divorced parent? And what about......sex?
Discovering Tina Tessina’s ‘Unofficial Guide To Dating Again’ is the lucky break they need. Here's how to meet, greet and compete in today's dating world, complete with strategies for success and safety. The inside scoop for making dating fun and worthwhile. Tips that are specifically tailored to your age, situation and personal preferences.
Chapters cover: Dating Again: Exciting--- and Terrifying!
The problems, and How to Overcome Them
Developing Your Dating Skills: Knowing what you want, and who you're looking for.
Where to Go: Smart places to look for that special someone -- and have fun doing it!
The Dating Process: brushing up your skills, flirting, making contact, what to wear -- where, sexual smarts. How to keep the dating going.
Dating Dilemmas: Dealing with children, making sure you're safe, solving couple problems, breaking up.
Happy Ever After: How to create a strong foundation for a lasting relationship.
You may have picked up this guide for one of several reasons: either you are contemplating dating again, you’re recently out of a relationship, or you’re thinking of getting out of one. Whichever reason fits, if it’s been a while since you last dated, or if you think you could do it better, you need facts, techniques and answers. We’ll cover all the basics, some things you already know, and many things you never thought of.
If you are not currently married, you are certainly not alone.
According to the U. S. Census Bureau 1996 report, “Half of American adults (77 million people!) are single, and the currently divorced population is the fastest growing marital status category -- It has more than quadrupled from 1970. In 1996, 44.9 million adults age 18 and over had never been married, more than twice the number in 1970.
“Never-married adults accounted for 23 percent of all adults, and made up the largest share (59 percent) of the unmarried population in 1996, followed by those who were divorced (24 percent) and those who were widowed (18 percent)."
While (and to an extent, because) the number of unmarried people has risen dramatically, social mores have also changed drastically. Women have far more social approval and freedom today for doing what they want than in 1965, and, as we have seen endlessly in the media, there is a much more relaxed attitude toward sexuality, living together, relationships and courtship.
The 1996 Census Bureau statistics show that “the number of unmarried-couple households (couples of the opposite sex) has grown seven-fold since 1970, and the proportion of children under 18 years living with two parents has declined from 85 percent to 68 percent between 1979 and 1996.(ibid)
These dramatic changes in the census counts have been accompanied by equally dramatic changes in what we expect from relationships, how long they last, and how we find them.
So, if it’s been any length of time since you last dated, there are a lot of changes you’ll need to know about.
Why are you dating again?
You never thought you’d be dating again, but, like so many others today, you are on your own, and you don’t know where to begin. Don’t worry, there are lots of other people in the same situation. Whether you have just had a relationship breakup, a divorce, your partner or spouse recently passed away , or you have simply not been dating for a while, you can find what you need here. We will give you the information you need to find suitable people to date, an effective dating process to follow, the current attitudes and etiquette about dating, and the know-how to feel confident about your dating skills.
For many years, dating was something done by young people, during high school or college, and the expectation was that they would find partners and settle down before too long. But, as the Census Bureau quotes show, more people than ever are waiting longer to marry, and/or becoming single later in life, and so the dating phase has been extended into adulthood, middle age and even the senior year. Adults who are dating again are often parents with minor children. Whatever stage of life you are in, if you have found yourself single, and want to date again, this is the book for you.