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A Mother's Cry For Help: Nicholas And Nichole's Story (By Their Mom, Greta E. Wagner) by Karen Lynn Vidra, The Texas Tornado
Saturday, September 18, 2004
Rated "G" by the Author.
A woman living in Arizona shares her story with another adoptive parent. She heard about Louisiana Sandusky and her Miracle Family from an article she had read, and she wanted to write to her, to tell her about their two children, who were adopted from Korea.
Saturday, September 18, 2004, 1:20 p.m.~
Dear Ms. Sandusky:
My name is Greta E. Wagner, and I am an adoptive parent and single mother. I have a son from my husband (we have since divorced), and I have recently adopted two children (a boy and a littler girl) from Korea. We live in Mesa, Arizona.
I read an article in a magazine about you and your family, and I must say that you have a lot of kids! HOW in the world do you find time to do ANYTHING?? GEEZ, I would be going nuts! LOL But yet you seem to have a grasp on things, and you seem to have a very rich and rewarding life; and the love you have for your children is very satisfying to see!
When I read your article, I decided to write to you because maybe you can help me. I have had my Korean children for just a few months, and their English is still limited. I do not speak Korean, and I don't know anybody that does. Do you know where I can pick up a Korean-English dictionary? And do you know of a support group for parents with adopted children, particularly those from Korea? Any assistance or advice from you would be most helpful! My two children both came from South Korea, near Seoul. Where did your Korean children come from (KOREA, I KNOW, but WHERE? North or South? Was just curious!)? Did they have any trouble learning English, and did they have any problems adjusting? My boy Nicholas (he's four) has adjusted pretty well, but his English skills are still lacking, and Nichole, the younger one, is but a few years old, so her talking is limited anyway; but she doesn't seem to understand me whenever I try to talk to her. She looks at me with a frightened expression in her eyes, and it just breaks my heart! I am at a loss at what to do to help both Nicholas and Nichole, and I feel so alone!
Adoption is still a new concept for me, and as long as I have waited for my kids, you would think that I would be happy and thrilled to death to know that they are finally here, in my home, but the truth of the matter is this: I am scared to death! I don't know what to do at times, and I don't know what to do with my older son, Peter! He is six, but he seems so jealous of his new little brother and sister because it seems that I have been spending a lot of my extra time with them, trying to help them adjust, and trying to get them used to life here, and he seem so angry at times! He says he hates the babies (as he calls Nichole and Nicholas, even though they are but two and four years younger than he), and it stabs me right in the gut whenever he says this! He has tried to hit them on more than one occasion, and I am scared that he is going to hurt them one of these days!
Any help you can give me would be much appreciated! I know you are busy with your own life, but I am a desperate mother in need of any helpful advice, and I am at my wit's end! Please help me!
~With kindest regards,
Sincerely yours,
Greta Elaine Wagner, Mesa, Arizona (mother to three, two adopted, one natural-born).
P.S.: The reason I put a dog on this letter to you is because I love dogs; but where I live, we can't have any. Still, I wish I could! The dog in the picture looked similar to the one I had as a child, but she was killed by a car. I still cry whenever I think of her! Her name was "Daisy", and she was my closest friend and companion!
Let this coming of age story of a boy named Bean take you back to a simple time. Set in a small southern town in the 1960's, encircled by a river and gleaming white cotton fields.
Let this coming of age story of a boy named Bean take you back to a simple time. Set in a small southern town in the 1960's, encircled by a river and gleaming white cotton fields.
Saturday, September 18, 2004, 1:20 p.m.~
