The importance of seeing the self clearly in relationships.

So many of us play the blame game in relationships. It’s always the other person’s fault, but is it really? It is easy to point fingers and become victims, and that’s why we do it. What we need to do is take a look at ourselves and realize that things happen for a reason. When bad things happen in relationships, we must be willing to acknowledge the part we played. Our actions affect everyone around us--everyone. Perhaps we don’t always see the fine lines and invisible connections, but they are there. It takes two people to make a relationship, and it takes two people to destroy one. Sometimes we make bad choices, especially in our youth when we often equate sex with love. When these bad choices start haunting us, we look elsewhere to satisfy the cravings we all have for love. Some people will run into the arms of another, some will lose themselves in work, some will spend a lot of time away from home--anything to deal with the pain inside. If we don’t understand ourselves, how can we expect to understand others? This is where the blame game shines the brightest: in a relationship with two people trying to understand the other instead of trying to understand themselves! Learning about ourselves--the truth, not sugar-coated fantasies--is the most important thing we can do for ourselves, for our loved ones, for humanity in general. It is also one of the hardest things to do, but we must learn these lessons if we want to make our lives the best that they can be.

In love and relationship we have a combination of two individuals with different energies. This combination leads to the formation of a third entity--the relationship itself. If we, as individuals, learn what we need and want in a partnership it will be easier to know whether or not a person is the ‘one’. Having a natal chart reading is a wonderful way to learn about ourselves. Having a natal chart reading for a partner can be quite illuminating--you can learn about things within their psyche that they may not even know about themselves. Synastry is the combination of two natal charts, two individuals, and how they perceive each other and the relationship.

One of the best tools for self-knowledge is astrology. Some of us will never take up the torch and light the way toward personal evolution--this is something I have learned the hard way. I want to help people, but I now know that you cannot help those that won’t help themselves. Astrology is an ancient scientific-art that has been used throughout the centuries by Kings, Queens, Military leaders, Religious figures, and the masses. For a very long time divination has been hidden underground. We were stripped of this knowledge by fearful leaders looking to control us by forcing us to follow their beliefs, their laws, and in the meantime, filling their pockets. Now, in the Age of Aquarius, the tools of self-knowledge are once again available to us. We should make the most of them.