Lilian Gafni guides couples step by step on how to take control of their relationship and how to create the marriage they hoped it would be. She shows how to eliminate false expectations, misconceptions and illusions about marriage. Filled with inspirational exercises, genealogical charts, and including a marriage contract a couple can draft on their own as a commitment to their love for each other. This companion book teaches couples how to avoid trouble spots, to rekindle love and passion in the marriage, and to set a foundation for trust between the partners. Gafni also provides lists of tips for avoiding antagonizing communication for each spouse, stressing the importance of compassionate interaction between partners. Happiness in the marriage brings self-growth as each partner learns to rise above conflicts and become self-actualized as well as being able to reach goals in life.