Sometimes you'll touch a girl lightly on the shoulder, and she'll turn and face you completely, ignoring all other guys in the place. Other times she'll pull back as if you were trying to infuse her with a lethal dose of cooties.

The problem with all the tricks and techniques you can learn is that they likely won't have much effect if you don't have the proper mindset. And the proper mindset is anything but a trick. It is nothing more than a solid, healthy, and realistic self-image.

When most guys approach a girl at a bar or other social occasion, they implicitly give her power of them. If she accepts their advances, they feel fantastic. If she rejects them, they feel lousy and depressed. A string of rejections can be the toughest thing for any normal guy to deal with.

The simple way around this is to develop a healthy, realistic self-image. See yourself as somebody that is valuable, regardless of what others think of you. Learn to give yourself what you think you need from others.

If this sounds a bit to new agey, ask anybody you know that has mad success with girls. They'll likely tell you that they are so successful because they don't really care if she likes them or not. If she likes them, cool. If she doesn't, no big deal.  Move on to the next one.

The best way to develop this is to start approaching people from a standpoint of curiosity. Curious about their likes, dislikes, personality, life goals and anything else you can think of. When approaching an attractive woman, get curious about her personality. Will it be a match for yours? Is it interesting? Does she have any interesting stories to tell?

You'll find that when you began to demand more from the women you allow in your life than just their good looks, you'll find that the rest of your social skills will explode with skill and power. Your charisma will skyrocket, and your personal magnetism will attract all that you desire.

Be careful, though, some can take this idea too far. A high self image coupled with a lack of respect or appreciation of others can be deadly. It's one thing to appreciate yourself and others on the same level, it's quite another to think the world of yourself, and view all others as mere playthings. Because this mindset is so powerful, be careful you don't be tempted.

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