INNER CHILD:
We all have an "inner child" that has nothing to do with how old we actually are. We all carry at least some painful baggage in our emotional backpacks; a fair portion comes directly from the treatment we received (or didn't receive) as a young, impressionable child. It can take us half of our lives to overcome it.
Some never do; they cling so tightly to the "victim" or "poor me" mode, and cling to feeling pretty sorry for themselves; other times, the pain is swept "under the rug" or we "stuff" it; eventually there comes to be a short circuit between our heart, our brain and our ability to love ourselves and others.
We all deal with pain in our own way. The problem with sweeping or stuffing, is that scar tissue builds up, and we act out, in many ways; addictions of all kinds; self destructive, self condemning or self sabotaging behavior & thoughts; perhaps also self hate.
We just didn't get enough love in our childhood to give us the start we needed. What can change that? Commitment and conscious effort daily to stay focused on SELF LOVE, positive thoughts and goals.
Childhood is rough enough, from the taunting some get from other children; if there wasn't a stable, loving home to come home to, the pain is worse and can fester for years to come; if there is emotional, physical or sexual abuse inflicted on children in the home, it can leave mental scars that require professional treatment.
The bottom line to healing is love (self love) and forgiveness; If those caretakers or other children knew better, they would have done better; if we put ourselves in their shoes, going over their life experiences, for all we know we would have reacted to others in the same way; does that excuse their bad behavior? No...however, it is a fact that child abuse and family violence is a vicious cycle that is passed down from generation to generation until someone says: 'NO MORE".
Awareness is half the battle won; we still have to win the war. Once we realize (brain gets connected to the heart) that we were hurt and we WANT to heal, we can recover, and find that joyful space in our heart that says, I CHOOSE to be whole. Choosing is the first step.
If we are lucky enough to heal childhood trauma BEFORE age 28, our soul is not wounded; if we cannot heal it, our pain is a wound our soul will get many other opportunities to heal. In cases of severe abuse, it is usually between the ages of 43 and 45 that we have the mental maturity to be able to look at, forgive and heal the abuse and finally go about the business of our true purpose here on planet earth.
Life can begin at 40, but if we do not heal during that period, our life will continue to give painful opportunities to wake up and heal; Unfortunate are those souls who leave this earth in their 70's or 80's as bitter, unhappy people, who never experienced or allowed themselves to see the beauty in this world; and who never knew more than a fleeting bit of happiness. For some, the pain is so great, they leave at a much earlier age (by their own hand) as bitter and unhappy as those who live much longer.
INNER CHILD
Inside each one of us, sometimes buried real deep,,,
Is a little child and love is what it seeks.
The happier the child, the easier is the adult part,
In fulfilling its purpose and walking "a path of heart".
There are many wounded, the scars are unseen and deep,
They build walls around them and wind up as though asleep.
They do not know or were not taught how to love themselves
because of that, they never learned how to play like a little elf.
Happiness eludes them, crises after crises in the life each day,
Before they know it they have lost their way.
Alcohol and drugs begin to call,, saying "I will help you forget it all".
By grace they awaken, learn to forgive and answer the call...
Of the Soul's purpose to live in light and know love is the great lesson.
Declaring "Divine Order" will keep us out of a therapy session.
We are a spark of Divinity from a loving Creator,
Among our gifts, we are given the free will to say: "oh later"!
We make the choice to be happy and live a happy life,
Most of us do not want to play games, or live in stress and strife.
No one said it would be easy, but growth can happen fast
When we learn to open our heart, we know love that will last.
When we discover our inner child, and learn to care for him or her,
We begin to know and fulfill our life's purpose, that's for sure!
"Love One Another" was a mighty decree, it begins when you love,
First yourself, then all others, oh how the Angels will dance up above!
Infill with light and love each day, and know you play an important part,,,
In walking with the rest of us,,,, on a Path with Heart~
©Patricia Lite Hickman ©10/10/2006
There are three ways that people handle adversity in their lives. Some rise above their past and perceived abuses real or imagined and soar like a beautiful eagle, or they are crushed by the smallest event and it is turned into a drama of Orwellian proportions, or they grow old and use thier history, thier lists as a crutch and prod everyone and everything in a grand snit that lasts a lifetime. You can hear it in the language and the choice of words that they use.
The child is always trying to manifest, depending on which buttons are pressed. Emotional stability is a sigh of maturity, and the child can still come out and play.
Elizabeth