First of all, WE cann't forgive to the point that we let some offenses go completely. 

This is something that only our Creator, Who is the Author of Forgivenss, can help us with, when we turn to Him for help.

As He made us, He knows and understands where we are in our individual relationships.

As a human, Jesus found that there were many times He could be offended daily. One wonders how He managed to remain such a model of God's Love and grace.

It's not until we examine the Scriptures and see that He spent many times in prayer to gain His Father's perspective and plan on how to deal with folks. [see Mark 6:46]

Things happened when He did. John 11:41-43; Matt. 14:19, 20

It's important that we see He needed the Father's help on a daily basis, sometimes "awhile befor daybreak."

Who, do you ask, did He get alone to pray? [see Matt. 14:23]  After meeting the needs of many people, He wanted to get alone with His Father to gain strength to keep ministering.

When He, or we, are alone in prayer, there is an openness with God that doesn't seem to be present when we are with others.

Have you noticed that our thoughts are divided when we are in a group? I'm sure this is the main reason Jesus longed to get away alone to talk with the Father.

It is times like this we also will be able to concentrate on what the need is at the moment, and be more open for God's answers.

As we come to Him, as a little child, (like-mannered), we begin to see how big God is, and how much we need His help.

Dr. Charles Stanley tells us, "Our cry of humility conveys total helplessness and dependence upon almighty God." [In Touch  July 2013 Magazine pg. 48 "The Pathway of Peace"}

God will be willing and ready to forgive us when we ask for forgiveness for our resentments and hurts.

It's then that we will be able to forgive those who've deeply hurt us in a situation.

If we will not be willing to ask Him for forgiveness, then he has no obligation to forgive us for our feelings and thoughts we have against somone, thus making it impossible for us to forgive. [see Mark 11:26]

May we remember how important prayer was for Jesus, and realize that we also need to spend quality time praying.

As we draw closer to the Lord, He will draw closer to us, revealing His will for us, so we can then pray effectively and fervently for his will to be done.

When we understand His directives, and act upon them, we will begin to see Him affect our feelings, thoughts, and actions.

Change comes within us as we learn to forgive others, as well as ourselves, for our part in the problem.

We will find God's Holy spirit will work in us as He meets us in our private times.