||Red San Publishing
||July 3, 2008
A Man's Feelings is a real life story of one's personal struggle and subsequent redemption from the tragedy of divorce.
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A unique book, which addresses a calamity many men face, was written by the Northwest Author, Michael Louis Eads:
A Man's Feelings, Finding Closure After Divorce.
Divorce, a word synonymous with failure, disappointment and heartache; any man who loved his wife and went through divorce feels the stigma and loss. The courts use these words: dissolution, irretrievable and broken. These heartless terms create turmoil to a man going through divorce. They don't even account for or describe the agony a man endures during this crisis.
This is a personal account of how Michael went through these hard times, and how he came out the other end with a positive attitude, and a vigorous new life. Going through this crisis, he found his own identity and self-esteem in question. His whole life was a question mark from the day his wife first said the word, ‘Divorce,' but with a step-by-step process, and help from friends and counseling, he got through it.
"I believe with the raw personal expertise of an everyday man, Michael's story is unique and uplifting. His advice is straightforward and insightful, offering hope and encouragement on the long road to find a new life for any man struggling for happiness after losing the love of his life," said his friend Bob Olson, who has known Michael since his teens.
In his research of divorce books, he had found that almost all deal with the legal ramifications of divorce. Few deal with the stigma, heartache and emotional turmoil that a man must face during separation and divorce.
"I feel my book exposes the most basic need in all men after divorce, that is, the overwhelming desire to find some semblance of happiness, well-being, and ultimately, closure. It is my hope that after reading this book, you will realize its value and potential."
DIVORCE; A WORD SYNONYMOUS WITH FAILURE, dis-appointment and heartache. Any man who loved his wife and went through divorce feels the stigma and loss. The courts use these words: dissolution, irretrievable and broken. These heartless terms create turmoil to a man going through divorce. Going through this crisis, I found my own identity and self-esteem in question. Divorce forced me into a crossroads where my judgment and sanity were compromised.
While I was going through the hardest times, I felt like a child lost in the woods just out of range of my mother’s hearing. I also felt alone, scared, ashamed, embarrassed, but mostly abandoned. My innermost weaknesses were exposed. Divorce does not discriminate, it knows no boundaries. The brand divorce leaves on a man can be indelible.
RELAX; THERE IS HOPE. With time, patience and work you can reach a better place: A place of healing, happiness and closure. I learned the importance of closure when I was only six years old. After my separation and divorce, my need for closure was reinforced.
How do you make it to that place? Through my mistakes, I chart a path, a roadmap that can help any man going through this calamity. You will know you have arrived at your destination when “the old you” is no longer recognizable and a new man is born. When you have acknowledged your mistakes and let go of the past, you will realize your potential for a bright future. You will have achieved closure. So give yourself a pat on the back for wanting to feel better. Remember, it is going to be okay.
Expert Review from Susan Sterling, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist
In his book, A Man’s Feelings: Finding Closure After Divorce, Michael Eads takes us on a personal journey following his own divorce. By relating his experience of coming to terms with the end of his marriage, and the stages of grief and loss that accompanied that, we also join him on his road to acceptance, letting go, and finally finding hope, happiness, and well-being in the aftermath of his divorce. All the while that Michael is telling his own tale, he is providing a road map for men (and women) who are in the midst of the confusion, hurt and pain, and emotional floundering that can come with the experience of confronting the end of a marriage while attempting to put life back in order. Michael is open and sharing about his vulnerabilities and growth, so that one can almost feel that he is sitting with you, a good friend, there to share his experience, to help you find some sense of direction in unknown and uncharted territory. I highly recommend this book to anyone embarking on their own such journey.
Points of resonance from Scott Martin
To date, I have read Michael Eads book twice and have found points of resonance each time. Society, our courts and general consensus grant little credit to most men's deep conviction of the sanctity of marriage and the likely trauma of divorce. Michael’s book nails the emotional hurricane people experience and subsequently stands as a proclamation of hope toward a calmer, fulfilling future. This book may be one man's experience, yet simultaneously it represents the journey of 100's of millions, in less than 200 pages.
Startlingly familiar in the recognition of my own personal feelings from Jeff Ball
In A Man's Feelings . . . the author talks about his broken marriage, consequently including all the monumental anguishes that lead up to his separation and tragic loss. The sharing of his personal feelings is almost startlingly familiar in the recognition of my own personal feelings. Faithfully the story ends on a happy note. Mike (the author) endures the nemesis of risk taking and comes to finding happiness again. This is a book that should be on the teen dating shelf. The Northwestern style is authentic and the openheartedness made this friendly book easy to read clear through.
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Reader Reviews for "A Man's Feelings: Finding Closure after Divorce"
|Reviewed by Debra Conklin
|Since publishing this book Michael, I hope you've found your peace and your happily ever after (happily for now). : - D|
|Reviewed by Blondie Clayton
|Michael, it's about time we heard it from a man's point of view. The women are always telling their side.Never thought men felt anything after a divorce, thought they just replaced her with another and moved on.
So you're saying there are mountains to climb, valleys, sorrow and pain? Men who are divorced always seem to bounce back pretty quickly.
This touched me. Thanks for sharing a side of men that is not so macho, but a touch of vulnerability, yet without a loss of image.
I glanced at a title of one of your poems while writing this. Wow! Michael, I'm touched. Think I go read some more of your words.
|Reviewed by John Coppolella
|I hope I never need your book, Michael, but after hearing your audio message and reading additional information on your www.bookondivorce.com, I would recommend it others that have gone through or are now going through the tragedy of Divorce.