Delusional/Emotional Behavior (Article) - 5/23/2019 12:09:34 PM
I find it hard to deal with delusional people. I'm sure that is very difficult for mental care professionals as well.
Ron
Emotional Residue (Article) - 11/22/2018 8:47:51 AM
Once again, some very good advice based on scientific findings. Especially during the holiday season when families get together an old bugaboos raise their ugly head again, triggering negative thoughts.
Ron
Emotional Residue (Article) - 6/4/2018 2:02:18 PM
My partner is a wonderful person, very generous and outgoing. But she suffers from a syndrome similar to this where she can't let go of remembrances and continually brings them up when they have no longer any validity with what we are doing.
I will show her your article. Thanks.
Ron
We Have Two Brains (Article) - 6/4/2018 8:53:10 AM
Thanks for promoting this information. It becomes more and more important as the studies are published. Thanks.
We Have Two Brains (Article) - 3/5/2018 7:43:57 AM
Now I know why bacon makes me happy in the morning and the way to a man's heart is through his stomach.
My rehab physician told me that the anus is as smart as a chemist. Can tell the difference between solid, liquid and gas.
Ron
Motivation (Article) - 2/26/2018 7:25:40 AM
Certainly, in marriage relationships, one spouse may agree to something and then resent the other spouse later. But this is not healthy. It's why scripture tells husbands to "dwell with your wives in knowledge." A grimace or other gesture should be recognized as evidence that the thing agreed to was not the best idea or the agreement made under duress.
As for terrorists and other belligerents, it's also true that believing a lie is a choice. Most of us do know disbelieve what is true due to ignorance. We disbelieve the truth or choose to believe a lie because we have a personal stake in the matter. That may be simply an unwillingness to admit to ourselves and others that we've been wrong. The longer a lie is embraced, the more difficult it seems to be to release it.
Motivation (Article) - 2/22/2018 9:34:39 AM
Some interesting anecdotes about what motivates us to do what we do. Throughout my life, I have found that I don't ever just, "go along with the program." I always think about my decisions and would never do anything that would affect others. It is really sad to see those people who get addicted to various things and then managed to hide it by affecting others.
I just hired a pleasing woman who had struggled with a weight problem. She solved it by having surgery and now has a good figure but a problem with the excess skin and self-image that she hasn't yet come to grips with. She still has a food addiction because she has been secretly eating my food without asking. We have confronted her with it, but she doesn't want to acknowledge that she has, covering up by bringing food and offering it to us… The unhealthy kind of snacks that lead to food addiction and that we don't eat normally.
Ron
SAFETY MEASURES (Article) - 12/14/2017 10:51:35 AM
You are very right. Notoriety is sometimes better than fame when it comes to someone becoming well-known, followed by acceptance by the general public as a famous person.
It is obvious that Eisenhower (war hero), Ronald Reagan (movie star), and Donald Trump (New York celebrity and TV star) were all elected by their popularity and not their political savvy.
I recently read that psychologically that about 70% of the people acknowledge and become loyal to whoever is in power. That tends to give a majority to people who are in power already when it comes to electing someone to replace them.
I guess that I have to do something drastic and get in the national news so that I can sell my books or pay somebody to plaster advertising with my picture all over the place so that I become famous by appearance, like so many other authors. ;-)
Ron
What are People Saying? (Article) - 12/1/2017 10:40:51 AM
One that advised for couples in trouble.
Ron
war (Article) - 10/16/2017 9:33:14 AM
Interesting concepts, although some seem repetitive. When war is between individuals, war is most often called a fight. When war is between families war is most often called a feud. It usually requires two nations or nationstate to call the fight a war.
Should it be? "A contest of rulers' egos who control entire populations by inventing an anger to satisfy their wounded egos."
Ron
IS IT COMMUNICATION? (Article) - 9/26/2017 7:09:51 AM
As usual a great article on why we don't communicate well. The one item you didn't mention was age. I have found that aging intentionally to "hardening of values" and a kind of close-mindedness that seems to inhabit the older population always complaining about the younger and unable to communicate with them.
I do have trouble communicating with young people these days who seem intent on checking their smart devices every five minutes for their fix rather than spend time with me in simple conversation.
Ron
Procrastination (Article) - 6/21/2017 5:41:16 AM
Very good advice. You make me recall a boss that always waited to do a major project on the last day before it was due, forcing us to come in and work long after working hours to get it finished. Fortunately, we had a good team and usually pulled off the report or presentation quite well under the "last-minute," rule.
From an early age I not only organized my day, but my life, very well. For example, I planned from college very early, saved my money, and went through college with only a small debt during my Masters degree studies that I paid within six months of graduating. Severely disabled at 20, I planned (using Program Evaluation and Review Technique-PERT) my doctoral program and completed it in 2 1/2 years. Planning for my retirement allows me a comfortable retirement while paying three people to take care of me in my home.
In retirement, I still try to do things right away, but I find that with my daily routines I tend to forget to do things until they are imminent, and sometimes, past due.
Ron
WHO LIES? (Article) - 6/2/2017 8:18:22 AM
Your font size is too small to be able to read your message, It would help a lot if you used a larger size font.
WHO LIES? (Article) - 5/24/2017 4:31:30 AM
I remember that article. You have reinforced what I read by this fine article. It is rather strange that higher IQ people lie more. It may be because they find early on that they are sometimes ridiculed for being a "know it all," so they use lying rather than telling the truth to avoid being singled out as the only person who actually knows the truth in a group setting. Going along to get along.
I like the example of the goose that lies. I find myself being truthful with authors here because I don't need to lie to them to curry their favor. As a result, some are angry with me. It's a trait I've had all my life because of my self-confidence which is always been quite high regardless of what others say or do.
When I wrote the true story of my adventures with my cousin who died at 57 from a very eventful life (lying was one of his skills), his younger sisters were upset and accused me of lying. Fortunately, my mother backed me up on some of the facts that they had wrong like an older half-brother that died in infancy that they actually thought was their mother's child.
Ron
We Have Two Brains (Article) - 5/3/2017 6:07:21 AM
I was once told that the unmentionable part of our body was the smartest. It is the only organ that can tell the difference between a gas, liquid and solid. Practically has a degree in chemistry. Talk about neurotransmitters…
Ron
Adult Grade School Behavior (Article) - 1/27/2017 6:40:27 AM
A very cool conclusion. I like it. I would like to see your analysis of the grade school behavior of our elected president in the greatest country in the world, the United States of America.
Disclaimer: I'm not saying that our country, with all of its flaws, is the greatest because I'm patriotically unrealistic. I'm saying that because of my travels to other countries and my experience with many immigrants and students from other countries. Invariably, they are the ones who feel that the United States is the best place to live in the world, not me.
Ron
Unsaid remarks (Article) - 10/21/2016 10:55:47 AM
You certainly have pointed out the problem when people conflict over issues like this. I have that problem in my family and with someone who works for me. She does very good work, but her attitude on many things is very strange, or even hostile.
You're right about the candidates. I am voting for one because of what that would do for the country, not because I like that candidate. Both have sure aspects that I greatly dislike. For one, I wish we had younger, more open-minded candidates. The
Ron
Power Stories (Article) - 10/5/2016 6:58:56 AM
Wise words for those in need.
Ron
Response to Security (Article) - 9/20/2016 8:45:18 AM
I have nothing against dogs. Your points are well taken. I don't know if I said it in my last response but I believe what FDR said still holds true. "What we have to fear is fear itself."
I believe we have a rather unnatural fear in this country largely because of the rapid reporting of anything bad happening and its emphasis in the media to get higher ratings. We all seem attracted to the bad. Hence, most of our fears. While the biggest concern aside from global warming is really the growing schism between the rich and the poor worldwide, the public's attention seems focused on personal and national security. A kind of Orwellian malaise. And, if we get right down to it, most violence and terrorism is caused by people with mental illness.
Now, find a dog that could discern a person with a violent mental illness. That would be something. Unfortunately, these people live among us and are tolerated by most until they suddenly act in an uncharacteristic way and then we want to spend big money on security to protect ourselves from all of these people that we like to consider "different." In some cases, whole countries like Mexico. Meanwhile, we don't worry about Canadians.
Ron
American Security with dogs (Article) - 9/19/2016 4:52:10 AM
I think we must be careful not to overreact to the latest news. The bombings that occurred on Sunday are not earth shattering. The only attack claimed by ISIS was the stabbings that occurred in a Minnesota mall. The problem is a psychological one that huge expenditures in defense mechanisms will not thwart. Thousands of guards hired to protect the president at the United Nations this week.
There is no major war going on in the United States. Just a lot of fear. We've had bombings before. Most notably, the Unabomber, a disgruntled physicist, living the lifestyle that many Americans (recently reported to be 2 million a year) have turned to, in fear of something awful to come. If reality TV can be believed, these people have a very hard time living "free" with their guns off the land that they have carved out of, usually government, territory. They all seem to be "surviving" with a strong umbilical cord to the rest of society, and in some cases from heavy TV residuals.
Dogs have been long used as a deterrent against criminals and attacks of all kinds. While some dogs are very good at finding drugs, money, and explosives, I don't believe that all dogs can be trained to do this. And, training these dogs would be very expensive. Still, it's a good idea. Making dogs vicious is a bad idea. If we look at the statistics of how many people are maimed and, in some cases, killed by dogs every year, I think it would far exceed these few incidents of stupid hatred bombing. We should not trade hatred for hatred. It doesn't work.
Ron
2016 Candidate Race (Article) - 9/15/2016 6:13:15 AM
An interesting analogy. But, somewhere along the line, political insiders found that attack and derogatory information solidifies attitudes and captures voters minds. Thus, all the good stuff that is proposed pales in importance compared with the bad stuff.
And you are so right about the media. Since their ratings depend on viewership and bad information always gets more viewers than good information, they are like hawks swooping down on every candidate misstep and past mistake and then analyzing them to death.
All that said, I don't find either candidate physically or mentally qualified for the rigorously difficult balancing act that is the presidency. Neither one is providing solutions to our most serious problems, and these are problems that are not getting the grease. But, as a nation, we will survive in spite of bad presidents. We always have in the past and probably will in the future.
Ron
Candidates (Article) - 8/28/2016 6:34:40 AM
What a wonderful request that I think we all wish for. And, like you so well pointed out, it's an old story. Unfortunately, we usually have to wait for the inauguration or the State of the Union message before we hear any real forward thinking concrete plans.
Apparently, political analysts have found that mudslinging and attacking your opponent's apparent weaknesses works. That's what seemed to happen during the Republican primaries.
It's really too bad that people think that the President has so much power to change things. What we need is a good person as our country's figurehead for four years who has good advisors with good ideas that they can present to the Congress for passage. With brow bashing, money, and political insiders, that doesn't seem to be easily possible these days.
Ron
Women are Adults (Article) - 8/15/2016 12:33:35 PM
This article is timeless. As a man, I would want a woman like you describe to join me in life. I'm attracted to strong women. To me, a subservient woman that I required to be at my side at all times would be a drag on my mind and hers.
And, any man that would want to subjugate a woman to be “his” like a possession rather than a person in her own right is abhorrent to me. And worse, anyone that would be abusive.
Ron
Women are Adults (Article) - 8/15/2016 12:04:32 AM
None of us can know why a woman accepts the unacceptable. From my meager understanding, it may stem from being browbeaten and frightened. It may be she feels there are no other options. I've always been a firm believer in education. Education offers a woman more options in the world so she can foster her own independence and not have to knuckle under to anyone.
Best wishes to those women who've taken that first step to venture into the unknown on their terms.
Anger Management (Article) - 8/10/2016 4:47:53 AM
Great advice. But I think that those caught up in sudden bursts of anger would seem to find it hard to follow. It seems that I have been surrounded by people with fits of anger much of my life. I am very slow to anger, but I do when I get too frustrated, sometimes over things that are just misunderstood.
Ron
Hear My Cry1 (Poetry) - 1/4/2013 9:05:11 AM
Thanks for your taking the time. Thanks
