Cheaters Everybody thinks they can spot a player a mile away. Of course a player has certain characteristics, right? Wandering eyes, standoffish, secret cell phones, last minute secret rendezvous. If only it were that easy.
Unfortunately, we live in a society where people aspire to be players, even though we desperately want to believe that our partners will be faithful. That's why it's important to know some traits and sneaky signals that are common in players. Now, I'm not suggesting you automatically end your relationship if your partner cheats, but I do think that these signs of infidelity can be a warning of things to come.
#1: Doesn't Pay Bills On Time
Some research shows that carelessness is part of a layers trait called "low consciousness," which is a marker for infidelity. Makes sense. A guy who's careless about his own responsibilities is going to be just as careless about his relationships.
#2: A Do-Gooder
What? One who contributes personal time to local foundations, the church, and the alumni association, plus volunteers to build houses for the homeless. How could a person like that give into the temptation of midnight motel rooms? Simple when there's a blurred line between right and wrong, the person in question becomes the worst cheater. Actually the ones who think of themselves as having the highest moral standards. Why? Because these people justify their wrongdoings with explanations that they weren't doing anything wrong at all. Simply put, not following the Monogamy Rules makes it hard for the Do-Gooder to live in his skin.
3: Rolling In Dough
People who earn more money are more likely to cheat than those who earn less. It's not because they have more income to open new credit cards, carry more cash, or even spend more coins on mistress gifts. Some researchers theorize that those with lower salaries are more dependent on others in a relationship - are less likely to risk ruining the relationship.
#4: A Yeller
While yelling and anger may not seem connected to cheating it is known in these circles unfaithful partners show many of the same personality characteristics as abusive ones. Those who are more likely to be abusive (verbally or physically) are simply more likely to be unfaithful. What's already bad has the potential of getting even worse.
#5: A Mirror Hog
One of the single biggest traits of a player is-surprise, surprise-narcissism. These self-loving folks are so wrapped up in their own self-importance that they don't even consider the effect that their cheating has on the other person. So what if I stray and have the occasional one-nightstand? I deserve to be happy. Have you seen these guns, baby! And, yes, this works both ways. Men and women as well can narcissists and thus equally as guilty of the proverbial one nightstand and perceiving that they are doing their mate a favor..
If you know any other symptoms and signs of your mate being a player Please add your thoughts to this important discussion.