It was a picture whereas the children were making all the decisions what the family needed rather than the parents were.

Now this was not a picture of "white" children doing it. However, it was a photo of a "Young Hispanic Family". These unruly, most likely spoiled children were dictating to their parents what they wanted rather than what they need.

I live in Illinois. At the Public Aid Office where one goes to file for any kind of medical or financial assistance or food stamps, on any one given day, most of the people are either of one of two ethic or racial groups: Hispanic or Afro-American. Only rarely does one see a White un-married teenager down there filing for Public Assistance.

Some of the unwed Hispanic or Afro-American teenage mothers have one or two children and one in the oven, so to speak. These are young girls. These are children having children.

The baby's father is no where around. These girls have no choice but to file for Public Assistance for five years of their adult life.

The Welfare Reform Act of 1994 made sure that welfare recipients could not and would not be able to stay on any form of welfare, i,e, financial assistance, medicaid, or food stamps, accept for a five years.

This gives the recipient enough time to take care of her child for the first three years, and the last two is suppose to be spent actively looking for training, education, and getting off the welfare roll.

The New American Family they say is the children telling the parents what they think the family needs and the parents go out and buy what the children tell their parents to get.

That is scary, and this is due to the very reason that there is a decay in moral society and whereas, divorce is at an all time sky-rocketing high.

Nine of ten marriages end up in divorce over three different reasons:
1. Finances
2. Lack of communications between spouses
3. In-laws interferring within the marriage.
4. Adultery. (according to vital statistics as a paralegal researcher, more men commit adulery on their wives than wives commit on their husbands).

This is not to say that wives are not cheating on their husbands, but women are just more faithful and understand the nature of commitment than men are.

It is a regretfully that the economic has caused both mother and father to have to take on a job just to make ends meet. It is more of a tragedy when children become "latch-key" children and have no one to go to when they get home from school.

They need the parental supervision of atleast one parent being present in the home at all times!

Parents is the Anti-Drug and Anti-Gang for their children, and with one parent at home when their children get home, this is most likely not happen.

Parents are given care, custody, and control of their children and not the other way around.

I am a firm believer if a mother and father spoils their children as children. When those same children grow up to be adults they will be just as spoiled and want everything given to them. This time it is worse.

Materialism does not take the place of precious time a mother and father should spend with their children.

It is this "qualilty" time that creates last memories in children's minds. They can look back at it and say "when I was a child, I can remember the time when my mom, dad, and everyone played "Old Maid " together, or went to The Zoo together or we went camping together.

It is not so much the quanity time in which the parents spend time with their children but the quality of time.

It is the parents that nuture their children and teach them everything they know. Not the other way around.

This New American Family is coming about because of Child Protective Services and the fact that the mother and father are afraid to discipline their children.

Take in mind, discipline is needed to correct a child. I am not talking about physical abuse. I am talking about spanking the child one good time and make him/her realize that you are in authority and not the child.

What is needed is Tough Love. Love and discipline balanced together is very effective. A child will always respond to love.

Parents remember "words hit hard than any fist will ever hurt your child".

What children don't realize is what they need and what they want is two different things.

Needs are basic things in life, i,e, shelter, clothes, health care, food, and education.

Wants is everything else that is not basic and is materialistic.

Parents need to get control of their children again. Get involve with their children's lives and know who their children are seeing and hanging out with.

They need to ask questions about their children's friends and so forth. They need to set guidelines.

If a parent can not get control of their children, than I say this, "Go to Juevnile Court, and ask the Court to take care, custody, and control of the child, and reliquish your parental rights up to the child.

It may very well save your marriage and your sanity. Afterall, marriage comes before children, accept in today's society where children seem to be born before marriage.

The is Tough Love programs out there whereas, a couple has taken Effective Parenting course and it is proven they have raised highly effective children and all well balanced with love and discipline.

The children of these parents are respectful and responsible as well. They are well-mannered and know how to live by the rules set forth in society.

This growing trend is scary.

It does not have to happen if parents will only get control of their children, learn to communicate with their spouses, and learn not spoil their children and spare not the rod of correction.

Think about it. Do you want this to happen to your family or to you.