Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage!
"With a Ph.D., eight books, and 30 years of counseling experience under her belt, [Redbook Love Expert] Tina [Tessina] has a lot to say about the everydays of life and love." --Redbook.ivillage.com.
Have a workable,satisfying relationship without arguing or fighting.
Money, Sex and Kids Coming in 2007 from Adams Press!
ISBN 10: 1598693255 • ISBN 13: 978-1598693256
"With a Ph.D., eight books, and 30 years of counseling experience, under her belt, [Redbook Love Expert] Tina [Tessina] has a lot to say about the everydays of life and love." --Redbook.ivillage.com
In this book, you'll learn to view your relationship as a partnership, rather than a challenge or a competition, and you'll discover new ways to think about sharing and working together to make all your decisions about money, sex, and kids mutual ones. With a little information and practice, you can become a successful, happy couple. The point of this Money, Sex and Kids is to show you how to create a partnership in which you'll feel blessed and happy. Here you'll learn to understand why you and your partner argue and the remaining skills you need to enhance your relationship and transform your struggles into working together to create a smoothly working partnership.
With this book, you'll be able to resolve your issues about money, sex, and kids, and move on to having a workable, satisfying relationship, with minimal or no arguing or fighting.
The Three Big Temptations
How often have you heard yourself and your spouse make these complaints about each other:
“You don’t listen.”
“You spend too much money.”
“You never want to have sex.”
“You’re always at work; you never come home to spend time with the family.”
“You’re too harsh with the kids.”
“You let the kids do whatever they want.”
If you and your spouse are fighting about or struggling with these issues, you are not alone.
In my counseling practice, I see many couples, much like you, voicing these complaints over and over.
In every marriage, the main struggles are similar: Like you, other couples also fight about money, sex, and kids, with fights about territory, power. and other people following close behind. If you’re feeling tense, worried, stressed, upset, at your wit’s end, and wanting help because you and your partner are fighting about these issues, you’ll find help in these pages. Whether you’re newly married or married for a long time; in your first, second, or even third marriage; with kids, planning kids, or with step-kids; and no matter what level of economic status—from just getting by to wealthy—you’ll find the information and techniques you need here.
Professional Reviews The Top Three from the Top One,
"I love the entire book. Dr. Tessina is one of those gifted people who write like she is peering straight into people's souls. I like very much how she shares personal asides, and tips that work in her own marriage. I like her focus on using humor and even silliness too. I've noticed how that can work with most people most of the time. I also like the weekly family meeting ideas.
I love the comments, the guidelines, the therapist's statement of ethics and the guidelines for selecting a therapist. This is soooo valuable for my students who seek counseling.
I've always taught that the three biggest reasons couples seek help are Money, Sex and Communication. A more accurate statement would be that it is a thread of communication that runs through the topics- which are; money, sex and kids that determines a relationship's success. HOW you communicate determines your success. This book is an excellent manual/training guide!
Dr. Tessina's emphasis on humor reflects a lot of what's right about the world. Charlie Chaplin said: "Life may be a tragedy in the close up, but it is a comedy in the long shot." He would have liked this book."
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I am a never-married, childless, only child. My fiancé is a divorced middle-child with custody of his young son. We have different opinions on and experiences with, well, just about everything. MONEY, SEX AND KIDS has taught us how to use this diversity to our mutual benefit.
The techniques, skills and mindsets laid out in this book (and in Tina's earlier book How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free, Third Edition) have enabled us to negotiate cooperative solutions to our problems rather than focusing on who is "right." Tina's combinations of specific real-life examples and general tips and tools have given us the ability to greatly reduce the potential for arguments, needless struggle and heartache in our relationship.
I'm particularly happy with how the "Struggle-Situation-Solution" continuum trains couples to get past the immediate "sound and fury" and discover what the argument is REAALLY about, which is the only place true cooperative problem solving can take place.
Thanks to Tina (and my fiancé's cooperation, of course), I've gone from thinking that our differences could quite possibly be insurmountable to planning for a moving day later this year. Help other customers find the most helpful reviews
By Aostara Kaye "Star"
A Book for ALL Married Couples Who Want to Stay That Way
Prolific non-fiction writer Tina Tessina, Ph.D. has written many books on women and relationships. But she really hits the bull’s-eye with MONEY,SEX, and KIDS: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage.
Although she states that "raising kids is the most complicated, puzzling, and hopefully rewarding job a couple can have," she goes on to honestly admit that "the fights about children can be the most intense and complex." Fortunately, she then describes ways that couples can work together to compromise in solving those issues.
She also lists skills that are necessary to learn in order to create a "truly loving partnership." As a licensed psychotherapist since 1978, Dr. Tessina carefully presents the struggle and the situation first, and then offers the solution to money, sex, and kids squabbles.
If this book were among the gifts given at engagement parties and appeared on book shelves of married folks, perhaps our sad statistics of divorce among first, second, and even third marriages could be reduced.
Reviewed by Elaine Fantle Shimberg, author of BLENDING FAMILIES and co-author of THE COMPLETE SINGLE FATHER.
I need to buy a case of these when it become availabe. So many people need this well before they tie the not. The majority of couples do argue about these three things. Lack of money or someone is spending to much money, whinning kids, spoiled brats, out of control kids, sex, what sex? For whatever stupid reason married folks are using they stop freaking at the spur of the moment and dressing sexy . I could go on and on but that will be part of my book.