What’s your favorite position? Listen carefully when your partner gives you the answer to that question. They're giving you important information about themselves that even they may not be aware of. How a person finds the most enjoyment when having sex with you isn’t just based on the physical in a long term relationship setting. Mental and emotional connections become more significant as intimacy becomes the number one goal.
Everyone knows that relationships can be complicated, mainly because we ourselves are complex individuals. Getting two people to agree on anything for an extended period of time is hard to do and unfortunately sex is no exception to that rule. Think of a couple that you would consider as having a successful long-term relationship; then separate them and ask about their sex life. Other than hearing two very different opinions about the sex; your other senses will pick-up a feeling of inequality from one or both partners used to keep the relationship going.
Whether it’s tolerating the lack of sex, time of sex, style of sex, frequency of sex or reason for sex…the fulfillment level is usually not equal for both people. Sexual fulfillment is a big part of intimacy that’s why it’s right up there with finances when it comes to couples breaking up. So, if you want to find out where your relationship is really headed...just read the sex!
Often the answer to most problems are staring us right in the face, but in this case... it literally is! Face to Face Missionary with kissing is the most personal(intimate) form of sex and doggy-style is the least because it leaves no possibility of kissing while engaged. Use that as your scale your scale for intimacy and fill in other posistions in the middle. Is she facing you or not? When you first hooked up, was it Cowgirl but now its reverse Cowgirl? Think about it for a minute, usually the most important things tend to be the smallest and most common. As intimacy deteriorates in your relationship the clock is ticking on it's life span!
