Do we choose suffering? We tend to avoid pain. Numbness and addictions indicates an avoidance of pain. With suffering we recycle in the suffering going over and over the same story. Pain lies below suffering. When we choose to go into the suffering the pain can end, otherwise it remains unending. When we make the choice for Yes, the Grace can come in.

When we can hold/contain the pain, Grace can come in. Containing requires staying present with the pain or specific emotion, without slipping away and becoming unconscious. When we stop containing the pain, we fall back into our unconscious 'shadow' which feeds on pain like a hungry beast. Withdrawal into fear, feeling powerless, victimized, holding onto anger, or feeling not present all indicates we have fallen into our shadow selves - parts of ourselves which we deny.

We can hold these parts with compassion. When we run away from our pain, which was meant to be faced, it only gets worse. When physical or emotional discomfort arises, our mind gets activated and spins around all the details. Let the thoughts come and contain them without going over and over them. We keep the energy inside ourselves rather than projecting it out onto a person or situation. We have a choice whether the energy spins inside of us or spins out into blaming or being angry at others. Then the situations will continue to occur over and over again, creating suffering each time if we choose taking no responsibility for ourselves.

Say "Yes" to the present moment rather than creating inner resistance. Surrender and see how life starts flowing for you rather than against you. If we choose, however, to hold a point of inner containment, then we experience more discomfort like a pot of boiling water with a lid. The energy builds so it can transform. We also can choose to hold no anger towards the thoughts that arise in our minds. This can be a challenge for when our minds become agitated this indicates some unconscious choice.

Our minds want to stop us feeling. We can bring ourselves back to the present by screaming, exercising, using our breath, or focusing on feelings or sensations in our body. As we contain, the patterns will dissolve. A truth lies at each layer of the pattern, when we remain present. When all the layers dissolve, we experience joy or peace or oneness.

When we learn how to contain our emotional pain and emotional reactions, we create a cup like a grail. Then Grace has a place to come into to change our lives and those around us.

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