Why not just date? Why not just live together? Many of my over 60 friends who have experienced a divorce or the death of a spouse have chosen to remain single. I hear over and over again the argument for remaining single in fact…”I enjoy being selfish with my time and space.” One or two of my friends have reported that they feel free to pursue their own unique gifts without being in a relationship.
An article in Psychology Today reports that often a person over 60, who has taken the time to pursue their dreams, will in fact fall in love after having doing so!
This makes sense to me. A person who loves themselves fully by honoring their creative nature should and would be open to meeting people that engage in the passions that they too enjoy. It is realistic to believe, that if you are pursuing your interests, you will meet “birds of a feather” and perhaps fall in love with one of them.
So maybe the key is being ready. Age is not the key here…following your heart is. If your intention is to meet someone to take care of you in the places that you are not taking care of yourself then perhaps you are looking for a crutch and not a partner. People make this mistake in the 20’s and 30’s as well…let’s not even stop and nod at the doomed mid life crisis in this BLOG! However; when you are looking at other people with a heart that is full, you are not looking to fulfill a need, but perhaps for engaging company.
Isn’t that what love is really all about? Finding someone who can meet you where you are…choosing to be with someone who adds to your life in a way that enriches you? Getting married at any age is a celebration to acknowledge that you have found someone who “has your back”. Choosing to make a commitment to someone that sees you fully and in whom you are well pleased. Marriage is a give and take…an ebb and flow that can be like art or music…ever changing and beautiful in the eyes of the beholder.
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