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The truth is that the only kind, humane, dignified, painless choice FOR EVERYONE CONCERNED would be to call Dr. Kevorkian --
The Terri Schiavo death vote has some people thinking the husband IS the problem. First of all, the spouse is responsible to provide the burial...per the other's wishes. At least that was the case when my husband died.
To watch Terri's parents fight over her pitiful soul-- like a dog fighting for her bone is disgusting. Displaying Terri on the news and TV is disgraceful.
To watch Gov. Bush issue orders to take her from Hospice back to the hospital and put her back on life support is absolutely unlawful.
Regardless of whatever the reason,
the husband heard her request wishing NOT to be put on life support.
People in their 20's these days are overwhelmed with death - American Soldiers, 9-11-01, terrorists, etc.
So it would be very common to see something on TV or a relative is ill;etc., that would bring up this conversation.
Just wonder how many 20, 30,40,50,60, etc. would WANT to be PUT on life support and entertain NO QUALITY OF LIFE by CHOICE? Do you know what you want? If you don't? WHO DOES.
A husband, if he outlives his wife, would know the wife's final wishes before her parents. Usually the parents die first and who is left -- hopefully your spouse or even better -
GET YOUR STUFF IN ORDER NOW
DON'T BE A BURDEN
To thoroughly understand these choices, you have to talk to your doctor; read about it, understand the reality of each of these situations via a family member or close friend, however, be clear before you make a decision.
As a young widow, I lived the shock involved when your spouse passes. The spouse is LEGALLY RESPONSIBLE TO MAKE THE ARRANGEMENTS. That was my experience.
However, do it yourself NOW - eliminate people bartering over your remains before you even pass!
Over ten years is a long long time to vegetate and to have a spouse -- your other half -- existing for your hopeless revival.
I can only speak for myself. But my husband is very aware that if he ever allowed Gov. Bush to make a specticle of me and parade my pitiful body through the streets of Tampa and let everyone see me looking like that --
he better pray I die in transit!
My dad had a stroke and for 17 months he could not rehabilitate due to other complications. When the doctor told him this was the best it would ever get, my dad pulled the feeding tube out and handed it to the Doctor.....
As a daughter, I watched my father who decided HIMSELF to starve to death with hospice at his side - it was his idea. However for me::: his choice was absolutely morbid and devastating.
We all have a religious belief (or NOT)about death and so be it. Today anyway -- we do have to make choices for ourselves.
I am a baby boomer and I sure pray that I go fast. If not, I hope there is a pill or shot or a new Dr. K. to put me out of my misery.
Just like my father, I believe in quality of life NOT JUST EXISTENCE in a dead body with no brain and the ability to grown.
Long-term care policies are great security and peace of mind if you live that long. More people are living to a 100 every day. Isn't the life insurance policy only payable up to Age: 99 years? oops!!!
Mothers and fathers normally do not want their children to change their diapers; or feed them, or bathe them, etc.
Many children do take care of their parents -- the blessed and the few.
When you are elderly and grumpy and/or handicapped or feeble, the best choice is a policy that provides for your care 24/7 in a facility prepared to handle your personal situation or home care.
l. Get a "Living Will" eliminate
stess on your family to make
this decision for you!
This is your personal decision
to execute your options NOW
while you are able -- On? or Off?
A. Do you wish to be kept alive ON
life support?
Yes: This means you will be kept
alive on life support systems
until whenever/forever?
TERRI SCHIAVO!
No: This means you will NOT be
kept alive by any artificial
life support systems and/or
if you do die, you will not
be revived.
No: This means you eventually
will starve to death and
when you have 2 weeks or less
you go to Hospice OR .
No: Hospice may come to your home
if you wish and keep you
comfortable the best they
can as your body
deteriorates,turns colors
like knottypine,drips
fluids.... until one
"blessed day," you heart
finally stops beating and
you die!
No: Family members suffer each
and every day as you
waste away to nothing - your
family begs God for your
peace from life.
As I sat and watched my father go through the hospice experience for 17 days, I was terrified. I promised my Dad he would die with dignity. This was far from it, BUT what choice did I have? Dr. K was in jail.
Hence, I found it necessary to take pictures of my dad in the casket because he looked better "DEAD," and I needed to temporarily block out the picture in my mind of decay, death and dying. I would NOT wish this experience on anybody!
2. Pre-need memorial planning
paid for = one call does it
all -- less financial/emotional
stress for the survivors.
3. Plan your funeral exactly the
way you want it. Eliminate
family arguments over what YOU
would want. Let the last words
be YOURS.
When a loved one dies -- no matter how prepared and ready you are -- you are in shock -- maybe relief -- maybe grief -- BUT you are in shock! (especially if a child or spouse passes). If you do not grieve then, you will sooner or later.
I write frequently about death and express it as vividly as I am able -- the feeling -- the questioning -- the emptiness.
Be prepared !
Don't Ignore that
Which Comes Naturally
The Certainty
Called D E A T H
February 2005: Poor T is being treated worse than a criminal on death row. Torn apart UNKNOWINGLY between Heaven and Earth.
Get a living will for your own DIGNITY!
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Reviewed by miranda smith (reader) 3/25/2005
Let us not beat around the Bush. The Democratic Party is not any diferant than Adolph Hitlers Nazi Party. The small differance is the courts are used to exterminate the unborn in the USA.
Christians are not loved by the left. Janet Reno went into Waco and exterminated the children by burning them all to death. The hatred on the left is candy coated and people must know realize taht this group hates the
1-Ten Commandments
2-Hates the Pledge of Allegience
3-Has a man like Ted Kennedy as a leader.
A man who never was prosecuted for killing Mary Jo Kopechnie & fetus
4-Bill Clinton, A man who was accused by 7 women of sexually abusing them
5-The left wanted to see the mass graves continue in Iraq
6-The left wants nativity scenes removed from any public displays
7-the left holds candle light vigils for murdering child molesters, oh yes they do. While ignoring most victims.
8-now the left wants the abortion of "only" fetuses that may contain a "gay gene" to be saved against abortion
9-the left and its senator Robert KKK Byrd also was against the Civil Rights act, the amjority of Republicans passed the civil rights act
in 3 years will we be saying
"HEIL HILLARY"