This is indeed a question that could have puzzled William Shakespeare, and it has certainly crossed the minds of most parents and employers alike. Conflict is inevitable for every boss and every parent. Though we must always keep our emotions in check, we must also try not to take things too seriously. Bear in mind that occasional disagreement is not the end of the world: in fact, it is healthy and normal, and if guided properly, it may result in a learning situation.
Logic, a cool head, common sense, and a hefty dose of humor go a long way in resolving conflict at work and at home. The goal is to maintain civility and respect for all parties involved, so that you encourage communication.
An extreme to being an unapproachable parent, is prematurely trying to be your child’s friend. Too many parents are so concerned with their children liking them that they shy away from giving clear instructions or enforcing rules which all children want and need.
Think about how this plays out in a typical office environment. A boss who is so eager for all his employees to like him will rob himself of his ability to lead and will soon lose their respect. Before long, all the workers are doing whatever they want and chaos ensues.
It is OK not to be liked sometimes. Not being respected is never acceptable, and trading respect for popularity is always a losing proposition.
The same goes with our kids. Every child is born wanting to please his parents. You do not have to win your child’s approval, but you can never risk losing his respect. Even a grumpy teenager wants your love whether she admits it or not. So stick to the rules you have carefully established for your family, keep a good sense of humor, and don’t forget to tell them that you love them.
This is my opinion. It worked for me and it can work for you. You just have to try it!
About Chris Efessiou: Chris Efessiou is an entrepreneur, business leader, educator, mentor, international speaker, and best-selling author of CDO Chief Daddy Officer: The Business of Fatherhood based on his own experience from raising his daughter as a single dad by applying his business knowledge to the business of parenting. Connect with Chris on Facebook follow onTwitter and visit his website www.ChrisEfessiou.com
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