For many us, including myself, our known and safe world is changing rapidly. Many of our hidden fears are coming to surface to be resolved and we may feel overwhelmed due to them. The good news is that in middle of what appears to be very chaotic, we can have a positive impact.
It is important to express how you feel and keep a boundary between who you are with what you are feeling.
When I say, "I am sad" I am stating a state of permanent being which I am re-enforcing with my word and associated emotion. When I say “I feel sad" I am expressing and acknowledging my feeling. If you repeat the words “I am sad” and “I feel sad” they have a different energy.
Next time, when you are alone or talking with a friend instead of saying:
- I am sad
- I am tired
- I am a failure
- I am not lovable
Say:
- I feel sad
- I feel tired
- I feel like a failure
- I feel not loved
It is OK to feel sad, angry, tired, worthless and as a failure. This is part of our human experience. These feelings are indicators of what we desire and expressing them are part of path to our emotional and spiritual growth.
Feel those feelings lovingly without judgement. Listen to them as a caring parent listens to a child that needs to be heard and acknowledged.
Remember, you are much more than what you feel. Do not confuse your feelings with state of your being.
Copyright . 2017 by Shervin Hojat
When people ask me, "How are you feeling?"
I generally answer, "With my hands."
Hopefully, this cracks them up and gives them the strong impression that I'm not suffering because I have (fill in the condition or disease) that is already in remission and wasn't that bad when I had it. People still think that because I'm paralyzed that I'm suffering.
Ron