(Excerpt from an article written by Blondie L. Clayton)

• Does he have a job? How long has he been on his job? Is it a job with a future?


• How does he handle his money? Is he stingy? Is he always complaining about enough to pay his bills?


• Where does he live and with whom?


• Does he wear heavy cologne? Maybe be a sign of drug cover up.


• Have you ever caught him in a lie? Or his stories seem to be different every time he tells it


• Does he curse?


• Get angry and out of control for little things?


• What is his spiritual beliefs?


• How is his relationship with his mother, sisters, brother, boss, co-workers?


• Are you hobbies and interest compatible?


• How is his hygiene? Fingernails clean?


• Has he been married? Why did he divorce?


• Find out how his last relationship ended? What happened?


• Does he put you down when you are alone or in front of others?


• Is he too smooth, too perfect?


• Does he want to control, ask you a lot of questions about your whereabouts?


• Or is he a know it all?


• How is his spending habits?


• Does he have a doting mother?


• Is he quick to put off things for tomorrow?


• Who pushes him around, manipulates him?


• Be ware of  the overly concern for dressing, either on your part or his


• Are you having to defend him, stand up for him?


• Watch for roving eyes


• Is he rude and over bearing to your family?


• Can he change a car tire, or a light bulb?