The shaking and the feelings in her body were a tremendous shuddering.
Mary called it a “body quake” and for minutes it went on, waves and waves of it sweeping over her body, she had one orgasm after another but not only from down there but waves which moved up to the top of her head and down to her toes making her entire body convulse.
And the feelings which came with those convulsions were intense.
She could almost see, remembering things from her body’s point of view. Scenes of loving making and sex in her past flashing before her, no being relived in her body; the anticipation first, the eye contact with her lover, and then the sudden intrusion of it, always a shock, it was always a shock to Jenny, no matter what her expectation, the shock of it always overwhelmed her, filled her with a mix of feelings ranging from an initial resistance, and a gradual acceptance, a decision if she would, if her body would allow this to continue or would her body reject the intruder, close her legs, tighten up and push the intruder out entirely.
In some cases there was a gradual acceptance, the body starting to be willing to participate in the invasion, rather than reject it, cease to protect itself enough to allow the love-making to continue, indeed participate and allow it.
It was always her head and her body conversing, one talking to the other, her head telling her body sometimes, “let go, let go,” her body saying ‘no, no, I am not sure this is love or loving,” and sometimes, it hurt.
Jenny remembered those times too, and so did her body.
She cried out once and her lover thought it was passion, she reacted with shock and her lover thought she was having an orgasm; she always had such mixed feelings, after, her body sometimes feeling that it had been under attack and was glad that it was over, yet her body was also wanting to feel everything, feel it inside, like the books said she should.
Yet when it was over, in the so-called “after-glow”, she was both energized and relieved it was over, but, her partner was most often already half asleep.
These body memories, flooded through Jenny’s body and it felt like her body itself, in the thrashing, was acting out the ambivalence it, her body, felt.
Yes, her body, seemed in that bidet to have its own separate reactions to the sex in her past and it was ambivalent about it, liked it, but wanted more out of it that it got; was afraid of it but wanted to get beyond being merely afraid and it wanted to release the pent up tensions Jenny knew were there.
She decided on that day to let her body thrash, take control and do want ever it wanted to and she would concentrate on silencing her mind, getting it out of the way.
That day she would let her body express itself; and it did.
Don was not sure of what was being said. Roberto, his guide, spoke softly again.
“After you finish sex do you feel drowsy and often go to sleep?”
Don thought about it for a while and answered “I guess-doesn’t everyone?
“Yes Roberto said, “it is very common for men to feel that way, and become so drowsy, they indeed, go to sleep. We think it may related to the desire, of many female mammals and even birds populations and part of the evolutionary process.”
"Huh?" Don said.
“Well some females in bird and mammal populations often mate with more than one partner. They are seeking the best possible genes for their offspring.
Further, we think that dominant male aspect is a response to this and a dominant male pattern arose in some species as a result. In the dominant male pattern dominant males want to restrict mating to just themselves, and often engage in combat with other suitors for female attentions and to restrict mating to themselves. That can be harmful to the population as a whole, too much inbreeding.”
“To be clear often males becoming somnambulant after, makes it easier for females to mate with other, often younger males. This practice has been in place for millennia.”
“So Don said you mean women often hunger after younger men exactly the same way older men hunger after younger females?”
“Not all, but many.” Roberto said. “That is why, we think romance, has gained such an important role in Western societies. Each partner is seeking to keep the other interested.”
“Now Robert said let’s focus on you. What is your way of pleasing your partner?
“Huh?” Don said.
“Pleasing?”
“Yes pleasing, what you do to help your partner feel satisfied sexually and loved?” Roberto elaborated.
Don was silent for a moment. “Well I guess I do all the regular things, flowers, attention, presents, good sex, all of it.”
“Well what are the sexually pleasing things you do?”
“What specifically?” Roberto persisted.
“Well I…” Don started.
“I want you to take me through the specifics of what you do sexually, especially when you are making love,” Don said.
“Well,” Don said “I usually start with a kiss and fondling I guess; I like kissing her neck and kissing her breasts. That turns me on.”
“What next.” Roberto promoted.
“Well that gets me going and then I feel myself getting aroused and I want to get close, you know, move closer until contact is made.”
“Contact?” Roberto queried.
“Well yes, until there is that moment of, you know penetration.” Don said.
“How much time has elapsed,” Roberto said “between the inception until you just have to be inside her?”
“Don’t know, ”Don said, “pretty fast, because I always feel this urgency, I get pretty horny, and before I know it I am, you know, pounding away.”
“Pounding away?” Roberto repeated.
“Let’s concentrate on that for a moment. Take me through the pounding part.”
“Really?” Don said,
“Really." Roberto said.
“Well.” Don said “once I get excited it is all I can to contain myself and I may start slow, but when I hear and feel her response my excitement levels escalate and I find myself wanting to go deeper and harder, pounding away, hearing her response, brings on new responses from me, until I finish, you know, come.”
Roberto sat silent for a moment. “And when you release where do you feel it? What are you thinking of at that moment? What are the feelings and the thoughts in your head and in your body? Tell me about that specific moment.”
“Pounding, pounding means what?” Roberto continued.
“I am wanting to go deep I am wanting to make her feel, make her release like I am going to do, I am thinking about how I am making her feel."
“The pounding,” Roberto said, “concentrate on the pounding.”
“Well the pounding rises and gets faster and faster. I am sometimes thinking that the more I pound, the more likely she is to finish with me. So I pound, faster and faster.”
“So what happens?” Roberto asked?
“Well sometimes she finishes, I think, sometimes she almost gets there, sometimes there is nothing. But it is too late for me. I keep on going and usually I finish.”
“Ok,” Roberto said, “now I want you to think about much slower, not pounding.
Pounding in many women causes very sensitive capillaries inside to rupture minutely and there is less feeling, not more as a result. You may sense that and pound and pound away, and in doing so help create less and less feeling in very sensitive tissues there.”
"Pounding can make some females feel loved and indeed may be sexually satisfying. But for many that is not the case."
“Think about that until our next session and, secondarily, do not leave today thinking that your “finishing” is the end of it.
"The idea is not to “make” your partner finish; the idea is sometimes it is better to surrender to your partner, no pounding in that scenario. Pounding has a place but not at the beginning of love making.” We find that surrender will often move you to the next level of sexual satisfaction. We talk later about that."
Finally, think about how you can work together with your partner such that both of you come away satisfied. You won’t fall asleep after and she won’t feel you have neglected her and just satisfied yourself.”
Don began to think about it going back over it in his head the sexual encounters in his past.
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