Yes, as a well-endowed man myself; it was a real release for me to write this book. Sex has always been a topic that everyone can relate to but are we really understanding of other people's views. I say no. Most women say men see sex as a physical act while men say women get too emotional when it comes to sex. Both are wrong to make such general statements but a person's life experiences shape their opinion. When you experience so much of one thing it's hard not to see your opinion as fact and unfortunately the opinions about men are accepted as fact because women communicate them often! (lmao)

Follow me: A kiss on the cheek stolen with a friendly hug. The scent of fine cologne stays with her as I remove my coat and innocently sit down. The conversation is never about anything sexual but geared toward topics that would make me a good man in general. Her mind drifts but is lead gently by movements of flexing biceps and boyish smiles. Money being a natural aphrodisiac and synonym for security, it's worked into the conversation via career. Penetrating a woman physically has to be achieved mentally first, if you really want to get it good. Nothing beats comfort so time is spent with no concern for the clock. She's feeling the heat of her own thoughts at this point while I appear clueless, putting her in the driver's seat. Contrary to popular belief, women like to stalk their prey as well. Compliments coupled with more friendly hugs establish physical contact and heighten sexual tension. "Wow, I can't believe you did all this yourself. Can I be down with you? Dayum, gimmie another hug because I just wanna say I know a star." We both laugh, a sense of humor will get you a long way. If she's laughing with you and not at you, she will let down her guard a little. Then comes the awkward moment created by my supposed realization of the sexual chemistry. It has to be real... so pull away. Then during a comfortable cuddle while watching a movie I made the confession, "I don't mean to be funny but I know dudes eat you up everywhere you go?" No matter how she responds my reaction is the same, "Okay, if that's what you say." More smiles then a kiss, where ever is closest to me; lips, hips, head, cheek, etc. If a woman is seriously contemplating having sex with you they try to get a preview by feeling you up. I never let that happen as we kiss because I already know she's gonna jump when she feels it. I initiate a break in the action then say, "Woo, you are too much." Lip biting with short kisses as she responds, I open her shirt to implore circle motion on her breasts. Now is the time for her to feel me via a soft grind, something I've mastered. Imagination is key, so I do it as if I was already inside her. She tells herself that this is what she wants and now so it's time to be go hard... pants off. She stops me just to regain control but I act as if I am sorry I offended her with my aggression. Trust me, she doesn't want me to go anywhere and i know it. She moves us to a better room or position. It’s condom time; but not without exposing a well cut beefcake chest. I have no tats so there are no distractions from the soft yet hard surface she will soon hold on to as I slowly slide many inches of thickness in her. I'll stop there... lol.

What's the point? My point is reality... we can only have a discussion about sex, feelings, and the expectations afterwards; when we visit the moments where we made the decision to engage. It's been my experience that once a woman has qualified me sexually as something she wants to keep; she begins to shape the experience into something she wants it to be. There lies the problem... communication or lack of. Our disappointments with the opposite sex are always a combination of what we do and what we expect. We try to sip the milk before we buy then either claim, put it back on the shelf, or implement a prolonged rental. Wow!

In my book, Diary Of A 12 Inch Brotha, the main character does just that with many different women and gets himself into lots of trouble. Shout out to my boys used in the case study Logan Steffon, Dulane Barnes, and Darric "DB" Boyd. -DF/x