||November 11, 2010
A comprehensive guide to solving canine separation anxiety, written by a professional who also has first-hand experience living with a dog with separation issues. Step-by-step creative and concrete solutions are offered, along with other helpful tools and therapies to help dogs and their owners to conquer these issues.
For owners, trainers, rescuers and anyone who wishes to help dogs with this often challenging problem. The book is a comprehensive, interactive workbook that offers creative solutions, cutting-edge therapies, and allows owners to customize a program for their individual dog.
- The role of management, nutrition, and exercise
- Whether pharmacological intervention might help
- Ways to build canine confidence
- Creative management solutions
- Step-by-step behavior modification protocols
- Alternative therapies that can prove invaluable
- How to put it all together in a customized plan
Also included are real-life stories from experts telling how they handled separation issues in their clients' dogs and their own dogs.
Dogs, like humans, are highly social creatures. They enjoy the company of others, forge strong emotional attachments, and live in communal groups. In modern society, we have become our dogs’ packs—their families. This arrangement has many benefits for both dogs and humans, including the opportunity to form close bonds of love and trust. But just as some children become nervous when their parents are away, many dogs experience anxiety when their people are absent.
The level of stress a dog feels when isolated or when separated from a particular person or persons may be mild, moderate, or, in some cases, so intense that it constitutes a state of full-blown panic. Dealing with these issues often causes owners to feel a measure of strain as well. As a loving dog owner, it can be extremely frustrating and heart wrenching to know your dog is suffering and to be unable to convey that you’ll be returning shortly, or that being left alone is not the end of the world.
You may have read articles about separation anxiety, asked friends for advice, or even consulted with a professional dog trainer or behavior specialist. Perhaps the prescribed rehabilitation plans seemed reasonable, but implementing them was not feasible. Or maybe the information you received was confusing, or conflicted with that from other sources. Perhaps you’ve tried a few techniques or attempted a lengthy behavioral protocol, only to give up in dismay.
Whether your current attempt to solve your dog’s difficulties is the beginning of a new journey or another stop along what has seemed like an endless road, I have two pieces of good news: first, you are not in this alone. As a professional dog trainer who specializes in behavior issues, I have helped many of my clients and their dogs through separation-related problems. I have coached them each step of the way until their dogs could safely be left alone, whether for five minutes or five hours.
I am also a dog mom. When my husband and I finally decided to get another dog a year after our last dog had passed, I scoured the local shelters and humane societies. Three months of intense searching yielded our perfect match—a lovely, gentle, year-and-a-half old malamute-husky-keeshond mix. During the adoption process, the officer who handled our paperwork revealed that the dog had been in the shelter four times previously. We soon found out why. Sierra, as we named her, not only had the talent of Houdini, but also had serious separation issues. It was easy to imagine her watching her owners leave, and then escaping in a frantic attempt to follow them.
During the first two weeks with our pretty girl, I would return home from doing errands to find her panting heavily, eyes wild. Although she hadn’t destroyed anything, it was clear that she’d been upset. To gauge the intensity of her distress, I set up a camcorder and then left the house for 45 minutes. A review of the footage revealed Sierra whining while pacing from door to window, back and forth, scanning the area where she’d seen us leave. Her whining progressed to intermittent barking, which soon escalated into a more frantic series of barks, and finally, a mournful, pitiful howling that tore at my heart. As difficult as the rehabilitation process was at times, having dealt with separation issues both professionally and personally has placed me in the perfect position to support you through your own dog’s healing process. You’ll be hearing more about Sierra’s journey throughout the book, as I will share some of the tips and tricks that were effective in helping her.
The second bit of good news is that there are now better behavior protocols and a greater number of supplementary products available than ever before to address separation issues. The length of time required for your dog to stop feeling anxious when left alone will depend on the severity of the issue, your dog’s temperament, your home environment, and the amount of effort put forth. But in the majority of cases, the issue is solvable, or at least manageable.
If the stress level is mild, vast improvements could be seen in as little as a few weeks. In the majority of moderate cases, however, recovery will be more on the order of a few months or longer. In extreme cases, it could take upwards of a year, but even then, it would be realistic to expect to see some progress within the first few months. The most valuable support tool your dog will have throughout the rehabilitation process is you. So as a caring owner who wants to help your beloved dog to feel secure and to have a good quality of life, take heart, have patience, and know that your goals are most likely reasonable and reachable.
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A cookie-cutter approach to solving behavior problems cannot possibly work for every dog. The interactive format of this book is designed to encourage you to become a fully engaged participant in your dog’s recovery. The information and attention to detail in each chapter will allow you to customize a behavior modification plan that takes into account the unique aspects of your lifestyle. Rather than feeling overwhelmed by the problem, you will instead gain the necessary confidence and skills to put your dog at ease.
First, you’ll learn about what separation anxiety is—and what it isn’t. The distinction is an important one because if, for example, a dog’s symptoms are due to boredom or a lack of exercise, approaching the case as one of separation-related distress is not going to solve the problem. Through considering carefully crafted questions and performing quick, easy experiments, you will determine whether your dog has a true separation issue and, if so, which type. A brief discussion of possible causes follows. Then it’s on to the Foundation Program, which will help you to lay a solid base upon which a behavioral protocol can be built.
One of the pillars of the Foundation Program is management. You’ll get plenty of creative “home alone” ideas for the times you need to run out to do errands, or to be gone for longer periods. That support system is crucial, because there is nothing so frustrating as feeling you are being held hostage in your own home!
The next two pillars of the Foundation Program are nutrition and exercise. Their role in keeping your dog calm and relaxed cannot be emphasized strongly enough. Even if you are well versed on those subjects, you might be surprised at some of the things you’ll discover.
Developing confidence is the final pillar of the program, and a pivotal one. You’ll learn how to boost your dog’s confidence in ways that will be fun for both of you. Increased self-confidence will allow your dog to cope more easily with potentially difficult situations, including being left alone.
The potential benefits of medication in treating separation anxiety will also be discussed. While many dogs with separation issues can be rehabilitated without pharmacological intervention, for others, it can be a beneficial adjunct to behavior modification efforts.
Once a firm foundation has been laid, it’s on to The Plan, where you will tailor a behavior modification protocol to your dog’s needs. You will be able to determine where to start, at what pace you should work, and when to advance to the next level. Don’t worry that the process will be complicated; it won’t. Maintaining a record of your progress will help you to stay motivated and on track.
To solve complex behavior problems, it is sometimes necessary to think outside the box. To that end, the final section of this book explores tools and products with which you may not be familiar, but which may be just the thing to help your dog. The Resources section contains information on where to find each one, as well as extensive information on other helpful books, organizations, and products.
You will also find stories throughout the book that were contributed by professional canine behavior specialists. Each narrative details how a particular dog’s separation anxieties were addressed. Some cases concern a client’s dog, while others involve the trainer’s own dog. The issues range from mild or moderate to those that are more severe, including a dog whose anxiety drove her on to a third-story ledge! What all of these accounts have in common is that they will give you a better idea of how behavioral treatment plans look when implemented in real life, and what type of results can be achieved.
Solving your dog’s separation issues will require patience and dedication, but rest assured, you can do it. After all, you’re armed with a strong love for your dog and all the information you need. The reward for your efforts will be a dog who can remain home alone feeling calm and relaxed—and that will bring peace of mind to you both.
Ian Dunbar, Founder of the Association of Pet Dog Trainers
Yet another beautifully written book by Nicole Wilde. Nicole combines her expertise in behavior modification with easy to follow guidelines, useful resources, and alternative remedies. This book will be extremely helpful to any owner of a dog with separation issues.
Suzanne Clothier, author, And Bones Would Rain from the Sky
As someone who (long ago) dealt first hand with a dog who had severe separation anxiety, I wish that way back then I'd had the information contained in Nicole Wilde's gentle and compassionate book, 'Don't Leave Me!' Holistic, thoughtful and clear, 'Don't Leave Me!' offers solid practical information for owners struggling with how best to help a dog suffering from separation anxiety. Wilde's own experience with S/A, combined with her professional expertise, is behind her understanding of all she discusses and recommends. Options range from time proven behavioral modification to psychotherapeutics to some promising new nutraceuticals and even pressure wraps, and how best to decide which combination of options may be most effective. Highly recommended, this book is a gift for those trying to help the dogs.
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