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Chronic illness can strike anyone at any time. But long illnesses don’t just affect one person, they affect the whole family. Author Chris Tatevosian was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis when he was a young man. Without realizing it, his “poor me” attitude, and difficulties with coping with the disease cost him what he felt was a marriage made in heaven. Could he have done something differently?
Tatevosian shares with readers many of the self-destructive, relationship-busting behaviors to avoid as well as the helpful, healing ones to implement. He gives a firsthand account of multiple sclerosis, including the drugs and treatments which have been particularly beneficial for him. Stressing compassion and understanding for other family members, Tatevosian also asserts that his deep faith helped him through rocky times.
By sharing his experiences, Tatevosian gives readers the awareness, knowledge and understanding they need to deal more positively with the emotional and physical stresses put on a relationship interrupted by chronic illness or disability. Warmly written and bravely told, this is a perfect book for any patient or caregiver.
Life Interrupted - It's Not All about Me is my real-life story dealing with marriage interrupted by multiple sclerosis. It could have been any chronic illness or disability and anybody’s relationship, but my reason for writing this book is the same. My goal is to help others in similar situations recognize and eliminate the growth of the relationship destroying "poor me attitude” which frequently accompanies chronic illness.
By sharing my actual experiences with chronic illness and divorce, I hope to provide others with the knowledge, awareness and understanding intended to help them deal more positively with the emotional and physical stresses put on a relationship when life is interrupted by chronic illness or disability.
Much of this information may seem obvious, but as I’ve learned the hard way, the obvious becomes clouded when life is interrupted by chronic illness or disability. Whether you are the patient or the caregiver this book is for you. If by writing this book, just one relationship is benefited it will have been a success and well worth exposing my past, literally making my life an open book.
“After reading the entire book this afternoon, I have tears in my eyes as I finish it. What struck me as I read it, was that I felt I was seeing everything you said through your eyes. I was there with you. Your openness and frankness clearly spoke to me. You made every emotion clear without resorting to any psychobabble terms. It was a real person speaking right from the heart and it touched my heart. Nothing fancy, nothing slick just real life”.
Rick Mansfield., Caring Coordinator , The First Congregational Church of Hopkinton MA
"You may be physically and or mentally weak, but you must still express love, show your gratitude, praise, and make life pleasurable, not more miserable, for your spouse."
Life Interrupted Addresses Relationship Issues and MS
MSfocus magazine, Submitted by Chris Ratliff on Mon, 2007-11-19 08:02.
While a freshman attending Johnson state College in himVermont, Chris Tatevosian was diagnosed with MS. He graduated in 1983 with a Bachelor of Science in Ecology and a minor in Chemistry. For seven years, he was an analytical chemical technician before becoming an occupational safety coordinator/consultant.
“My disease was relapsing remitting up until 1990,” Chris says. “That was the year I began dating the woman who would eventually become my wife. Everything was tremendous until I suffered a major exacerbation in May 1993, at which time I became disabled and unable to work. After several difficult years, we were divorced. It was one of the darkest times of my life.”
In his recently published book, Life Interrupted, It's Not All About Me, Chris shares the details of his life with MS before, during, and after his first marriage. This candid memoir examines the ways in which the author’s destructive attitude and inability to cope cost him his marriage. Chris hopes his story might help others make more of an effort to communicate effectively with their loved ones and not allow disability and low self-worth to destroy their relationships. Chris also writes about his faith in God, his experiences with bee venom therapy, and his fiancée, Jane, to whom he is now married.
Life Interrupted: It's Not All About Me, was originally self-published what7/07 and available at booksurge.com and Amazon.com.
Recently published: Release Date October 14, 2008 Tate Publishing Enterprises, available www.Tatepublishing.com
REFERENC LISTED BELOW:
The Multiple Sclerosis Foundation
6350 N. Andrews Avenue
Fort Lauderdale, FL 33309
Reader reviews from Amazon.com
Absolutely Enlightening!!, March 16, 2008
By Marla K. Martindale RSD (Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy Coach and host of Blogtalk radio's winninglifethroughpain.com (TX, USA) -
"Life Interrupted, it's not all about me" is without a doubt the best book I have ever read that depicts the challenges of a persons first reaction to hearing the news they are no longer going to be able to do the things they love doing and have done all their lives....run, jump, walk, swim, ride a bike, drive, see, write, feel, and enjoy life as others do. That is like a slap in the face to anyone, but Chris puts his experience down that path in a manner that everyone can relate, disabled or not.
This book is not just for those who may be afflicted with a debilitating disease, but for anyone who has struggled in a relationship because of the "normal" issues like, stress, loss of a job, kids, lack of communication, anger, and depression. This is not a "How To" type book, but more along the lines of a "How Not To" writes Chris, and he is correct.
When reading this book, I found each page something so insightful that would just jump off the page. I highly recommend everyone read this book. Chris makes it very easy to get to know him before his diagnosis, as well as his journey through the difficult times, and on to the glorious time of today. Once you start reading you will not be able to put this book down. Chris keeps you intrigued and wanting to read on. "
Life Interrupted - a book for everyone, September 15, 2007
By C. Lesser
"This book is a must read, not only for people with a serious illness, but for anyone looking to gain a better understanding of how words and actions can destroy relationships. The author is brutally honest in his attempt to help others realize the mistakes he made along the way. This book is funny, sad, informative and inspirational all rolled into one easy to read book. "
Eye Opener, December 2, 2007
By Vivian Schaffers (Tennessee)
"I am the spouse of a man living with MS. This book opened my eyes to a lot of feelings my husband deals with but also helped me deal with emotions I have as well. Before reading this book I knew that we have a strong marriage. I now realize how fragile that can be when a chronic illness lives with you day in and day out. The author has opened my eyes to many pitfalls that can be avoided by good communication and paying attention to your partner's perspective. I am thankful that the author was willing to share his journey in order to help others. Definitely a must read."
Living with Multiple Sclerosis, November 24, 2007 By J. Rich -
"This first-hand account of author Chris Tatevosian's battle with multiple sclerosis shines for its honesty, courage and insightful message. He details the progression of the disease from age eighteen to the present as well as describing the effect his disease had on his marriage.
The author's understanding of how a chronic disease of any kind has consequences for the caregiver, in this case his wife Rachel, rings true for anyone living in similar circumstances. It's a very helpful book to gain insight into how destructive negative "poor me" behavior can be for both the person harboring resentments as well as for those living nearby.
I was very moved by the highly personal and sincere description of the author's disease and relationship difficulties. Multiple sclerosis is a dreadful disease and as a reader you feel the emotional and physical effects that occur as the disease progresses. It is a very heartfelt book that touched me on many levels. I especially liked the fact that the author took responsibility for his own actions. I think that this is the message that permeates the book. You can't control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude about it.
This is an excellent book about chronic disease and those who are affected by it."
Life Interrupted , a truthful, insightful, story everyone should read, Sept 12, 2007,y Susan L. Cellucci
"Life Interrupted is a great book to help readers understand what it is like to live and love with a disability. The author is truthful about his struggles within a relationship that didn't work, and he desperately wants the reader to understand how not to make the same mistakes. This book is a must have for anyone who knows of someone with a disability. It is an extremely helpful guide for others living with MS and those that love them. I highly recommend Life Interrupted to anyone who is interested in a heartfelt, true story. It will certainly be an inspiration to all, and is as funny as it is truthful. It is an easy read, and can be easily shared with others. It is quite refreshing to read the author's point of view, along with his desires to helping the needs of others. "
Chris' journey through illness is helpful to others, March 17, 2008
By Kari D. Semik
"I thank the author for his transparency and humbleness in relaying
his experiences with chronic illness and relationships.
This is a book of hope for that time when people get stuck in the cycle
of pain and frustration because of the presence of illness and it's effects
on the lives of everyone involved!
MSWorld.org Book Review
Reviewed by LizOP editor MS world.org
Toward the end of this book, the author writes:
"Bitterness, like a cancer, left alone to grow only destroys one's life no matter what the cause."
One way to review a book is to start at the end. Chris talks about his anger and his "poor me" attitude he took on because of his diagnosis of MS at a young age. He boldly talks of his marriage that went on the rocks as a result of his negative choices.
He says he wrote the book to give the readers "the awareness, knowledge and understanding they need to deal more positively with the emotional and physical stresses put on a relationship interrupted by chronic illness or disability."
His book is about relationships and living with MS from his male point of view. The frankness is refreshing and not offensive. His writing is simple and direct - not one for winning prizes but easy to read. He talks of his journey and you may find you are reading about your similar journey.
We each have our own experiences and personalities where we react and think differently. It is good to read different life perspectives to help us focus on our own and where we could look to improve our attitude or circumstances.
If you like reading about other people's lives with MS, this will appeal to you. Maybe it will encourage you to write your own story and share it with others.
Chris has produced a seemingly honest portrayal of his life and lessons he has learned. He wrote about what he knows, which is always a plus in my book.
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