confidence; (definition); belief in one's own abilities;

"You can determine how confident people are by what they don't say about themselves."  Brian Jett

Self-respect:  This is where it all begins, and these two words could be the two most important words in the world!  As I said previously, I took many, many hits from the notorious migrine headaches, which nearly shattered my life, but despite the headaches and the gloom and doom...I have always had self-respect for myself!  At my lowest and darkest moments, I have always liked myself, and I have felt that I have a lot to offer, and can be a productive citizen, just like anyone else, etc.

Honesty:  In recovery from any illness, a person MUST be honest with yourself...this is imperative!  You can't be in denial about the things that have crossed your path, and the things that you are responsible for.  Blaming everyone but yourself, is the easy way out...and you will never recover!  If you can't be honest with yourself...who can you be honest with?  If you lie to yourself...you're finished! 

"You cannot consistantly perform in a manner in which is inconsistent with the way you see yourself." Zig Ziglar

Negativism: Get rid of the negative people around you, that are bringing you down!  I don't like and I won't tolerate negative people around me!  These people dwell on what they CAN'T do, instead of what they CAN do!  Many times, they are people of "put-down" and make no apologies for it.  Jealousy; resentment are what these people bring with them, and I don't need these people to ruin my life! 

Failure vs. Set-back; I've never failed at anything!  Although it took many years to get my confidence back, my confidence is high, because I never like to use the word, "failure."  Instead, I like to use the words, "set-back."  I do this, because I have never failed at anything...as long as I TRY...and that's the most important thing...to TRY...if I TRY and don't make it...it's only a set-back and nothing more!  For those people who never try at anything...they're the failures of the world...not me!

I remember back when I participated in arts and crafts shows, not everything was peaches and cream!  I had my share of bombs!  But, if I did poorly, I didn't call myself a failure...and go into a depressed state!  It was only a set-back...and I would bounce back in the future and win my share! 

Smart/creative people: I've always liked to be around smart and creative people who I can learn from.  And, this alone requires confidence.  I've never been the fastest horse in the race...but I'm not a candidate for membership in the American Dufus Association either! 

Learner and a Doer: I can proudly say, that I have always been a learner and a doer.  And, how important is that, what, with all the technology and rapid changes in society today, "Jerry, can you solder?"  No, but I can learn!  "Jerry, can you run that machine over there?"  No, but I can learn!  "Jerry, do you know how to assemble these parts?  No, but I can learn! 

Praise: Praise in never given out for free...it has to be earned!  I have completed three writing courses in my 40's at a cost of a few hundred dollars and it took 18 months to complete.  I have participated in over 40 arts and crafts shows which took several years, and I have promoted six on my own. I have built an award-winning website of more than 150 colorful pages, and I have received the praise that goes with it from all over the world! But, in doing so...there's no free lunch...no pie in the sky..and no magic dust, either!  You are going to have to get out there and EARN that praise...and when people like you and your work...your confidence cannot help but build, etc. 

"You have to expect things of yourself, before you can do them."  Michael Jordan

You can't please everyone...so don't try!  Trying to please everyone...is sure a confidence- buster for sure!  My ex-wife was a person who tried to please everyone...and she nearly found herself in a mental institution!  If people like me and what I do...fine...if not...they can find someone else's time to waste!  When you tell people to flake-off...it boosts your confidence! 

Humor is the best medicine:  I've been in the humor business for over 50 years, and it has been humor that has helped my to keep my chin up during those difficult times, etc.  There is nothing that gives me more satisfaction, than to put a smile on somebody's face, and I've done it countless times.  Because of the humor, I make friends easliy, and because of this, I can tell the people with skeletons in their closet..to hit the road!  That's a confidence-builder in itself! 

"You have to have confidence in yourself and then be tough to follow through." Rosyln Carter

All of us are going to have to decide which road to take in life...the high road...or the low road!  Many years ago, I decided to take the high road in my life...and you may have guessed that my confidence is very high.  So much, in fact, that I can even walk on water...as long as the pond is frozen-over! 

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