A detailed definition of a contemporary consensual slave.
What is a Slave?
A question came up on an email list to which I belong regarding whether or not I define myself as a slave. The querrent who asked the question did so, not in a confrontational manner, but in a way that did set my teeth on edge. Specifically, they were questioning their own definition of slave and commented that if someone were looking for "a fawning submissive who never doubted the dominant" that person wouldn't be looking for them.
I quite agree. If your definition of slave is a mindless twit who acts without thought and never questions what they are told, then I will never fit your definition. My definition of slave is somewhat different, perhaps even different than the majority of the Leather Community.
I see slavery as a deeper form of submission. Like many Dom's I don't want, or need, a sub or slave who is as you put it "a mindless twit"; I want one who, when called on for an opinion, can not only give one but can give good reasons for her opinion. It is my feeling that SUBS ARE NOT DOORMATS they are strong, confident people who because of character traits choose this method of expressing their love for that special someone. As one sub I talked to said "you cannot exchange what you don't have" an abused person has no power to exchange.
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Regards
Jon