"Every woman that hears my audio-book says to me,
'You sure hit the nail on the head about the ultimate secret of women.'"

The ultimate secret of women is "Girls just wanna have fun." Yes, just like the Cindi Lauper song. Though love, respect, and security are in the first three positions on the list (something men usually know), men don't know about the fourth, hence the secret.

Since fun is what they want, the man has to become
the director of fun. And the good part is that he himself doesn't have to be a fun or exciting guy, he just has to take the girl to fun and exciting
places.

Being the director of fun has a great advantage. The director gets to have the fun of planning the event, the fun watching his date enjoy the event, and the fun of enjoying the actual event. So he has three times more fun than the woman. And most of the time the event will be something that he wants to do anyway.

If you doubt the seriousness of this idea, just ask Joe DiMaggio how he felt when Marilyn Monroe divorced him after nine months of marriage because, in his friend's words, "How could I tell him his ex-wife became his ex because she found him dull."

One thing's for sure, it's easier to be a James Bond
type by taking your girl to exciting places and giving
her memorable experiences than to outfight villains to entertain her.