Internet Dating is Not Like Ordering a Pizza

Cherie Burbach
Bonjour Publishing (2008)
ISBN 9780978974756
Reviewed by Paige Lovitt for Reader Views (12/08)

 If I had only had this book four years ago when I attempted Internet dating!  Cherie Burbach offers sound advice for those of us who are willing to take the chance to meet potential mates online. This book will both assist people who have unsuccessfully tried Internet dating and people who are new to it.  Just glancing through some of the Internet dating sites you can get a good idea of why some people might never receive a response or why they might receive the wrong responses, for example, the women who pose for their photos in lingerie but state that they are looking for a serious relationship.

Cherie Burbach discusses many mistakes that people make when creating their profiles.  Her suggestions gave me a lot of food for thought.  These included remarks about:  bitter comments about past relationships, using improper grammar, using generic responses and posting the wrong kind of photos.  My biggest gripe with the wrong photos is when it is obvious that the man has his arms around a woman who has been cut out of the photo, or when the man takes a photo of himself. Let’s face it; you can’t get a good angle when taking a picture like that. 
           
Ms. Burbach relies on her experience as an Internet Dating Consultant to offer sound recommendations based upon her extensive experience in this area.  She teaches the reader how to best present ourselves so that we can show off our positive attributes and encourage positive responses from potential mates.

The first piece of advice offered in the book was my favorite. She states, “You have to be complete as a single because you can’t expect someone else to make you whole.”  This is so true .  Who on earth would want that responsibility?  She also promotes two huge ideas for dating success; you must have the right attitude and the right profile.   Also included is a valuable list of online resources that offer information that will cover all aspects of relationships.
           
I highly recommend “Internet Dating is Not Like Ordering a Pizza” by Cherie Burbach. I think that these principles could also be applied to non-Internet daters that need to find new ways to present themselves that will attract the interest of others and spark up some good conversations.