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The Secret Language of Hypnotherapy
Parts of our minds seem to be laws unto themselves. They refuse to do what we want. It is as if they speak a different language, an ancient dialect.
AS YOU READ THIS BOOK YOU WILL LEARN the seemingly secret and hidden meanings of everyday words as used by expert hypnotherapists to smooth the progress of positive change and goal achievement.
The Secret Language of Hypnotherapy shows you how to make contact with those seemingly distant parts of your mind to enable you to rid yourself of problems. The secret and hidden language you need is contained in this book.
By following the suggestions you will acquire knowledge of great significance in improving your life. Whether you want help with stopping smoking, beating panic attacks, losing weight, getting a pay rise or being able to ask somebody for a date, you will get much closer to achievement when you transform your language, body posture and breathing.
As you learn the secrets of the hidden values of words from this book so you will win the confidence to get what you want from life.
The secrets are contained in using our spoken, thinking and body posture correctly and that means learning about the words that can harm and those that can help. We tend to think in easy ways so words creep in that cause us to doubt ourselves.
Too often, the language we use to think and speak with brings about the opposite of what we want. Inappropriate words worm themselves into our thinking and maintain our fears, worries and habits. Even some trained hypnotherapists can use words so badly that they run the risk of causing problems to grow rather than diminish.
This book will show you how to use the languages of speech, thought and body posture to eliminate difficulties and to discover how to bring into play the ways of thinking that ensure you have a happy and successful life.
As well as factual meanings, words have emotional meanings that are hidden. It is a different thing to love a person and to love chocolate. There is a huge distinction between hating work and hating your neighbour. Learning how to understand and to change the emotional value of words is vital for getting what you want.
For example, people who are nervous about taking a driving test or exam are worried about the sense of success or failure from their school days. When we can think of a driving test as a demonstration of an ability to drive, it becomes easier. After all, every person who is put forward for their driving ‘test’ has demonstrated to their instructors that they are able to drive safely. It is important to be able to recognise the different values that words have. When we change the language of our thoughts and our conversations with others, then we change the ways in which we live.
It is easy to demonstrate that thoughts have an effect on the body. One extreme example would be going up to an old lady and saying the most foul four letter word you can think of. Please never do this. With that one word, from a distance, you would change her heart rate, her blood pressure, her muscle tone (she would want to hit you or run away) and her blood flow as she blushed and so on and on. There is no magic in the word but the lady’s body instantly changes. The lady has most likely heard the word before but she has a negative emotional reaction to it, and now you. Think of how she would describe you to her friends.
Another example is the story about an old practice in India where the discovery of a dishonest person was made by making a group of people hold some rice in their mouths for a few minutes. The offender was found to have dryer rice at the end. This was because fear causes dryness in the mouth. It reduces the flow of saliva. The mind had caused a bodily change because of emotion. When that reaction is applied to public speaking, we can see how some people ‘dry up’ and others ‘choke’ on their words.
Psychosomatic illnesses are more common than we would think. The word, by the way, comes from ‘psycho’ meaning the mind and ‘soma’, meaning the body. So, if the mind can cause the symptoms of illness then the mind can get rid of them.
Perhaps this is one of the very early uses of hypnosis where the old shamans and medicine men would appear to remove bad spirits from a person’s body and bring about relief. Perhaps the theatre of the event caused the necessary emotional change to give the expectation of cure. Hope is the antidote to worry. In the twenty first century, this is the explanation of the placebo effect where people seem to get better after taking a substance that has no medical value whatsoever. The mind is given hope and then works to bring about alleviation or recovery.
There is an old saying that is totally relevant to modern life:
“There are only two causes of misery; having things that you do not want, and not having things that you do want.”
As a hypnotherapist I have found that when the causes of all the problems that I dealt with are summarised, then we have to deal with two fundamental survival systems, namely the fight-or-flight response that got us away from predators and our ability to store fat.
Both of those things are automatic. Fifty thousand years ago, the mind took over and helped us to live. We ran away from our predators and chased after our prey. We stored fat to keep us going through the winters. All of this happened without conscious thought. Those things were, and are, controlled by a part of the mind that still uses that almost unintelligible primeval language.
In modern times, we are still the servants of those systems and as they appear to be so far beyond our conscious control that we can feel powerless against them. However, when we learn how to communicate with our unconscious thoughts, when we learn their language, then we are able to succeed and to make ourselves happy by changing the direction of our minds. We can achieve our goals by positive actions and intentions.
Hypnotherapy gives us back self control. We can work with our minds to achieve what we want. A hypnotherapist is a person who helps to facilitate change. Rather than controlling people, he or she is a catalyst for transforming lives from awful to wonderful.
As stated above, the keys for improvements to problems will involve three elements; breathing, body posture and language. The book starts with guidance on how to work with those fundamental things. Please read those sections first and do the practice exercises.
It will then describe specific problems and how to eliminate them. The mind changes take place after you are shown how to use the techniques to eliminate your specific problem.
A quick note. I refer to the non conscious part of the mind as the unconscious rather than the subconscious in the book. It is simply my personal preference as a term.