Nowadays, many people claim they can teach how to charm people, approach women, attract women, and provide you with the best dating tips. At Attractive By Nature, we realize the need of men and women to know how to naturally charm people and that is why we put the reader inside the mind of the charmer so that you can learn and understand what does the natural charmer intellect and mind set is like. The ABN book is not only one of the best dating books for men and also one of the best dating books for women. This is because Charm is a way of life for both genders and that is one of the central ideas in the ABN philosophy.
Whether you are seeking the best relationship tips, relationship advice or interested in knowing the best ways on how to charm people, you have come to the right place.
Attractive By Nature
"Whether it is your boss at work, girl friend, your first date, friends at college, business partners, or even your grandmother, we all need to charm our way to everyone and everything. It is through charm that we get what we desire. We all admire those irresistible charmers. More interestingly, we secretly want to be one of them. However, only few of us have that irresistible charm. Although it might seem difficult, becoming a great charmer is very doable, especially when you have access to the right guidance. "
The Attractive By Nature book simply has this type of guidance we all need. Not only because it contains the best philosophies on the subject of charm but also because this rich book, takes you inside the mind of the charmer where you will observe how he thinks, acts, reacts, and find out what does he exactly do that makes his charm irresistible.
Attractive by nature is a unique philosophy before it is words on paper. This philosophy exists inside some of the minds. These minds are those of the charmers. The few charmers that we all know and some of us might even envy. Those ones are the few that we instantaneously feel attracted to and charmed by.
The difference between a great charmer and an average charmer and even the poor charmer, lies in what goes around inside the mind. Here, you get introduced to the mind works of the greatest charmers. It is more of getting inside their minds and looking at life from their own bedazzling eyes.
The ABN book is then, a unique philosophy of what it takes to master your personal charm in a time where we all need it. There must be someone who has the attention of others. There must be someone whose name is on everyone’s mouth. Wouldn’t it be amazing if that person is you? Wouldn’t it be great to be that man or that woman who is always remembered for his or her irresistible charm?
This book, even though focusing on the subject of charm in the context of love-ships, provides timeless principles and concepts about charm that will introduce you to the way of charm world and all the golden relationships we all seek. There are some books written on the subject of charm, but these books seldom give you what this book does. Simply put, you will be deeply taken to the right philosophies of what it takes today to cultivate natural glamorous charming persona.
Introduction: The Entrance
With no exception, we have all, at some point, pursued a certain relation-ship, whatever it may be, but it didn’t go the way we wanted it to. In a world where charmers are a dying breed, great relationships are fading out, and our desire to be loved is unstoppable, we all need the skill of charm. Whether it is your boss at work, wife, first date, friends, business partners, or even your little sister, a charming persona makes us even more desired. We all want to feel desired, don’t we? Who doesn’t want to feel respected, loved, appreciated, admired and experience all these gratifying emotions? I bet all of us do. Who really gets them, is a different story. Without a doubt, some people are getting more of these intense sentiments. Whether they have the unbroken attention of others or their names are on everyone’s mouth, those few charmers are getting the best part of the cake. Wouldn’t it be amazing if that person is you? Wouldn’t it be great to be that man or that woman who is always remembered for his or her irresistible charm? From another angle, we all yearn for those golden relation-ships with those golden people. But perhaps what we think is gold turns out something else. Maybe it has the shine of gold but isn’t really golden. Or maybe it is the real gold, but we don’t get it. We somehow, mess it up.
Throughout time, humans have formed numerous types of relation-ships with others; from great ones like friend-ships, love-ships to disastrous ones like incest and other abnormal relation-ships. Whether right or wrong, normal or abnormal, gratifying or not, humans have always formed all sorts of connections with others. The foundation of these connections was and will always be “The appetite for Emotional fulfillment”. This is the foundation of every relation-ship that exists. Friend-ships perhaps, are based on the need of having supportive companions that share common goals or interests. Romantic-ships may be based on the need of having a soul mate and being desired by the opposite sex. Business-ships could be based on the need of progressing in one’s career or improving one’s wealth. The list can go on and on but no matter what the relation-ship is, it exists because of a certain need for emotional fulfillment. Romantic-ships, commonly known as Dating are no exception. Dating which is the act of getting together with someone who we feel attracted to, is also based on the need for emotional gratification. Everything we do in this world is based on that need. The reason you buy a car or house, get that job, and want to date an attractive woman or meet the man of your dreams is because you want to experience a sort of emotional fulfillment. This is the indisputable truth whether we realize it or not. Just like you seek great things in your life for your personal enjoyment, you want to date someone to fulfill an empty place inside you with an ecstatic mixture of emotions.
When it comes to charm, it could be one of the easiest and most enjoyable things in one’s life. The problem is that many men and women seldom view it that way. The truth is that if you are a man who is having trouble with charming women then you are having trouble in your general personal charm. Having extra money or a sexier car is not going to help your charm. Although many of these external things are significant, they seldom walk you the path of charm. Your charm is never at hold because of anything in your external world. It is only through your internal world that you can cultivate irresistible charm anywhere you step. The problem is that most people aren’t aware that their mental paradigms are the fuel of their charm. It is because of certain things going on inside your head that you can attract or repulse others.
We all want more in our relationships. Don’t we? Unfortunately, many men and women are anything but close from the right mind-set. No wonder we hear about many disasters when it comes to relation-ships and this is why it is becoming more common to fail in a relation-ship than succeed. Considerable amounts of people are struggling with their relation-ships. You are probably wondering how I know that. Can you count how many dating services exist today? How many dating advices are all over the internet? How many dating coaches are making a living because of the troubles that people have with relating to others? The question is: Was there any dating advice around when the cave man wanted to connect with the cave woman? But since today is nothing like the old days of the cave man, we have things like a dating system through which people can find their potential lovers and hopefully have a fulfilling relationship. Whether it is computer dating, phone dating or video dating, the emergence of the dating systems hints at the troublesome that men and women are having in their love lives. Is it so challenging that now, many people are actually using these services? For some people, it could be. It is not our goal however, to pass judgment or be critical with those who are not so charming. We all have a charming side. To outshine the current level of our personal charm is what you and I are responsible for.
Among the emergence of many dating aids and services whether on the internet, TV, Radio shows or magazines, comes the most interesting phenomenon, “The Seduction Community”. This community which dates back to the 70s did not capture the media’s attention except for the last few years. In case you don’t know what the seduction community is about, it is simply a group of men who have the goal of attracting and seducing beautiful women. Most of these men had many challenges when it came down to relating with women. Out of frustration, these men started developing different tested methods to seduce and attract women in a variety of social places. Many leaders emerged in the community and each one had his own structure of what they call “pickup” which became so popular especially the few last years. Today, there are countless numbers of self claimed pickup artists. But this is just a one slice of what today’s dating advice can offer. What we introduce you to in this book; is much different however. This book is not just a dating advice but an outlook on life. Through the philosophies of this book, we establish a way of life called the path of charm.
Since personal charm is a complex skill, it requires consistent application of certain knowledge in one’s life. Through the coming lines, you get introduced to the knowledge of charm. Thus, we offer you half of this journey. The other half is for you to walk. If you are a man, you will be put on the path through which you can naturally exude charm anywhere you step. As a woman, personal charm is equally important for you as it is for a man. If you think that you are set because you have attractive looks, think twice. Charm is tremendously deeper than what looks can offer. Physical appearance serves as a gateway to the world of charm, if it gets you inside, what guarantees you thrive in there? Note that the material in this book intends to serve any human being who seeks more charm in his or her life. Thus, whether you are a man or a woman, whether you are in a fulfilling relationship or not, this book will take you to another level of living your life. Both sexes, on many levels, are not satisfied with their love lives as they should be and this is the fundamental reason this book has been written.