Big Tail - Small Kite uses a well-known childhood story - The Ugly Duckling to help the reader remember their personal experience with shame, while using a kite metaphor to present a seven step process to healing it.
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Big Tail - Small Kite is a new self-help book that uses metaphor to depict the emotional and spiritual growth possible when healing shame. The premise is that if the human spirit is unable to reach its intended potential, it will grow desperate to self-actualize. Specifically, we are in a ‘spiritual crisis’ when our outer experience is incongruent with our inner sense of self. Being torn by shame makes matters worse because it is not something that we do. Rather, it is done to us. Each of us comes into the world free from the prejudgements of others and, by design, perfect. However, our outer experience teaches us two harsh realities. First, a shaming tear is inevitable in a culture that considers it humorous to disgrace others. Second, this experience charges our emotions so much that we have to develop an inner life to manage its effect. Like a kite with a torn sail cover - the downward force of shame and upward push of the human spirit - create the struggle for self-acceptance.
Flying is pushing up and against that which holds us down.
The holder and kite must work together to fly.
A healed spirit converts outside influences into motivation and lift.
Lift is learning how to get above the predictions of others.