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Things I wish someone taught me before I started dating.
Need some tips on dating? Why are so many of us having a difficult time going out on dates or maintaining a dating relationship? Perhaps no one told us how to date properly.
J.C. Callahan discusses common mistakes and misconceptions. He shares his knowledge on the way dating works (or should work) in a personable, sometimes lighthearted, manner. Learn about "The Dating Mindset" and "The Four Modes of Dating." In addition, learn new ways of thinking about some subjects that seem obvious (yet cause problems for many of us), such as preferences vs. demands, traditional vs. Internet dating, and more. Learn what can make your trip down the Dating Highway easier.
This book is not an instruction manual that tells you how to do everything exactly. You have to read this book, take away some nuggets of truth, and apply them to your personal life. Do not read this book as steps to follow; rather, read this book to absorb the ideas and concepts, then apply them to your own life and situations.
I neither pretend to know everything there is to know nor proclaim that this book contains everything concerning the aspects of dating. This book may not cover a subject you’d like to see included. It may also skip over some situation that you experience after reading this book. Chances are, it is not something I experienced myself and of which I have no direct knowledge. There are some situations mentioned herein that are not my personal experiences—but they came from good sources and their experiences.
I am not a psychologist. This book does not discuss psychological aspects of relating to others, developing a dating relationship into a marriage, or How to Find the Love of Your Life.
I am not claiming this book completely covers all subjects and aspects about courtship, spiritual interaction, human sexuality, interpersonal relationships, or why so many people like chocolate. (As a matter of fact, I don’t discuss chocolate at all. Pity.)
What this book does cover are some very basic principles about the process of dating. This is the stuff many folks should know or consider while they’re trying to find “the One” or a significant other or some good people with whom they’d like to hang out.
Yes, actually, there are steps through which you must tread when it comes to Internet dating. Consider the following list:
1. Make initial contact.
2. Correspond via e-mail.
3. Engage in chats via instant messaging.
4. Talk on the phone.
5. Meet in person in a public place.
This isn’t a laundry list. This isn’t a list of “things that would be nice to do.” This isn’t a list that popped into my head on a whim. Nay, dear reader, it is the result of hours and hours of keen, trained observation. It is the flow of the relatively new and still evolving bio-socio-electronic phenomenon known to the modern world as Cyber-Dating Escalation (CDE).
The CDE “flow” listed above is not a list that commands you to follow it in absolute order; however, it is highly recommended.