Learn how you can lay a foundation that will make your relationship stand the test of time.
Every relationship is built upon some foundation. The composition of our foundations range from our experiences to any other factor that has granted us conviction about life. Unfortunately, no two persons react the same way to the same experience. They learn different things and see things differently too. Now, when these two come together in a relationship, initially attraction plays a big role in dousing tension. But as attraction fades reality emerges. Unfortunately by then, the couple may have rushed to the alter or made some major emotional commitments. The end result is not always desirable.
This book discusses these issues and how you can lay a great foundation, despite these differences. The idea of this book came after the author had series of conversation with successful married couples, whose love life has spanned from 30 to 55 years. he discovered that, although these couples didn't know themselves, they all had something in common when they met each other. They also had something in common that helped them weather the storm. The conversations were not aimed at compiling a book. However, the author saw the need to share what he has learnt. There is a lot to learn from the author's experience and the experience of people whom he had conversations with.
........Before I touch on the next point it is important to note that attraction can enlarge your social circle. Let it do so and give yourselves sometime to see if you have a part to play in someoneís life rather than just jumping in and ruining it. Use the questions above, as you go for dates and do stuff together analyse, search for love in you. Be sure about it because you canít tell me that as you two are moving around, you havenít found some other attractive persons you wished had said hello. So go beyond attraction because if you donít have any love to give, you will not get any.
Is it right to have expectations of what you want from the opposite sex? Yes absolutely, but donít be a sponge. What of your partnerís expectations do you fill? Donít just jump into making a choice because you have found the right person. Has that person found what he or she wants in you? The reasons divorces happen many at times is not just the story we hear on the TV and newspapers. From personal discussions with people in that shoe, I have come to realize that they did not actually find love, they found attraction and they paid dearly for it when they had nothing in their arsenal to keep the boat together........