We must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking. and second the decision for a mate must be made on a spiritual and intellectual basis before it's made on a emotional one.

A more important question is - how do you catch the RIGHT one?
Simple: You take only the bus that's headed in the RIGHT DIRECTION.

First, we must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking. And
second the decision for a mate must be made on a spiritual and
intellectual basis before it's made on an emotional one.

"What about love? Shouldn't that be the third?" you ask. No, and
I'll tell you why. "The heart is deceitful above all things and
beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jer 17:9).

The heart is willful and is driven by its own agenda. It does not consider things
rationally and intelligently it just loves to love! Therefore you
have to point it in
the right directions: "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is
the
wellspring of life." (Proverbs 4:23).


Whenever you meet a man you need to get clearance from God. Check out his attributes, and then
allow your heart to engage.

Dating exists not for mating; it exists for collecting data. The biblical design would be friendship, courtship and
then marriage.

Friendship is two people walking together in
agreement and accountability, learning and growing together.

Courtship follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another
exclusively - it is in the decisive turning toward the agreed-upon
goal of the marriage altar.

It is a period of laying a foundation
and preparing your life together after marriage. But dating? Well,
if you do date, use the time wisely to gather facts:

1. Check out the fabric

Is the person mate material? Does this man have an intimate
relationship with the Father through Jesus Christ? Does he care what
God thinks about his behavior? Is he accountable to God as well as
another co-laborer in the faith?


Accountability is an important factor.
It is imperative to maintaining a committed relationship. Is
your potential spouse a member of the same family - the family of
God?

Scripture is clear on this: "Do not be yoked together with
unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in
common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (2 Cor
6:14).

You need to have common interests and values. You have a similar spiritual walk.
You eat the same spiritual diet. You enjoy a lot of similar things.
You have like interests, like goals in life.
You have had like experiences in your background. .


2. Does this man want you? Is he pursuing you?

The man who is right for you will pursue you, and God's hand in the
relationship will be clear. No guessing, no fleeces, no dead ends.

Scripture says: "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives
favor from the Lord" (Prov 18:22).

Note - who finds whom?


THE MAN FINDS THE WIFE.

From the beginning of time, God has transported men
& women across the world in order to put them together. At the RIGHT
TIME He will bring that man on the scene and he will find you. In
God's perfect design, the man is the one who recognizes his mate.

Adam has no problem recognizing that Eve was his missing rib.


You do not need to strategically place yourself anywhere. You don't have to
help a guy out because he's shy! Men will do whatever they have to
do to get what they truly want. The man in your life should recognize you as the pearl of great price in his life and be willing to do whatever he must in order to gain your hand.

If he is passive about gaining your affections, take it as a sign that he is not interested. You don't need a bunch of men in your life to make you feel all right about yourself. You need only one man....the one God has selected to select you.
So trust God's timing in this. He is the ultimate matchmaker.

Relax, sit pretty and allow yourself to be found. Again - WAIT until
the man voices his intentions. He should take the lead in
establishing the relationship.

You may have inkling that he is the one, but God
will use the man to set the tone of the relationship. Allow him the
opportunity to woo you - this is your first act of submission. Jesus
set the standard for all men to follow. They should love us first.
And they should lead the relationship.


3. The man in your life should not desire to move into your house only into your heart

A man who prepares for your future has made his intentions clear. A
man who is husband material has the means to take care of a wife. He
is a responsible human being who understands he needs to have
something to offer.

4. Check out his buddies.

Everyone knows birds of the same feather flock together, yet most
women fail to see the connection between a man and his friends. A
man's pals tell you a lot about the person that you haven't seen
yet.

They reveal things about the guy's character that might be
hidden when
he is on good behavior. Everyone knows how to put his best foot
forward.

5. Check out his relationship with his mother. How does he treat her?

This is your preview of how he will treat you.


6. Check out the patterns of his life.

Do you see repeated cycles of drama in his personal kingdom? Broken
relationships? Problems in making commitments?
Mood swings? Is a problem always someone else's fault? Does
he embrace responsibility? Does he keep his promises? Is he a man of a good reputation?

Remember all garments look wonderful hanging
in the store, but with wear, some begin to unravel. Give yourself time and space to check out this person.


TIME WILL ALWAYS REVEAL..... whether or not he is made of the right stuff.

7. Does this man have a vision for his life? Is he running with that vision?


Remember, God decided Adam needed help once Adam got busy DOING his
assignment. As we saw Adam, a man doesn't need help until he was
busy doing what he was created and called to do. Is the man in your
life guided by sense of destiny and purpose, or does he just allow
life to happen around him?

A man who is not certain of his mission
can be a most miserable person - and you'll be miserable too if you
know where YOU want to go in life.

A man who has vision is not intimidated by a woman whose mission statement is clear.
He will be your best ally, cheerleader and assistant because he wants you both
to make it!

A man who cannot be supportive of your achievements
because he is floundering in a sea of uncertainty over his own life is not a healthy partner to have and to hold forever.
You want a man who is firmly anchored in his identity in Christ. Remember we are praying for a man who will be able to be a leader in his own home.
man

His first instinct should be to want to cover you and provide for
you. Your job is to decide if this is the man God has ordained for
you to complement.


8. Complementary

Do your talents and gifts complement his?
Do his gifts complement yours?
What about your temperaments?
Do you see the two of you as an effective team capable of bringing blessing to the lives of those around you?

Do your futures mesh?
Can you coordinate your gifts in an attractive and effective way?
This is why knowing your purpose is so important.
Make sure your hearts beat for mutual causes.
Is this relationship expensive spiritually, emotional or
physically?

Does your longing for a mate make you willing to forfeit
who you are in the process? Or does he see you as the gift that you
are?

The man in your life should consider you a rare find, a
priceless
jewel...................he is getting ready to get blessed big-time!

Any relationship that causes you to feel unworthy, unlovely,
unacceptable,
undesirable or that you have to work for love is too expensive!


God has called the man to cover, protect and provide not only materially
for a woman, but emotionally and spiritually as well. You should be
richer in mind, body and spirit for your union with the man of your
dreams. The man in your life should make rich deposits into your
heart
and spirit, not withdrawals.

9. Does he have a healthy love & acceptance of himself?

Make sure the man in your life has taken time to heal from past
relationships and has made peace with himself. How he cares for
himself is how he will care for you. A man's relationship with God
is crucial here. His love for himself will only be as strong as his
love for God.

This is not something that you can impart. You cannot
be his savior or teacher. That is out of spiritual order. In his
rightful place he should be leading you to
a richer relationship with Christ.

If he is causing you to compromise your faith and destabilize your walk, if he is leading
you into sexual sin or causing you to be distracted from your
commitment to Christ, the relationship is too expensive.

Offending the Lover of your soul, who promises you eternal love, is too high a
fare to pay for a ride that has a limited run. If you and your man
can't soar in the Spirit, when the force of your love for another is
tested by the pull or gravity of the world your union will not be able to survive. So you decide.

How much is your life worth? How much is your love worth? You will
be able to accept only what you believe you deserve. God himself calculated the worth of your love and decided it was worth His life.


He now pledges you His love for eternity. Yes, Jesus sets the example for all others to follow when He paid a ransom for His bride.


Should you expect less from a mortal man? Throughout the Biblical age, men were
willing to pay the cost for the hand that they desired. The truth of
the matter is, everyone knows that anything worth having, costs. And
no one gets a ride in this life for free.

"Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as
well dance."




From Someone Quiet..

"Treat every opportunity as though its your last!"



JESUS IS LORD.
"Let The Praise Begin"

Min. Nina L. Clark

The Will of God will never take you to where the Grace of God will not protect you.
Don't miss out on your BLESSING just because it's not in the package you was expecting...