Dan gave his paycheck to Carol and never questioned what she was doing. Carol kept them in debt. As a matter of  fact, when things got tight Carol would stop paying his car payment, insurance, etc.,  and wouldn’t even tell him.

This is a serious money issue in a relationship which will explode over time. Where is the romance? Where is the love? It got loss in the money fights, with words that hurt and can’t be taken back.

Overdue bills stress couples. Whose thinking about romance? She’s called you names, poked holes in your manhood. Your  thoughts maybe on love and romance because it relieves stress but guaranteed that is not her thought. She may even submit to you but sooner or later the bedroom grows cold. Commitment to marriage assumes the role of a husband providing for his wife, not the other way around.

A husband should be able to afford the home and at least the utilities. That’s a good place to start, even if your spouse makes more. This way whatever she has in excess can be invested, or used to cover vehicle cost, splurging, etc.

Two people entering into marriage should have a clear understanding of how the income will be utilized and distributed. Couples who think love will see them through, end up disappointed, or divorced.

My mother handled my father’s money but my wife comes from two previous marriages, bad financial decisions, and betrayal, so we manage the money together.  

If you are in a relationship now and you are feeling the financial stress, fighting won’t solve the problem. Communicate your feelings and seek financial counseling. Don’t expect a different result unless you change what you’re doing.

God made man first. Man was to provide for his bride, not his bride provide for him. If you as a man are not feeling good abut the position you’re in, perhaps there is a deeper issue to confront. Take responsibility and flip the switch.   

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