The Blended Family's 2003 Daybook© is designed specifically to help find some order in the chaos that inevitably finds its way into blended family life! So much to keep up with - schedules, visitations, extracurricular activities, child support payments, expenses, budgets, pick-ups, drop-offs... OH HELP! IT NEVER ENDS! On top of it all, you still have to feed your soul and (dare I say it?) STAY SANE!!
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Each and every day in your daybook begins with a key thought for successful blended family life... Just a little something to think about for the day. You'll start each day with friendly reminders and practical advice like:
"Accept that guilt is a prime mover in divorce actions. Know that you are not alone. Rather than buying into the guilt, seek support and education. Be constructive rather than destructive when it comes to your heart and soul. Your kids will see the difference."
"Discipline means guidance. Most non-custodial parents have a knee-jerk reaction to become 90-pound weaklings when their kids come to visit. No - your kids don’t want you to be “buddies”… they want you to be a loving, structured parent. Guidance means love."
"Remember Two Things Today: Superman and Wonder Woman were fictitious characters and Rome wasnt built in a day. Blended families need time to, well, blend. Give it a couple of years -it often takes that long or longer to feel like a unit. Until then, just know that every family has its ups & downs."
Then, you'll be prompted to list your schedule for the day. You know - just the stuff that's different. Who has time to write out a whole day's schedule every single day of the year? Well - if they got paid for it, I guess - but hey... not me! Lunch with Wendy? Meeting Michele after work? Dinner with Stan at 6:00 (and dropping off the kiddos at the sitter's at 5:30!)... it all goes here! Short - sweet - effective.
Next is your "Gratitude List". Yep - this is one of the "keeping me sane" parts! For just a moment - any moment - in your day, step outside the hubbub. Exhale. Have a cup of tea... or just wish you had a cup of tea. Ignore the chaos. What are you grateful for? This important step asks you to leave the strife behind for just long enough to focus on what's GOOD in your world! List 5 each and every day... and change your life!
Is it a visitation day? Extracurricular activity day? What are the pick-up and drop-off times? Who's responsible for transportation? Where do you meet? What was your mileage? Are there any details to remember? "Can't forget Johnny's science project for tomorrow!" You got it!! There's a place each day for this stuff, too!
Next... Did you make any documentation today? Was it a phone call, email, visit, letter discussing details of a compromise or discussion with the other parent? Use this section each day to record any entries you may have made in your files for cross-reference later. This very important part of each day's page helps you break down the daunting task of thorough documentation into "manageable piles".
Expenses? Covered here, too! Copies? Postage? Anything that is related to keeping your blended family running smoothly should be noted here! These entries reference the more detailed charts located in the back of the daybook!
Is today a payday? You need to keep up with this ongoing information for use in any future child support issues, etc. Note your payday here, and detail the stub summary in the chart at the back of your daybook. Then, toss that pay stub into a big manila envelope, and hopefully, you won't have to think about it again... but if you do - you have it covered!
Did you pay a child support payment today? If so, simply circle (yes) and note the entry # from the chart in the back here. Done! - all documented for future reference! Now you have a complete listing to justify against your yearly printout from the Child Support Enforcement Agency. (You ARE requesting those every year in writing, right?)
You end each day with these lists: "Promises I Made to Others Today", "Calls to Make" and... every day ends with the list of "Five Good Things to do for Myself Today"!
Get Organized! Feed Your Spirit! Be the BEST Blended Family Member You Can Be! Keep your records, keep your promises and most importantly, keep your MIND!