Do you feel that self esteem takes root in early childhood? Do you feel that throughout your life that root can be smashed. But do you believe that once smashed it can soar again and blossom?
I have been thinking about self esteem and I feel that self esteem takes root when you are a child. When you are a child and you do not feel loved or special, in your own home your root never grows.
When a child tries to achieve some special activity they should be encouraged even when it means they are leaving their soft cushion behind and trying something new.
FOR A SMALL CHILD A HUGE ACCOMPLISHMENT IS:
(1) Learning to tie their shoes.
(2) Dressing and feeding themselves.
(3) Potty Training. If you are happy your child is happy.
(4) Picking up toys and dirty clothes and putting them away.
CHILDREN ARE AFRAID TO FAIL:
Sometimes a child will not want to try something new because they are afraid they will fail. This is when you need to say, "that is okay, you tried that is all that counts there will always be a next time." Add a hug and a pat on the back. These words and jesters go a long way in helping you're child root blossom.
Another place for a child to cultivate self esteem is in elementary school. I feel that apart from the curriculum of reading, writing and math the child’s root should blossom. To be able to puff out their chests and say, "I did that."
Whether it is drawing or writing a short paragraph anything to make that child feel special even if it is for only a few minutes a day in their young life.
When a child grows up and becomes a teenage and their root is smashed or never develops this is the time that child could really damage themselves emotionally and physically.
As a young adult when you need to start making choices about your education, career and your spouse. Your root plays an important role. Has it grown and blossomed or was it smashed.
How we make these choices and live our normal everyday lives from these decisions we have made in the past will follow you for the rest of your life.
For some, especially women it is marriage. When your spouse is unhappy who do they take their unhappiness out on - you the spouse the person closest to him?
If he is miserable in his mind and body then he will make your life miserable. You will start receiving mental and sometimes physical abuse.
Spouses especially women will usually take this mental and physical abuse because they are trapped - and small children are involved. This is how people trap themselves into situations that are hard separating from.
When you are a woman with small children it is hard to make the decision to end your marriage. If you are not working outside of your home and rely on your husband to bring home the bacon, you are definitely a sitting duck for receiving abuse.
Especially when you're root has been smashed into a thousand pieces and making a drastic change in your life terrifies you. You would rather go on in this matter instead of rocking the boat.
Suddenly one day something earth shattering happens. Maybe it’s the death of a family member or maybe it’s something else. Now life as you know has ended. Now you have to make a decision. Do you end your marriage or whatever your immediate problems are?
Now is the time to be happy and terrified at the same time. If you make the decision to end your marriage this is a huge step in fighting for you and your children's freedom.
NOW WHAT IS THE NEXT STEP?
(1) Move.
(2) Get a job.
(3) Go back to school.
(4) Volunteer.
(5) Hobby.
(6) Join a gym and exercise your mind and body.
TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE:
Or you can choose to do several of these choices. By taking control of your life without realizing it your root will blossom. The sad part of having low self esteem for most of us is not even realizing when your root has been smashed.
EVERYBODY NEEDS TO FEEL SPECIAL:
For people who are raising their children as a single parent your root will blossom when you are in control of your life. Take the time to make your children feel special.
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF:
For me my root blossomed when I started writing a few years ago. When I started writing I was in shock because the writing came out of nowhere. For the first time in my life I had to make decisions about me as a person. I had to believe in myself before this could happen.
For you it might be something different but the key word here is believing in yourself. Get involved. If your life needs a change - change it. Do not wait until it is too late. You will be smiling on the inside and your friends and co-workers will notice the difference in your attitude towards life. Your root will definitely blossom.
I hope you enjoyed my article. Please feel free to read my other articles.
Copyright 2006 Linda Meckler
Linda is the author of the adventure, “Ghost Kids Trilogy.” This is three complete books in one book. Christy, 12 and her Brother Brad, 16 moves into an old house on top of a mountain and meet two Ghost Kids.
Become involved with all the characters and all the adventure and mystery.
Then we have Uncle Charlie who is trapped in a magical blue vase. He is the villain of the story who wants Christy and Brad to do him a favor.
Take a walk with Christy and Brad down a dark hall hunting for Pirates” Treasure, you will think were you there right there with them. Love, Family Values and Charity burst off the pages. Check out my website http://www.lmeckler.com
If you have hand, or wrist pain check out my website for Love My Hand Pad.
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I wrote an article called FEEDING OUR CARS and somebody put a comment on this article. I will share with you that comment.
I said that feeding our cars since the price per gallon of gasoline is so high it is taking food out of our children’s mouths.
The person that commented on my article wrote - we should not take food out of our children’s mouths but we should stop buying junk food.
This remark has stayed with me every since the comment was written and I just realized why.
We are backwards here. In so many homes junk food is the norm and healthy normal food is the enemy.
How did this happen?
The truth is that junk food costs are substantially higher than a nice home cooked meal - yet our kids won’t eat it and many times not our spouses.
There are many battles around the dinner table when the mother can’t get her husband to eat vegetables let alone the kids. The kids take their cues from you the parent.
In my own case my husband complained every time I served certain vegetables and to this day my daughter is an extremely fussy eater.
This is a huge problem that faces society and families as a whole today everyday over every battle - breakfast - lunch - dinner and - a snack.
The family unit has gone to WAR when it comes to nutritious, wholesome food. The mom has to daily win a battle one meal at a time.
It is so much easier to throw up our hands and say if this is what they want to eat why should I even cook? The atmosphere in my house is much more relaxed and my stress level will diminish.
It is one of these complex issues that go along with FEEDING OUR CARS that the poor working people have to somehow master.
On the television program HONEY WE ARE KILLING THE KIDS no true r word were every spoken. We can learn a lot from that program. Every parent and child should watch it together.
Today diabetes, heart disease and obesity are taking over our children’s lives and they need us the wise parents to direct them before it is too late.
Moms and dads we are at war with television, commercials, schools, movies, magazines friend’s homes, and everyday living. We love our children. We must protect them from themselves.
Thank you for reading my article. Please feel free to read all my articles.
Copyright 2006 Linda Meckler
Linda is the author of, "Ghost Kids Trilogy," Christy, 12 and her Brother Brad, 16 moves into an old house on top of a mountain and meet two Ghost Kids. Become involved with all the characters and all the adventure and mystery.
Then we have a mysterious, magical Blue Vase where Uncle Charlie the villain is trapped. He wants out of the Blue Vase and exchange he will tell Christy and Brad where Pirates’ Treasure is Hidden.
Take a walk with Christy and Brad down a dark hall hunting for Pirates' Treasure. You will think were you there right there with them. Love, Family Values and Charity burst off the pages. Check out my website http://www.lmeckler.com
If you are bed or wheelchair confined or can't bend to sit on a toilet you must check out on my website, "Instant Bladder Relief Urinal (IBRU)" http://www.lmeckler.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Linda_Meckler
I wrote an article called FEEDING OUR CARS and somebody put a comment on this article. I will share with you that comment.
I said that feeding our cars since the price per gallon of gasoline is so high it is taking food out of our children’s mouths.
The person that commented on my article wrote - we should not take food out of our children’s mouths but we should stop buying junk food.
This remark has stayed with me every since the comment was written and I just realized why.
We are backwards here. In so many homes junk food is the norm and healthy normal food is the enemy.
How did this happen?
The truth is that junk food costs are substantially higher than a nice home cooked meal - yet our kids won’t eat it and many times not our spouses.
There are many battles around the dinner table when the mother can’t get her husband to eat vegetables let alone the kids. The kids take their cues from you the parent.
In my own case my husband complained every time I served certain vegetables and to this day my daughter is an extremely fussy eater.
This is a huge problem that faces society and families as a whole today everyday over every battle - breakfast - lunch - dinner and - a snack.
The family unit has gone to WAR when it comes to nutritious, wholesome food. The mom has to daily win a battle one meal at a time.
It is so much easier to throw up our hands and say if this is what they want to eat why should I even cook? The atmosphere in my house is much more relaxed and my stress level will diminish.
It is one of these complex issues that go along with FEEDING OUR CARS that the poor working people have to somehow master.
On the television program HONEY WE ARE KILLING THE KIDS no true r word were every spoken. We can learn a lot from that program. Every parent and child should watch it together.
Today diabetes, heart disease and obesity are taking over our children’s lives and they need us the wise parents to direct them before it is too late.
Moms and dads we are at war with television, commercials, schools, movies, magazines friend’s homes, and everyday living. We love our children. We must protect them from themselves.
Thank you for reading my article. Please feel free to read all my articles.
Copyright 2006 Linda Meckler
Linda is the author of, "Ghost Kids Trilogy," Christy, 12 and her Brother Brad, 16 moves into an old house on top of a mountain and meet two Ghost Kids. Become involved with all the characters and all the adventure and mystery.
Then we have a mysterious, magical Blue Vase where Uncle Charlie the villain is trapped. He wants out of the Blue Vase and exchange he will tell Christy and Brad where Pirates’ Treasure is Hidden.
Take a walk with Christy and Brad down a dark hall hunting for Pirates' Treasure. You will think were you there right there with them. Love, Family Values and Charity burst off the pages. Check out my website http://www.lmeckler.com
If you are bed or wheelchair confined or can't bend to sit on a toilet you must check out on my website, "Instant Bladder Relief Urinal (IBRU)" http://www.lmeckler.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Linda_Meckler
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