I don't know if I can handle this much longer ...

Every day it seems I cry with frustration.  No matter what I try to do for my boys, it is never good enough.  They still manage to ruin every day that goes by, and they don't even seem to care.

I have two sons, ages 11 and 8, who are autistic.  Both attend a school for children with developmental disabilites, but I don't really see it doing any good.  They usually end up getting in trouble, and more than once, the teacher has called us to take them home because they couldn't deal with their impulsive and irratic behavior.

When Padriac and O'Shea were diagnosed with autism at the age of three years, it was as though our world came crashing down, and it continues to do so to this very day.  Both are demanding, difficult, and would rather do what they want than to even bother to listen to us. 

We have tried everything to get them to mind, and nothing seems to work.  They are as wild now as they have ever been.

Our house is a wreck. Each time I or Clifford (my husband) tries to straighten it, Padriac and/or O'Shea pull everything back out again, and the house ends up as messy as before we tried to fix it.  We are embarrassed to have company because of how the boys behave, and we are sure they think we must be terrible parents because we cannot seem to get a grip on their actions.

The last straw came last week.  Clifford's boss came for dinner.  That dinner was ruined when O'Shea peed on the floor, right in front of everybody, screaming his fool head off.  He was as naked as a baby bird.  Then Paddy threw up his oatmeal.  Needless to say, Clifford's boss and his wife ended up leaving earlier than expected.  

Ever since, we are at wit's end with the boys.  We don't know whether to continue raising them or have them placed into a home for severely disabled children because we can no longer deal with their autisticness, and the mounting stress we are facing is unbelievable!

What do we do?  Any suggestions or answers is greatly appreciated!!