A book to empower women, one thought at a time.
"A Song for You--Parables and Pearls" empowers women to achieve better results from life's circumstances simply by changing the way we think. This book introduces fifty-seven women issues in poetry and offers life-applicable commentary, supported by scripture, which will lead women to an alternative solution.
More Than is Not Enough
She was more than a notion,
More than a fling.
It was more than puppy love
Or a friendship ring.
But it wasn't enough to get love in motion.
It was certainly not a forever thing.
The idea of marriage wasn't given a thought,
And definitely no offspring.
Even though she was clearly adored.
Good times deserved an encore.
Yet, despite her obvious charm,
Or the way he felt in her arms,
Simply put, she wasn't the one.
The person she was couldn't change it
Be it the short or long range of it.
This was a fact Mr. Man understood.
And to him everything was all good.
Not telling her made good sense
If he could just keep up the pretense.
So not a word would he say to her.
His lips would be sealed until he met the real girl.
More Than is Not Enough
This poem is aboaut settling for less than what is wanted in a relationship. Settling occurs, in my opinion, when a woman sets herself up not to be loved by offering too much of herself too soon and not demanding her worth in exchange. Women settle for different reasons, but I would guess the biggest culprit is loneliness. Whatever the reason, these kinds of women are willing to be led on in the hopes of having their dreams fulfilled. But they are really being used.
This young lady is hoping that the man will be with her for a while, possibly forever. However, his actions have already indicated that longevity is not in his plan. He enjoys having her around, but she doesn't have enough of whatever he is looking for to be serious about her. So she has become the "until girl," and he will leave her when he meets Mrs. Right.
Proverbs 18:22 says, "A man's greatest treasure is his wife--she is a gift from the Lord." Or put another way, "A man who finds a wife finds a good thing." This man's failure to entertain any conversations of marriage or a future should tell her that he has not chosen her, even though he likes her. Yet, because she wants to be chosen, she allows him to lead her on rather than leave him so that she will be available for someone who will choose her and be willing to do the right things to get her.
When Lex was about five or six I overheard a little girl who was on the back porch with her and some other kids talking to a little boy who was also on the porch. She asked the little boy who he liked. I didn't hear his answer, but his response was followed by the question, "Who do you like best?" Now from what I could gather, this girl was competing for the first place attention of the boy. She didn't seem to mind that he had his eyes on two of them. She just wanted to be liked the most. I could already see the "settling pattern" starting to form in these little girls.
The little girls on the porch were already starting to seek the attention of boys at this very young age. I know that kindergarten crushes have been going on for decades; and that conversation wouldn't have bothered me if the year were 1964, but staggering statistics of reported STD's, pregnancies, and abortions among today's young women, not to mention the media's exploitation of sex on radio, TV, and videos, which introduce children to the subject at much younger ages, made me nervous to hear that. If you think we're not to blame for some of it, ask yourself these questions with regards to your dating years:
1. Are you in love with the idea of being in love?
2. Do you tend to give all of yourself before getting to know the person you are dating?
3. Do you make excuses for your man when God is clearly giving you warning signs that things are not working out?
Dating does not equal marriage. People date to see if they want to be married. If a dating relationship isn't working out, either party is free to leave it. And if both people aren't mutually benefiting, it isn't working out. A person who persists in a one sided relationship will probably be just as misserable as they'd be if they were alone. So why fight for something that won't give you what you want? And why set that precedence for the young ladies who are watching you to do it either?
Little girls need to see us dating in excellence. So,
1. Let the man lead. Don't make all the moves.
2. No impulse dating. You don't have to jump every time he calls. Let him plan to be with you.
3. No free rides. You are not his mother. Don't take care of him.
4. No drive-bys. Your body is a temple. I think you know what I'm saying.
The Midwest Book Review
A Song for You--Parables and Pearls is a collection of poetry by African-American author Karen O'Bannon, now revised with extensive biblical and life commentary. A theme of transferring wisdom and the bond between mothers and daughters circulates amid these simple yet heart-touching free-verse poems. Highly recommended. "Explanation, Please": Black Man, black Man/ Is there any doubt/That the womb made room for you/To make your exit out?// Then how in the world could you be so inclined/ To degrade me or any sister of mine?/ Tell me why because I really want to know./ From exactly what garden do your hate seeds grow?//Is it a hip thing to say/ Is it the ghetto way?/ Is it your black experience?/ Or is it just plain ignorance?/ Does it feel good when you're calling me a ho?/ Tell me./ I just want to understand you, Bro? Think about it, holler back, and let me know.
Reviewed by Margaret Lane of the
Midwest Book Review
Something for everyone.
A SONG FOR YOU consists of poetry, essays, and questions for reflection about various issues impacting the lives of women of color. Each poem is placed in one of seven sections, and is followed by a brief essay which provides insight into the poetry, and briefly discusses some of the underlying issues in greater depth. Some passages even include relative Bible passaages, questions for self-reflection, and exercises.
The poetry covers such an array of subjects, it is easy for readers to find a few with which they can identify. One of my favorite poems was "Mr. Popular" which relates the story of a woman who is trying to shake a man she knows is no good, but still finds hard to resist. "When I'm Gone" was a moving piece about a woman wondering what people will remember her for and her legacy. Lessons about financial prudence can easily be gleaned from "Shopping Spree Sting." "Son" highlights a mother's struggle to step back and let her nearly-grown son be his own man.
Though the small print makes A SONG FOR YOU a bit tedious on the eyes at times, it is well worth checking out. Karen O'Bannon has put together a book that is more than simply a collection of poetry through the inclusion of a vast array of additional content and resources.
Reviewd by Stacey Seay of the RAWSISTAZ Reviewers
Okay, after all the ghetto books with vicious drug dealers, gangstas and scandalous women, it's good to read something positive every once in a while. Karen O'Bannon truly touched my soul with "A Song for You: Parables and Pearls."
This book is a collection of poetry and personal triumph, filled with life lessons. The author categorized this masterpiece into seven chapters where she touched on faith, love, friendship, weight issues and many more enlightening topics. Karen kept the book intriguing with a series of challenges that help the reader understand the root of a problem and how to sensibly solve it.
While Karen's book is obviously aimed towards women I think it could be a helpful tool for anyone struggling with confidence and demons. After finishing this dynamic piece of work readers will feel more in tune with their personal being, feeling as if they can conquer the world and overcome any obstacle.
I thank Karen O'Bannon for bringing such a powerful message into my heart and home, warming my soul with brilliant poetry while giving me exercises I'll certainly practice until I get them right.
I recommend this book to anyone searching for themselves, looking to get things back on track. "A Song for You: Parables and Pearls gets five outta five dollars from Da ReVew.
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