Would you like to take ten years off your appearance, reduce your risk of heart disease, and simultaneously divorce-proof your marriage? Are you plagued by stress-filled days and sleepless nights? Do you long for a more satisfying relationship to your spouse? Then this is the book for you. It outlines a simple but Scriptural strategy for blessing your husband that, when faithfully applied, will secure blessings beyond measure for yourself, as well. Isn't it time you embraced God's purpose for passion in marriage? Isn't it time you began to unconditionally love your husband . . . and love yourself?
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"Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones." Proverbs 16:24
I've always trusted Windex to give my mirrors and glass a spotless, streak-free shine, but did you know it also makes a terrific spot cleaner for carpets? My grandmother taught me that trick. Use blue Windex, not green or pink, and try it yourself. It will lift just about any stain except ballpoint pen (for that, you need hairspray).
In the movie My Big Fat Greek Wedding, the father of the bride was a firm believer in the powers of Windex, as well. He found uses for that little squirt bottle far beyond routine household cleaning. Burn your finger? Grab the Windex. Get a bug bite? Try some Windex. Spot a pimple? Have more Windex!
His daughter considered this just another of her father's quirks and remained skeptical, but his future son-in-law embraced the idea that Windex isn't just for windows. When the time finally arrived to exchange vows, guess whose face was blemish-free?
Many a wife thinks that sex is only for special occasions. The very stars of heaven must align for her to consent to it. Wait until the kitchen is clean and the bills are paid and the paper's read and her nails are dry and the kids are asleep and she's in the mood... then she'll consider it.
Other wives realize that sex makes any occasion special. Not only that, but sex is good for what ails you. Are you stressed? Blue? Sick? Tired? Anxious? Out-of- sorts? Sex can help you feel better in a hurry. And the effect is not just in our heads.
Scientific studies have shown that frequent sex reduces stress, boosts immunity, fights depression, lowers blood pressure, and alleviates pain. It builds muscle, strengthens bone, improves cognition, and sharpens your sense of smell. It protects against stroke and decreases the risk of heart disease, cancer, and a host of other illnesses. These are real, documented, measurable effects--not mere anecdotal accounts. The list is so long that just reciting it makes me feel like a snake-oil salesman, so let's look at the data . . .
Professional Reviews
Excellent, Gentle Approach for Christian Marriages
Love Your Husband, Love Yourself by Jennifer Flanders is a book that I have been reading for several weeks now! I am a fast reader, but this is not a crash-course in marriage that you can get through in a weekend. What a beautiful, in-depth study of God's design for marriage this book is! Written from a conservative Christian perspective, I must admit that I was more than a little surprised when I realized that fully the first half of the book deals with the physical relationship between a husband and wife. In the author's own words, this is not a "How-To" book, but a "Why-to" book. In a very discreet and modest way, fully becoming of a lady, Flanders not only shares the Biblical mandate for a wife to meet her husband's physical needs but also discusses scientific evidence (and shares personal stories) that shows the advantages of a wife meeting those needs on a regular basis. Want to know a way to look 10 years younger? Need some natural relief from anxiety, diabetes, heart disease, etc? I'll give you a hint: There's a compelling discussion about all this in the first half of this book, along with a fully scientific and well-researched (but very readable) explanation of how it all works!
The second half of the book deals with the non-physical relationship between a husband and his wife. I just finished reading Created to Be His Helpmeet by Debi Pearl a couple of months before beginning this book and since both books are an examination of a wife's Biblical role in marriage, I couldn't help but compare the two books in my mind. Now, I really like Debi Pearl's book and I have witnessed changes in marriages that can be described as nothing short of miraculous as a result of the wife reading Created To Be His Helpmeet. However, Jennifer Flanders approaches the whole topic in a much gentler way. Both women are direct and even discuss some of the same principles, but I found Flanders' approach to be softer. I also noticed that the examples that Debi Pearl uses generally come from her experience in counseling women and tend to be extreme-case-scenarios, whereas the examples in Love Your Husband, Love Yourself are usually taken directly from her own life. As such they are more like my life and so I could relate better to her stories. Overall, Two Thumbs Up for Love Your Husband, Love Yourself! I will definitely be reading this one again!
Excellent Book
I have just finished reading Love Your Husband, Love Yourself by Jennifer Flanders. This was an excellent, amazing book. I could not put it down. This is one of the most candid, honest, beautiful books on marriage I have ever read. I appreciated her willingness to lay everything out with such honesty. I was absolutely fascinated by the research showing the links between the marriage relationship and health. This is the most in-depth book I have read on the subject of Christian sexual intimacy. The book is also chock full of Scriptures on marriage and intimacy. It was so refreshing to read a wonderful, Christian book on sexual intimacy within the marriage relationship.
This book also includes chapters on letting your husband lead in your marriage, building up your husband, watching your husband grow, celebrating your differences, fostering friendship with your spouse, controlling your tongue, and forgiving and forgetting. All the chapters were a true blessing to me and, I believe, will be a help to me in my marriage. I felt like I was chatting with a friend while reading this book as it has an easy, down-to-earth tone and feel to it.
The book also includes a rich bibliography, and now I have many more books on my "to-read" list that delve even deeper into the subjects mentioned!
Thank you, Jennifer Flanders, for writing this book. It was a blessing to me. I recommend this book to all Christian wives, as I'm sure it will be a blessing to you as well!
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