You have the sometimes bemoaned distinction of being a middle child. Sandwiched in between a spirited big sister and a rambunctious younger brother . . .

What role do you take in the family?

It has often been said that middle children have to try a little harder to be heard, which can sometimes make them feel insecure.

Do you feel that way sometimes?

Let me assure you, you don’t need to compete. Your natural inquisitiveness and enjoyment of learning and attention to detail will take you wherever you want to go.

Besides, you are so interesting and fun to listen to!

Being in the middle is not a bad place to be. Occasionally it gives you time to be alone in your private world where quietness becomes a canvass upon which to paint your dreams. I know you like to curl up on the top bunk in your room and read, to lose yourself in stories of brave lads who fight fantastic beings and bring peace to troubled places.

Do you ever imagine yourself being like them?

I believe at heart you ARE a peacemaker. You are careful, watchful, loving. I have witnessed this time and again –like last Christmas when you received a gift you already had. Instead of keeping it for yourself to exchange for something else later, you immediately gave it to your younger brother because you knew he would enjoy it.

Your pleasure in his pleasure was delightful!

I believe a middle child is like the peanut butter and jelly in a peanut-butter-and-jelly sandwich –a favorite lunch, by the way, for millions!

So, Austin, on this your 10^th birthday, think of yourself as a peanut-butter-and-jelly boy. It isn’t second place; it’s a first rate, wonderful position to be in.

It suits you well!

Love, Grams