||November 3, 2005
Barnes & Noble.com
Live Your Dreams - Let Reality Catch Up
A great resource for individuals, managers, coaches, parents and those in the helping professions – anyone looking for personal change or assisting others with personal change.
All in one book: a basic introduction to neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), a reference book, and tips and techniques for those wanting to get the most out of life.
NLP has helped thousands to discover their own potential. Is it your turn? Is it time to transform your life?
Table of Contents
1.1. Who would use this book? 2
1.2. Getting the most out of this book 2
1.3. Some ideas as you prepare to read Live Your Dreams – Let Reality Catch Up 3
2. Establishing the Foundation
2.1. What is NLP? 5
2.2. NLP communication model 7
2.3. The structure of reality 12
2.4. The five steps for success 16
2.5. NLP presuppositions 18
2.6. Are you at cause or effect? 23
2.7. Power of thought 25
2.8. Systems 26
2.9. Frames 27
2.10. Other foundation pieces 29
3. Getting to Know Yourself and Others
3.1. Modalities and representational systems 36
3.2. Predicates and lead representational systems 39
3.3. Eye accessing cues 44
3.4. Sensory acuity 49
3.5. Meta programs 52
3.6. Logical levels: The hidden traits that drive us 61
4. Improving Your Communication
4.1. Rapport 69
4.2. Perceptual positions 73
4.3. Chunking 77
4.4. Deep structure and surface structure 80
4.5. Linguistic Presuppositions 81
4.6. Meta model 86
4.7. Milton model 90
4.8. Metaphors 95
5. Making Personal Improvements
5.1. Submodalities 99
5.2. Anchors 106
5.3. Reframing 114
5.4. Sleight of mouth 117
5.5. Strategies 120
5.6. Modeling 131
5.7. Values 133
5.8. Beliefs 138
6. Freeing Yourself from the Past
6.1. Changing your personal history 143
6.2. Timelines 144
6.3. Dock of the bay – accessing additional resources 151
6.4. Six-step reframe – increasing unconscious choice in an ecological way 152
6.5. Forgiveness 156
6.6. Working with parts – resolving conflicts 160
6.7. V-K dissociation – dealing with distressing or traumatic events 163
7. Achieving What You Want in Life
7.1. Specifying your outcomes 167
7.2. Identifying and achieving outcomes 170
7.3. Team building 175
8. Making a Difference in Business
8.1. Five essential activities 176
8.2. Meetings negotiations and presentations 177
8.3. Meetings 180
8.4. Negotiations 181
8.5. Presentations 183
9. Appendix A: Representational Systems Preference Test
11. About the Author
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Forgiveness is about creating a state “for giving” – both to self and others – and excusing a mistake or an offense and letting go of the associated hurt, anger or resentment. Because forgiveness has the greatest benefit to the person doing the forgiving, it is one of the greatest gifts that you can give to yourself.
A Must Read for Anyone Who Wants to Transform Their Life
by Michelle Dunn, Author and Consultant (New Hampshire) MichelleDunn.com.
I had never heard about NLP before reading Dr. Ellerton's book. NLP is a great tool to help you learn more about yourself and others. This is especially helpful if you are in a profession where you work, help or teach people. If you can understand yourself and how you think, then you are better able to understand others and help them be successful. This book gives you the tools you need to be successful in life and business, become more conscious of your thoughts and actions and how they affect you and those around you, improve the most important business tool there is, which is communication and help you to break patterns in your life that you may not even be aware of! If you want to get the most out of life and help others do the same, this is the book for you.
A Wealth of Practical Information Devoid of Trivia
by Norm Goldman, Editor of Bookpleasures.com.
Tomes pertaining to the quest for success and how to improve your lives are to publishing what sitcoms are to television. There certainly is no lack of them, wherein it seems that every week some author touts that he or she has the magic formula. The trick is to separate the winning strategies from those that don't merit a second look.
Roger Ellerton’s Live Your Dreams Let Realty Catch Up distinguishes itself and stands out from the rest with its original approach, as it focuses on NLP (neuro-linguistic programming). NLP originated in therapy, and it is now been applied in all areas of human endeavor-education, health, sports, business and interpersonal relations.
According to Ellerton, three basic elements comprise NLP: your neurology-sense organs, or how you absorb information, linguistic or the language that you use to recall and make sense of a particular experience, and programming or your habits, patterns, programs and strategies.
Succinctly summed up, the NLP communication model is about how you make sense of the world around you and the behaviors you manifest as a result of your personal interpretations. As pointed out, if we know how to communicate better with ourselves and with others we could live a more rewarding life.
Divided into eight chapters, the author provides the reader with well-rounded advice and the tools necessary to implement NLP into our daily lives. Beginning with establishing the underlying foundation, Ellerton informs us that NLP is not just techniques, but it is also discovering how and why people who are high achievers accomplish what they actually set out to do. On the other hand, it is a plan of action assisting you in ascertaining those thinking and communication patterns preventing you from becoming successful.
Five simple steps to success are enumerated: having an outcome, taking action, using sensory acuity, flexibility and having a physiology and psychology of excellence. These five principles are explored in detail and are a recurring theme throughout the book.
A wealth of practical information, devoid of superficial and trivial data occupies each of the subsequent chapters that delve into personal insights pertaining to how to know yourself and others, improving your communication skills, making personal improvements, freeing yourself from the past, achieving what you want in life and making a difference in business. Each section is knit together into a cohesive whole, wherein the material is presented in simple, accessible language that is not overwhelmed with unnecessary technical jargon.
Suggestions are concise, detailed, and well-organized, intertwined with examples, diagrams and exercises that help the reader reinforce the principles of NLP. One point worthy of mention, however, is that unfortunately the author did not include section summaries-something that would have facilitated the retention of the material. It would have also been useful to include a brief bibliography.
Ellerton knows his subject matter and his passion both spiritually and emotionally for NLP is contagious. Readers will be inspired with practical and intelligent advice, and definitely worthy of one's time to read and slowly digest the material contained in Live Your Dreams Let Realty Catch Up. It is, as mentioned on the back cover, a great resource for individuals, managers, coaches, parents and for anyone looking for or assisting others with personal changes.
An excellent and easy-to-use self-help resource
Live Your Dreams Let Reality Catch Up: NLP & Common Sense For Coaches, Managers, And You by certified management consultant and certified Neuro-Linguistic Programming trainer Roger Ellerton is a self-help guide to using NLP to improve one's communication, free oneself from the burden of past memories, achieve goals, and much more. Written both for individuals seeking to transform their lives and parents, coaches, and managers helping their charges unlock their full potential, Live Your Dreams Let Reality Catch Up is upbeat and positive-minded, offering step-by-step instructions to focus one's thoughts in the right direction. An excellent and easy-to-use self-help resource.
Mid-West Book Review
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