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Memoir
Publisher: Meghan McDonnell
Type: Non-Fiction
Pages: 184
Copyright: Dec 18, 2015
ISBN-13: 9781310004810
Price: $0.99 (eBook)
Revelations abound as the journals continue.
Limbo is the third installment of the personal journals in which, for over 20 years, writer Meghan McDonnell has chronicled her life beginning at age eight through present day. With searing candor and tenderness, her musings on daily life and observations of family, social and romantic relationships coalesce in a commentary on challenges, facing down passion and fear, and American life in the 21st century. Wide in scope and vivid in detail, her journals are her confessional love letter to the world. Join her on a fearless, vulnerable, sometimes painful and quixotic, but always honest journey, also known as the human experience. Readers who love Cheryl Strayed or Karl Ove Knausgaard will enjoy this author.
Volume three of this addictive and vicarious series spans her search for identity, grappling with life choices and heart ache, and plans for travel to Europe.
Excerpt
Introduction
The Journals of Meghan McDonnell are a project I’ve been pursuing for almost three decades, since I was 8 years old. I’m publishing each journal in chronological installments as my love letter to human beings because I know others crave story and mutual identification as much as I do. I find daily life so extraordinary that I feel compelled to record it constantly. I keep journals consistently with passion. Within the pages are the hours and years I’ve spent writing what I thought was significant. The content contains the specific and the universal.
In our culture, we often ignore, suppress, or deny who we are on the inside. Let my words be a balm to you; to liberate, to unmask, and to loosen the binds. I write what I can’t speak aloud. I write what I wish is true and what I fear is true. I want to share these volumes because I believe they say something familiar, unexpected, resonant, and true. Let them be sanctuary to thaw the freeze you may feel when faced with your own selfhood amid what this crazy world demands of you. In writing, I have yielded to thoughts and emotions that have insisted on my attention. I have chosen to share them in candor and empathy in hopes that you will feel less alone. Writing is my way of saying, “This matters,” which really means, “We all matter.” I tend to the intimate, the secret, what resists being spoken. I say, “Speak it, share it.” I absorb people and experiences, alchemize them with my internal life, and pour it back out in the journals. I am not ashamed of thoughts and feelings whether they are yours or mine. In expressing myself through writing, I can unflinchingly avow: “This is who I am and this is what I do.”
All names and identifying characteristics have been changed to protect the innocent and the guilty. I have solely recorded my interpretations and opinions of all events. Certain place names have been changed. All else is as I wrote it at the time. You’ll find links to songs, books, and films throughout the text and a playlist at the end.
Volume three goes further into my development as correspondent from the trenches of daily life. Take this ride and go deep into the pages. You will discover something worthwhile and recognize yourself in the words.
Tuesday, August 24, 1999
I’m at Denny’s back in Seattle. I talked to Lucas a bit ago and I hate that it’s back to phone conversations again. I woke up feeling dread at 7:30 this morning but I had to remind myself it wasn’t last summer, pull myself up by my bootstraps, and go babysit for Sylvia all day. I got coffee from Emma. I need a steady job. I’m not getting into that again, though. Being back, it’s like I never left but thinking back on certain parts of the last ten days, it feels like I was gone a long time, especially thinking of driving by Mono Lake near dusk after seeing Bodie on our first day together. We’d been hot and thirsty in Bodie and we drove with the windows down. It was windy and beautiful out and I was content. Lucas was next to me.
He was pissed because he called three times today and I didn’t call back. I get sad when I do. I wish I could scheme up a get-rich-quick plan. Doesn’t everyone.
I thought about Yosemite earlier and it filled me with peace and happiness. I wish Lucas and I could live in a tent and climb for a few months. I can’t flip when he goes back to Redlands. I’m trying to get used to it to the point where I can relax about it. Last night, Lucas told me I remind him of his brother because we both have strong minds and we get ourselves worked up over our thoughts. I feel strange, like life is lucid and open and I get to determine things, like I have to take shit by the horns. It’s getting to be my newly dreaded time of year: fall. I’m picking Skyler up from the airport tomorrow and driving her to Bellingham. I wonder how and when I’m getting to LA.
I picked up Into Thin Air by Jon Krakauer. I’m intrigued by Mt. Everest. I’ve been thinking about drawing and painting. I don’t know where to begin when I get a colorful tool in my hand. I’ll be taking care of Sylvia for the next week. I’m waiting for the Nara Grill to call me. Please God, don’t let me go back to the want ads. I picked up my Space Needle check today. The union sent me a bill for $65 because of my few days of work there. What bullshit. That place has been nothing but a pain in my ass. But I have to remember that the chain of events allowed me ten days with Lucas. I made him promise not to sleep with or even kiss any girls before I boarded the plane last night. I wish I didn’t do that shit but it was good to hear him promise. I’m paranoid. I wish he sounded more secure about it. He straight out said (a few times) how lame it is to be with other girls but he sounded like there is a certain allure to it. I don’t get it. I hate it when people say that: “I don’t get it.” It’s clueless and stupid.
Emma is still seeing Dwight on random nights even though he is in a supposedly serious relationship with someone else. She’s off her rocker. Cassidy emailed yesterday and she’s at Collaroy Beach. She met a boy and she’s trying to extend her visa to spend more time with him. She’s starry-eyed: “My world’s been turned upside down.” Tom emailed from England and he’s funny as hell.
Love, Meghan
Wednesday, August 25, 1999
I’m at the Wagon Wheel again. I babysat for Sylvia all day and then picked Skyler up. We drove up here and that same strange feeling that settles over me every time did again. The sun was golden and beautiful. I get nostalgic and filled with longing, sadness, and love. It’s bittersweet misery. Sadie isn’t here and I’m bummed. She’s in Chicago with Ethan. It nauseates me to look back to two years ago. I can’t believe this place and its effects on me. I’m missing Lucas and I’m bummed at the prospect of job hunting and working for God knows how long until I have enough money to move to LA. The hip-hop tape Jeremy made for Lucas is crazy good.
Sky and I are drinking tonight. I have to get up at 6am to babysit in Seattle. It’s hard to be without Lucas again. I’m sad and loving him. The distance is still hard. It dampens my spirits. I can’t bear to think about last fall. Why do I gaze into my past and immerse myself in it? Maybe I’m curious to see how I got through things or it’s a way of escaping my present circumstances. All I know is that I love Lucas and I want to be near him. We’ve known how much distance has messed with our relationship and yet I’m still in Washington and he’s still in California. He won’t budge from Redlands and he shouldn’t but at this point, I want to be in So Cal and the only reason I can’t feasibly be there is because of money. I’m struggling with the same problems and issues that have been going on since over a year ago. I blow up at Mom every time we talk about California because I’m frustrated that I’m stuck in Seattle until I make bank. Lucas has his schoolwork and social life laid out for him at Redlands. I’m the only thing missing for him. My entire school/social/job life is in utter chaos and disarray on top of being away from Lucas.
I’ve been re-reading my journal from last summer. I wrote about how distanced and housewife-y Lucas made me feel sometimes. It grips me with a sick feeling. He wanted to hold onto me but he distanced himself in preparation for Redlands.
It frightens me that people can shut themselves off. Let’s be specific: that Lucas and I have shut ourselves off to each other because of feeling deeper pain or love. Case in point: I get reminded of, re-read, or plain think about situations from the past two years and I feel like shutting down and cutting myself off from him because the pain is fresh. I do exactly what I’m afraid of him doing.
I wish he thinks I’m beautiful and smart and amazing and talented and that no other person comes close to me in his eyes, mind, and heart. I don’t know if that’s too much to ask. I get paranoid, thinking I’m more into it than he is. I develop excruciating questions. If we’re connected and in love, if he is my true mate and he undoubtedly feels that way, how does he explain last fall through up until I got back from Australia? I have to accept that it was our first time apart and that we had to figure out if we wanted each other above anyone or anything else. Trial and error. As much as I love Bellingham, it suffocates and saddens me. Cassidy’s calling from Collaroy to fill us in on her new love so I have to get back to Skyler’s.
Love, Meghan
Friday, August 27, 1999
I’m going to Amy Thatcher’s wedding tonight and it’s the worst possible time to go to a wedding. I baby sat for Sylvia today. She’s beautiful. She surprises me with how smart she is.
I realized today that I am free. I wrap myself up in chains and bring pain and stress upon myself for no reason. It’s a choice. I’m walking on a tightrope lately. I forget that the worst enemy and war is with yourself. I’m always looking to Lucas and feeding off of him. I forget I have my own life and freedom and desires and things I love. I put myself in a cage concerning him. I love him but I have an intense fear of losing him. What do I expect when I act the way I do? I keep breaking down and flaunting my weakness and pain. I don’t want to do that. I want secrets. I want things that are just mine. There are tools for expression and I would rather get it out in those ways instead of always talking and thinking instead.
In a Deepak Chopra book I read earlier, he wrote about the importance of silence. Initially, the voices get louder but then the mind backs off and the heart or self comes in. The shit in my head seems powerful but it’s comforting to think there’s truth that’s stronger and deeper than it.
I have an image of going to a healer or a shaman and I can hear them saying, “You’ve got a lot of pain and bullshit inside you that has been eating up your spirit. We have to drive out years of nonsense you’ve chosen to build up in yourself.”
Seattle bums me out. I have no direction. I wish I could go to university in California, get excited about school, meet a tight group of friends, and enjoy myself. I had a messed up talk with Lucas yesterday. I was crying and saying ridiculous things. It scared me when he said, “You’re gonna be miserable and unhappy forever.” He wants me to write a song for him. I don’t do well on command but I have to do this for him.
I can’t stop listening to “Dramamine” by Modest Mouse. I found it at Skyler’s the other night. It’s one of those rare things lately that gets me absorbed. I can do anything in the whole fucking world. I write. I dance. I sing. I paint. I am here now. I’m not looking back or forward. I have all I need. I do all I need. Everything is open to me. Everything is waiting for me. I have the help of God, the angels, the faeries, my family, and my friends.
Everything is a dizzying, glorious dance. I am safe. I create. I choose goodness. I choose to see things how I see them. I choose to determine how I act. I choose not to be afraid anymore. I choose to smile. It’s not who or how I want to be when I get stuck or angry or defeated. I have chosen these things and now I choose to stop them and give them away. They are gone. I am free. I am not afraid. I choose my path. I am willing to accept the good that is in store for me. My energy and thoughts affect everything. I am putting calm, ease, gentleness, goodness, and progress out. I will receive these now.
I miss Lucas. I wonder if he’s part of my path and picture. I wonder if I have the strength and destiny to be with him. I have to allow what I must be. I’m tired of fighting myself. I’m tired of crying useless tears and being petty with Lucas. I need to listen to myself and feel where I need to be and what I need to be doing. I need silence and contemplation. I need to draw.
Love, Meghan
Tuesday, August 31, 1999
I’m at the Cochran’s. It’s 8am and the kids are sleeping. I talked to Lucas last night and he’s rock climbing right now. I wish I were. Last night, I went through all sorts of old papers and things I wrote in high school. I wondered why I was gazing back into that time. All the trees in this city look droopy and sad. They look unhealthy. I need to get today’s crossword. I look forward to those. I finished yesterday’s with help from my neighbor.
I went to a few places in search of work yesterday. I want to work at Poor Italian Cafe. Holly is moving to LA in a couple days and I need to talk to her about living together. I found a good apartment there on the internet yesterday. It’s going to be hard to leave my family and the people I’m close to here. It helps me understand why Lucas left Washington.
I got sad realizing I won’t be back at Western and sadder that I won’t ever experience it with Lucas again. The whole family kicked it at Amy Thatcher’s wedding reception on Friday. Amy got tossed and the rest of us got loose, too. After the wedding, I went to Cora’s and saw her, Margo, Terrence, and Drew. I talked to Drew about how I see him (Tom Waits, how Drew is one of the last few classic men, yadda yadda yadda). I talked to Michelle Glass, too. I went home at 4am and took a ferry to Vashon on Saturday. I went to an old gym with Nate and Monica. Trevor Rand’s brother and all these kids played music while Nate showed slides of his photos. We drank and went to Monica’s to go hot-tubbing and crashed at 5:30am. I took a ferry home on Sunday and had brunch at Aunt Frances’s with everyone. I want to get coffee with Emma tonight.
Lucas and I are moving back into the distance/talking on the phone/I-have-other-shit-to-do phase. I hope we don’t get stupid on each other again. Cassidy’s coming home on the 8th and I can’t wait. We’ll be hanging out. She comforts to me. She understands how I am. I can’t wait to hear about the rest of her travels. Skyler and I want to pick her up somewhere between here and LA, where Cassie is flying into.
Love, Meghan
(later on) I’m at Allegro. I got a job as a waitress and hostess at Poor Italian Café on Virginia St. in Belltown. I’m elated. I start on Thursday evening. I’ll be babysitting during the days and working at night - full time when Pam doesn’t need me to watch Sylvia anymore.
On the way here, I thought about how much things have changed with me, how I’ve progressed. It’s time to devise a vision. I know I’m going to create via writing and music. I’ve been thinking about all I wrote to Mr. Wiseman for spirituality class senior year and people’s responses to my presentation for my senior project. I feel like a female Holden Caulfield. I am honest when I want to be. I’m curious about painters, their visions. They baffle and astound me. I feel a need to contribute to my culture. I know I can get to LA. It’s scaring me because I see it can actually happen. I don’t mind that I have to work my ass off.
I talked to Lucas earlier after I took a nap. I feel a deep sense of love and confusion for him. My vision is necessary. It’s strange not to be concentrated on Lucas for my vision and mission. He’s deeply rooted in all of it and it won’t be complete without him. But a few of our problems resulted from me being too absorbed in our predicaments to the point that I left no time, energy, or space for creation and movement on my own terms.
I thought about Western today and how friendly everyone is there and walking through our beautiful campus. I didn’t immerse myself in the wonderful people and opportunities I could have gone after. I don’t regret it. Stagnancy and sadness are part of this. But I need to move. I need to write and play music and keep up my relationships with people. Lucas has seen the worst of my worse sides. I wish he hadn’t. I have questions and curiosity about us now instead of insecurity. I could be eating my words any moment. I have gifts to offer and now that I’m doing it in small degrees, I’m feeling more complete. I hope this leads to strength and acceptance between Lucas and me.
I can’t stop listening to Modest Mouse. I saw Drew and Nate. They’re part of what I’m saying my vision is. If in a year or two or 10, I’m on my own, I know I’ll be great. Somewhere I stopped taking care of and loving myself. My priorities got out of line. Everything starts and ends at how you treat yourself. I’ve had a fucked up belief that I love and care for Lucas so much that I have to be in pain and misery. That makes no sense but it strikes a chord of truth for me. He doesn’t need me to be in pain or tortured in order to show love. He needs something different from that and it’s this whole new trip I’ve been embarking on.
I want to want to run, swim, rock climb, and camp in mountains. I crave the mountains and trees. I need music. I need strings, cellos, violins, guitars. I crave painting and color and light and shadow. I crave visions, ideas, and images. I crave writing. I crave what others before me have written. I need access to these things. I need to write because it helps me make sense of and release myself. I crave structure and discipline and guidance. I need fresh air and water. I need crossword puzzles and trivia. They give me a strange satisfaction and remind me that I have a shitload more to learn. I need sleep. I need work because it gives me discipline, makes me self-sufficient and appreciative of relaxation. I crave order, organization, cleanliness but not to the point where it drives me batty. I need a relationship with God but not the God they gave me as a child. A God I can love and trust on my own terms. I need to trust and love Lucas and to realize that I have a significant role in our relationship. I need peace, calm, and joy in the midst of insane chaos. I need to know my family and dear friends and to have strong, meaningful relationships with them. I need trust, faith, and the comfort of knowing everything is as it should be. I need to go after what I want, knowing I can receive, be, and do anything. I need to give and to thank. I need to maintain and achieve. I need to keep my head up, keep my eyes on the heights.
Love, Meghan
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