Loving Well, The Key To Satisfying and Joyful Relationships (Book) - 4/28/2018 8:15:46 PM
I learned a lot while reading this book. The book is va all valuable road to a healthy relating and such easy read I will recomened this book to all my friends.
Loving Well, The Key To Satisfying and Joyful Relationships (Book) - 1/11/2018 11:40:40 AM
Erin Leonard’s book Loving Well: The Key to Satisfying and Joyful Relationships is a profound
read. Her writing has clarity, succinctness, and wisdom. I can’t tell you how much I learned from reading this slim book just filled with explanations and answers about the perils of love when attached to a person who can’t really attach!
Author Leonard writes, “Love is blind, and the price is high. The sensitive and compassionate get stuck with the detached and selfish. The emotionally evolved marry the emotionally unevolved, and the mismatch in emotional compatibility causes distance and pain in the relationship.”
The book explains that often a person who is unable to attach in a healthy way presents as powerful, confident, and capable. Yet, this is a facade that, unfortunately, often attracts quite sensitive people who can think about others as well as themselves. The emotionally unavailable one will almost gaslight the sensitive one through shaming, blaming, and dismantling identity into thinking the problems in relating are not theirs but the other. The author points out that the “unevolved person will minimize their taking responsibility for what they bring to the relationship, having a tendency to not just excuse their actions, but, as well, claiming their partner is oversensitive and that what transpired was blown out of proportion.” In a nutshell, unevolved people will not take responsibility for their actions and they project their issues onto others.
The message of the book reminds: “The words “I love you” mean nothing unless you can back it up.” Indeed, two people in a relationship absolutely deserve to know they are loved, respected, valued, and cherished with these dynamic, alive energies flowing to and fro which will allow each person to love deeply, selflessly, maturely, and sincerely. Indeed, Leonard asserts, “Cherish and love empathically and you will be loved deeply in return.”
The book reminds the reader that “narcissism, vanity, and arrogance are destructive tendencies that promote egocentrism and pathology.” How normalizing to read that “It’s ok to be self-critical, self-evaluative, and humble." Yet, Author Leonard believes too often too many people condemn these tendencies. “You think too much,” or “You over analyze,” are criticism frequently assigned to being self-reflective. Yet it is the self-reflective people in the world who are insightful and make efforts to be a better person. Looking in the mirror is a courageous and tough thing to do, and for some reason,” as the author reminds, it is under-valued.
The book is a valuable road map to healthy relating and such an easy yet profound read. I whole-heartedly endorse this book!
How To Be A Parent Your Child Wants To Talk To (Article) - 12/20/2017 7:35:25 AM
Seems to be pasted from a website without being edited.
Otherwise, contains great information about how to empathize with one's children so they will not become less communicative with their parents.
I agree. I believe the worst thing that a parent can do is constantly step in and "protect" their child. Not allowing their child to learn and grow with encouragement, but rather to teach your children the bad habit of holding in their feelings and letting their parents deal with any problem they have.
Ron
