Unexpected trials will always be a part of life ... a lost set of keys, the stress of a botched work assignment, or the heartache of a full-blown health or relationship crisis. If we can accept that it is unrealistic to deny or run away from life's inevitable challenges, we're left with the only question that really matters - how we will choose to view adversity ... obstacle or opportunity.
How well you respond to life's inevitable challenges and detours depends on how you perceive adversity. Do you see problems as catalysts for growth, or obstacles to success and happiness?
The hard truth is from time to time we are going to stumble; encounter unexpected detours, and fail. No matter how much we try to outrun or sidestep adversity, it's going to happen. The question then becomes not how to avoid problems, but how to use them to our advantage.
Cultivating greater resilience is the key to making that happen.
Resilience such that it is ...
Stepping Stones to Greater Resilience delivers. There are many texts which approach the idea of resilience but most only grasp the concept and dance around the practice. Most people who pick up a self help book understand the concept of an idea completely. What we all really want is a guide to tell us what we have to do to improve our lives.
Stepping Stones actually does this.
Think of Stepping Stones as a walk through, or a checklist of things we all need to do to bolster ourselves and protect ourselves with our own resilience. This is a guide explaining exactly what sort of things can be done in our lives now, that will improve our ability to deal with difficult situations and roadblocks that fall in our path.
This guide does not dance around resilience and overload your mind with medical mumbo jumbo. This is a practical guide that is perfectly easy to pick up and read in a few hours. You can stop along the way and reflect on the chapters and begin to implement the steps in your own life. Even if you're already pretty resilient, reading this book can give you new ideas and insight into the process of being able to rise from any adversity.
This book teaches us that adverse situations are not to be feared, but accepted as challenges to overcome. We do not have to give up or run away, we can face any situation and conquer it if we have the proper skills. Stepping Stones cites exactly what these skills are and how to build them.
Unlike many self help books, this one acknowledges the fact that the family does not have to be part of your personal support network, and also acknowledges the fact that online communities can be a part of this fortified web as well. Everyone has a different sort of personal support network and it does not have to look a certain way.
A wise and useful book
I found this book to be incredibly useful. It's readable for a start, and where so many self-help style books can get repetitive, this one stays on track. It gives advice in short, quick pieces that you can digest, work through and use if they suit you. The part about unreasonable optimism struck me as one of the wisest things I have ever read: "Unrealistic optimism can entice a person into mentally enjoying the desired outcome in the present, leaving them with little motivation to take the action required toward achieving the desired future."
Stepping Stones to Greater Resilience is well written, the language is clear, simple and never falls into the trap of being sanctimonious. There is the clear feeling that the author really believes in and understands the ideas she is sharing. There are plenty of anecdotes which break up the content and give the reader a context for the information they have been learning. It's a great book - not just for people in dire need of recovery, but for people just wanted to gain a greater sense of personal resilience and strength.
Bad things DO happen to go people
No one can live a full or long life without having to face adversity and sadness at times. It's how you deal with such terrible situations that makes a difference. This book is filled with both inspiration and "how-to" practical suggestions on what to do to make it through those times when you're rather crawl into a closet and not come out again. Beautifully written, inspirational stories are presented to show the resilience people can have--a resilience most don't even realize they have until they are forced to face life's challenges. To me, this is a great book to read when you're feeling good...and then be sure to keep it close at hand to help you find your inner strength to handle those times when life turns sour.