After Charles and Karen studied the personalites/temperaments, their marriage radically changed for the better. They understand how they could complement each other instead of looking at their differences as annoyances. However, they still have moments when they forget what they learned! When they noticed one of them trying to take control, usually in a negative way, they stop right away and remind themselves that they're having a "pantry moment."
The phrase developed because Charles, the melancholy perfectionist, likes complements in the pantry, dishwasher, and refrigerator to be maintained in a categorical and orderly fashion (small items on top, canned goods in a row, cups and saucers in their proper slots in the dishwasher, etc.)
Karen, the fun-loving sanguine, is more interested in getting things put away - but not necessarily in a perfect way - so that she can get on to what is "fun."
When Karen is home, she tends to forget the "rules" and just put things behind the closet doors. This bugs Charles! Yet his precision bugs Karen! However, they have learned that this can work in their favor.
When they start to argue, they stop and remind themselves that they're having a "pantry moment."
Dinah was in Danger
Genesis 34:1-2 ........ Now Dinah, the daughter Leah had borne to Jacob, went out to visit the women of the land. When Shechem son of Hamor the Hivite, the ruler of that area, saw her, he took her and violated her.
Although Dinah didn't choose to be raped, she placed herself in a dangerous place.
The second step to purity is to avoid dangerous situations. Don't go places like the local mountain lookout or a dark corner of a house where temptation lurks.
Kathy Collard Miller, D. Larry Miller & Larry Richards, PhD are the authors of the book I have reviewed above.
Larry & Kathy, high school sweethearts, were married in 1970, expectinh that with God at the center of their lives they would have that perfect marriage. Reality struck quickly, however, and over the next seven years little irritations grew into big issues. Then Kathy made a choice to love Larry whether or not he met her needs, and Larry noticed and was drawn back to her. They began sharing their story and writing about their experience. In the ensuing years, the Millers have written more than fifty books, spoken in thrity states, and brought their message to seven foreign countries.
About the General Editor - Dr. Larry Richards is a native of Michigan who now lives in Raliegh, North Carolina. He was converted in the Navy in the 19050s. Larry has taught and written Sunday school curriculum for every age group, from nursery through adult. He has published more than two hundred books, and his books have been translated into some twenty-six languages.
